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To not understand why people feel the need to lie about what their children really eat.

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SteamedVeg · 12/08/2015 15:36

Giving your child the odd bit of sugar doesn't make you a bad parent. If were honest we all do it, so why the need to lie about it and make those that openly admit to giving their children the odd chocolate digestive or glass of coke feel like they are damaging their childrens health in some way.

This is what my 3 dd's have had to eat today, feel free to point out where I'm going wrong.
7am Decaf cup of tea made with whole milk (no sugar)
8am Weetabix with sliced banana, table spoon of fresh blueberries with whole milk. (eldest aged 9 had 2 weetabix younger 2 had 1 weetabix, I used 1 large banana between them)
12:15pm Steamed broccoli and carrots (fresh not frozen) with left over roast chicken from last night, with a glass of water.
1:40pm An icecream picked out by each child and a bottle of water from tesco express after they scooted 1.3 miles there to buy some bell peppers to use in tonights dinner. Then 1.3 miles home again where they were given another bottle of cold water from the fridge.
Dinner will be 5:30pm and consist of chicken fajitas (No oil used chicken breasts diced then cooked in oven bag with 3 fresh sliced bell peppers and fresh mixed herbs and dry spices.) served with a mixed leaf salad, cherry tomatoes, celery, cucumber, spring onion, sliced radishes and red peper. Salad cream and a homemade honey mustard dressing will be in the middle of the table to help yourself to. A glass of orange juice mixed with sparkling water to drink.
Pudding is fresh fruit salad made from strawberries, raspberries, blueberries, blackberries, kiwi, water melon and nectarine. (No sugar, juice or cream will be added.)

They have also had blackcurrent squash today.

OP posts:

ShipShapeAhoy · 12/08/2015 15:38

Well done? Confused


Feline9 · 12/08/2015 15:39

Because people get a kick out of food snobbery and telling others they only give their kids hand knitted granola or some crap. Petty one upmanship.


MrsTerryPratchett · 12/08/2015 15:40

But some children aren't keen on sugar, especially in drinks. DD turns her nose up at juice, squash and all that crap. Not good parenting, just her taste. She drinks water. I know lots of children that choose water or milk.


CarlaJones · 12/08/2015 15:42

What you've given your dc sounds great. What did the person who criticised it say?


mikado1 · 12/08/2015 15:42

Yum to all of the above!


Zeitgeistic · 12/08/2015 15:42

Nobody I know IRL does this. Are there really people out there that think a chocolate digestive = bad parent?


ReginaFelangi · 12/08/2015 15:43

I don't think the odd treat is common. It seems to be a barrage of treats every day that posters comment on.

Your menu looks great (although chicken twice).


Onecurrantbun · 12/08/2015 15:43

Vividly remember one of the mums at a birthday party we attended - "I don`t know if (3 year old DD) will eat the crisps, she's never had crisps before" as said child bellows "Yippee, Quavers!!!!" and rips into the packet with surprising expertise.... Grin


Ekkwhine · 12/08/2015 15:44

Mine had cornflakes for breakfast, a banana and a satsuma later on, some Philadelphia and tomato sandwiches for lunch and a bag of crisps after.

They've drank mainly milk today, though had some squash when we came back from the shop. They walked, though we went for my cigarettes not bell peppers Confused

Dinner is pasta and something. They're currently having "independent play" which is actually code for "do what the fuck you like whilst I hide in the garden having a sneaky fag and pretend to check the rabbit."

All sorts of wrong on so many levels there. You win, you're an amazing parent.



Jedi1 · 12/08/2015 15:45

I don't really get your point - has someone said something I you about your children's diet?


MrsTerryPratchett · 12/08/2015 15:45

I'd rather be your kid, Ekk. Less bell peppers.


temperato · 12/08/2015 15:47

If you often encounter people lying about what their children eat OP perhaps it's because you go on and on about how much fruit and veg yours have eaten?

Yes your children's diet sounds amazing, well done


Fishwives · 12/08/2015 15:47

Are you looking for a pat on the head, OP? Because, unless you're responding to a violent attack on your children's ice-cream eating, I have no idea what can have prompted this outpouring.

And why on earth are you specifying exactly 1.3 miles scooted, and the fact that you cooked chicken without oil, AND that the salad dressing is on the side, not on the salad, and the lack of sugar/cream on the fruit salad?

You sound very uptight about food, under some kind of veiled diatribe about sugar and honesty...?


CantWorkItOut22 · 12/08/2015 15:47

Don't understand your post. You're asking why people lie about giving their children sugar then list a really nutritious days food. Did you want to be pulled up on the ice cream or something?


LaurieMarlow · 12/08/2015 15:47

Don't understand the specific aibu. Who has lied?


MintJulip · 12/08/2015 15:49

I am not getting point either, was expecting weetabix - with spoons of sugar, or bla with added - sugar, but nothing.


IHaveBrilloHair · 12/08/2015 15:49

Dd has eaten a yum yum which my friend brought round and that's it, I'm making thaigreen curry with veg and cashew nuts (cobbled together with bits and bobs that need using), for dinner.
I expect the pack of chocolate biscuits will disappear into her room later and she'll ask for money for Irn bru which is fine, she's 13.


Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 12/08/2015 15:49

Independent play Grin


SnapesCapes · 12/08/2015 15:50

DS1 had a treat day with DH today while DS2 went to nursery. The had pick and mix and fizzy pop each at the cinema and a KFC for lunch.

He's gone off on holiday with MIL now to Wales for a few days and I daresay he'll eat more crap there. I'm at the point where I know and understand that a few days of junk aren't going to make him obese, and that health/fitness is a long-term investment.


Ekkwhine · 12/08/2015 15:51

We might have the odd bell pepper Mrs, I like to call our summer holidays diet spontaneous. They're very active children. Between the garden, ponies, dogs and currently only having one car we do move around on foot quite a lot.

Just looked in the cupboard and fridge and dinner will be pasta, pesto and some ripe (limp) veg followed by strawberries, blackberries and icecream. It'll do.


Caprinihahahaha · 12/08/2015 15:52

I have a feeling that people almost inevitably think they have eaten less than they actually have so I'm guessing people underestimate how much their children eat too.
I'm not sure people intentionally lie. I suspect people don't like to admit if their child has a day full of shite food but full on lying - not sure.

Dd baked cakes today and ate three off them immediately. And DS2 had crisps for lunch. In fairness it's the first time he has ever eaten crisps (he is 18 with SN) so I was delighted. Grin


Ekkwhine · 12/08/2015 15:53

Sounds so much better than unsupervised doesn't it sally BlushWink


blondiebonce · 12/08/2015 15:54

IME, it's people like you who make parents a bit more paranoid about discussing it. Don't worry about comparing and analysing.

Jeez just sit back and eat a bloody biscuit.


SteamedVeg · 12/08/2015 15:55

It was the ice cream on the bench outside tesco express that was criticised by 2 random women walking past with their own dc, who happened to comment loud enough for me to hear, "that it's mother like her that are causing the obesity crisis." I know even people whos dc are slightly over weight never admit but mine are definetly not. I know this is medically correct as middle dd isn't growing at expected rate and after my request to gp she was referred to pediatrician, where all 3 dd where measured and weighed to see if they could work out the norm for our family. Dd 1 25th percentile for height and 20th for weight, dd2 5th height 3rd weight, dd3 (aged 2yrs 11 months) 25th height 25th weight.

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Fishwives · 12/08/2015 15:58

And did you follow them down the street and tell them all this? Because no one here has raised an eyebrow at what your offspring eat.

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