Woman on train

[holidaysareoverated]

DH and I took our toddler on the train today. The train wasn't super busy but there were no free seats so we walked to the next carriage. A woman and her teenage daughter were sitting at a table for four. So we approached and asked them to move over so that we could sit in the two free seats.
The woman started sighing and eye rolling at her daughter as though we were being complete pains in the arse. I told her that she was rude and entitled and asked if she expected the train to herself. Her daughter then started saying " she only sighed, she is allowed to sigh". The woman herself remained silent and then said exasperatedly "there's so much space!", which there was in the aisles. There were no other free seats at all.
AIBU to have fantasised about spilling my coffee all over them? I can't believe she thought a pregnant woman with a toddler should stand up so that she and her daughter could have a table for four to themselves!

[fastdaytears]

Emma your question was not to me but yes, I would happily tell the conductor. You've paid for one seat and you're using two while someone else has to stand. It's staggeringly rude.

[EmmaU123]

Wayne, you wouldn't! And I'm sorry but I've got on a train many a time and have seen that the only few available seats available were those were a person is sat on an aisle seat and I've never asked them to move up! Why would I? They clearly don't want anyone to sit next to them so why should I make them feel uncomfortable?.....

[ilovesooty]

I agree. Emma the clue's in the name: public transport. You can't be a precious snowflake and decide to have two seats and refuse to let someone sit next to you.

[OttiliaVonBCup]

TBH if I ever paid attention to the aisle seat occupiers sighing or the bags on seat twats or the leg spreaders then I'll never get a seat on train.

I smile, I say "Excuse me, do you mind? " and sit down.
Any eye rolling or similar dramatic performances are wasted on me.

[holidaysareoverated]

DH asked to sit down he didn't specify in which seat so that was up to her. She didn't ask me to switch seats she told her daughter to move into the seat I was in. It was this that caused me to comment. She had already made a big commotion about us sitting at "her" table and then decided she wanted me to move. If she had just asked me I would gladly have but instead she ordered her daughter to sit in the seat I was in, again with loud sighing. It was then that I called her rude.

[loveareadingthanks]

OP, I don't think you should have commented, just done your own eye raise to your DH. and sat down. But I can see why you couldn't resist. she was a rude cow.

Emma - so is it anyone sitting next to you, you object to? Ha, good luck with that. One day you'll get such a smack off someone.

Or is it just smelly old people you object to having a seat next to you? So you don't mind smelly young people? Or old people who don't smell? Confusing...

[ToadsJustFellFromTheSky]

Would you seriously tell a heavily pregnant woman or a disabled person to stand just because you don't want to sit next to someone else?

You sound like you have issues and need some help.

[VodkaValiumLattePlease]

Yes I would, telling a conductor is a grown up thing to do. You have no right to take up two seats, unless you buy two tickets and reserve them for yourself, other then that go fuck yourself

[Cockbollocks]

Emma what would you prefer? I could go and tell the conductor or squeeze my fat smelly arse right past your face.

People like you make me sad about this world.

[cashewnutty]

Emma If you didn't move for me i would just squeeze past you, and believe me, that would be much worse for you if you are worried about space violation. My fat arse in your face. What a very entitled attitude. You have obviously never been on a rush hour train. And yes, i would ask the conductor to get you to move if you refused.

[londonrach]

Emma..i personally ask those who sit in the aisle seats if i see the window seat is empty if the seat next to them is free as i love a window seat. Tbh on the train i travel every single seat will be sat on as there are more people than seats. Those unaware and try and save the seat next to them have a rude awaking when they arrive at my station. I usually end up sitting on the floor with my book by the toilet which smells so a seat is a treat. There is also annoucement telling people to only have bottoms on seats not bags.

[StealthPolarBear]

on the trains I get if the table is down you'd have no chance of squeezing anywhere

[MoralityPlay]

OP ywnbu to ask them to move and they were rude to eye roll and sigh but I think you were very confrontational to give them the lecture. Sometimes it's better to not get so worked up about stuff even if you are in the right.

[Sparklingbrook]

I haven't travelled on a train for years and I am glad as the people on them sound horrible.

[ToadsJustFellFromTheSky]

If Emma was refusing to move so I could sit down and I couldn't squeeze past then I think I would just sit on her .

[EmmaU123]

Well I've taken up two seats for years and only once have I been asked to move, so I don't find it a problem. And yes, I've been on the tube many a time, it's a horrible, dirty place to be and thankfully now in no loner have to commute into London I'll never have t take the tube again!

[holidaysareoverated]

Emma you clearly do not commute daily. If you refused to move on a commuter train you'd have people physically move you. The trains I travel on are packed with people squashed in like sardines. Nobody would be allowed to get away with having two seats. People barely get away with having a whole seat to themselves.

As an aside I travel by train daily myself and people still barge me out of the way to get to a seat before me. I'm obviously pregnant too. I just let them get on with it and stand up. A few times I've had to spend the journey crouching down to avoid fainting. But I'm not going to stand to allow someone to have "space" or a private conversation. It's a public train not a chauffeur driven limo!

[ToadsJustFellFromTheSky]

on the trains I get if the table is down you'd have no chance of squeezing anywhere

Fine then. They can climb over her.

I wonder how Emma would react to having someone climb over her just so they can sit down.

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

And this is why on the rare occasions I travel by train i reserve a seat

[EmmaU123]

I'd actually pay to see you try and attempt that Toad:)

[StealthPolarBear]

Wow you must have had special powers to keep people away from you on the tube then

[WayneRooneysHair]

Damn right I would Emma, I'm disabled and if there's a free seat I'm using it.

[ilovesooty]

What a relief for any potential travellers exposed to your selfish behaviour, Emma.

[StealthPolarBear]

Hobnob as long as you don't reserve the window seat next to emma

[ToadsJustFellFromTheSky]

Which one Emma? Climb over you or sit on you?

I'm happy to do either .