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To not understand why people feel the need to lie about what their children really eat.

113 replies

SteamedVeg · 12/08/2015 15:36

Giving your child the odd bit of sugar doesn't make you a bad parent. If were honest we all do it, so why the need to lie about it and make those that openly admit to giving their children the odd chocolate digestive or glass of coke feel like they are damaging their childrens health in some way.

This is what my 3 dd's have had to eat today, feel free to point out where I'm going wrong.
7am Decaf cup of tea made with whole milk (no sugar)
8am Weetabix with sliced banana, table spoon of fresh blueberries with whole milk. (eldest aged 9 had 2 weetabix younger 2 had 1 weetabix, I used 1 large banana between them)
12:15pm Steamed broccoli and carrots (fresh not frozen) with left over roast chicken from last night, with a glass of water.
1:40pm An icecream picked out by each child and a bottle of water from tesco express after they scooted 1.3 miles there to buy some bell peppers to use in tonights dinner. Then 1.3 miles home again where they were given another bottle of cold water from the fridge.
Dinner will be 5:30pm and consist of chicken fajitas (No oil used chicken breasts diced then cooked in oven bag with 3 fresh sliced bell peppers and fresh mixed herbs and dry spices.) served with a mixed leaf salad, cherry tomatoes, celery, cucumber, spring onion, sliced radishes and red peper. Salad cream and a homemade honey mustard dressing will be in the middle of the table to help yourself to. A glass of orange juice mixed with sparkling water to drink.
Pudding is fresh fruit salad made from strawberries, raspberries, blueberries, blackberries, kiwi, water melon and nectarine. (No sugar, juice or cream will be added.)

They have also had blackcurrent squash today.

OP posts:
SteamedVeg · 12/08/2015 16:29

Will look into decaf thank you.
dd2 was a 10lb 7.5oz baby so was on the 98th centile for the first 8 months or so then started to go down the centiles a bit to much for me, but now i know what the problem is I'm sure she'll be where she needs to be soon enough. For the record I'm not looking for praise just don't see why people passing by have to be so rude, dd2 who is aged 6 is sensitive about her size already (although its because shes small) and comments like this don't help.

OP posts:
Ilovecrapcrafts · 12/08/2015 16:32

"Mothers like her causing the obesity crisis"

Yeah, that happened OP Hmm

PuntasticUsername · 12/08/2015 16:33

Op, in the nicest possible way, do you feel you might have any anxiety issues around food?

You seem quite focused and knowledgeable about every aspect of your DCs' diet, weight and growth, and unusually concerned about what others think of it.

MintJulip · 12/08/2015 16:35

Perhaps I should confess they had honey cheerios for breakfast!

Mine always have and like weetabix.

Howver in the hols I buy selection packs and let them choose.

Charis1 · 12/08/2015 16:36

feel free to point out where I'm going wrong.

7am Decaf cup of tea made with whole milk Confused

glass of water. Confused

another bottle of cold water from the fridge ConfusedConfused

a bottle of water from tesco express ConfusedConfused

A glass of orange juice mixed with sparkling water to drink.
Pudding is fresh fruit salad made from strawberries, raspberries
blueberries, blackberries, kiwi, water melon and nectarineConfused

can't be bothered to copy and paste any more, but seeing as you asked for my opinion, yes far too much sugar. I would worry far more about the fruit than the icecream.

And too much water, and children shouldn't be drinking bottled water.

Why is the tea decaf?

BeyondTheWall · 12/08/2015 16:37

My youngest ds (3) has had

Porridge with toffee sauce
Nondecaf tea with sugar, 2 custard creams and a bourbon

Pate roll with wotsits

2 bags of pic n mix

Pork chop with salad

storminabuttercup · 12/08/2015 16:37

I came on to say my friend does this and will say that her DS has never eaten x y and z when I know he does but it seems like that's not what the Fred is about.

I can't get worked up about the odd freezer meal etc.

I was once judged as DS was eating something I can't remember what on the way to school, wasn't 'breakfast food' could have been a scotch egg Hmm

MintJulip · 12/08/2015 16:37

sighing you have the right idea but its hard to ignore sometimes isnt it!

SamBlackCrow · 12/08/2015 16:37

Ds2 (nearly 4) had had a packet of crisps and one rasher of bacon today. I am a winner at parenting, clearly.

bettyberry · 12/08/2015 16:37

My boy once kicked up a fuss over a happy meal and demanded sushi! Grin he has a silly sweet tooth though and will add sugar to plain milk so I have to hide the sugar. His teeth are quite bad and it took me ages to realise he was sneaking downstairs in the night for milk and 5 teaspoons of sugar. Have to alarm his door now for his own sake because I have hearing loss in one ear and don't always here him :(

Thankful for dieticians and a great dentist although I feel terrible he has caps on his teeth. But I've been told its down to his sensory seeking. ugh :(

BeyondTheWall · 12/08/2015 16:38

(That was a white roll too)

ThatBloodyWoman · 12/08/2015 16:38

Because its not always a lie?
My dc's love veg and drink water quite happily.
We don't buy pop in our shopping.
They do eat unhealthy stuff,but I get fed up of being treated like I'm a liar when I tell the truth about what healthy stuff they do like.
I was totally mocked on one thread for daring to say that my 9 year old likes nettle tea.
They also like chard,brussels and spinach and I make no apology to anyone.

Whatthefucknameisntalreadytake · 12/08/2015 16:38

What's the difference between a bell pepper and a normal pepper? Should I be eating more bell peppers?

BrieAndChilli · 12/08/2015 16:39

Well in the last 24 hours my 3 (and7 other kids) have eaten
Pompon bear crisps, mini bear biscuits and a mini chocolate cupcake with chocolate teddy bear on
Strawberries
Some sweets out of a selection of haribo/frutella/flumps/chocolate coins (from a piñata, the rest they put in party bags )
Sausages, pasta salad with pesto, sun dried tomatoes and peppers, cheese, bread and butter, tomatoes, lettuce and cucumber
Chocolate cake
Toasted marshmallows and chocolate digestives to make smores
Weetabix or cornflakes with strawberries and banana
Sausages, eggs and bread and butter,
More sweets
Cheese and pickle sandwiches and grapes.

CrystalMcPistol · 12/08/2015 16:39

Americans call them bell peppers.

BeyondTheWall · 12/08/2015 16:39

Samblack Grin

Oh yeah, i forgot - he also helped himself to 1/2 a rasher of streaky bacon and some scrambled egg from my brunch

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/08/2015 16:40

Sam Nutella toast this morning here. Grin With nectarines and milk for guilt-alleviation!

OP, you do seem a little obsessed but possible because of the growth issue. The whole 'no oil' thing... You know kids can have a decent amount of fat, right? They need it.

bettyberry · 12/08/2015 16:41

storminabuttercup I sometimes eat soup for breakfast! Not breakfast food but I do love to point out it has far more nutrients that coco pops :p

WorraLiberty · 12/08/2015 16:41

"Mothers like her causing the obesity crisis"

Oh get to fuck now OP

Really ffs...

Titsalinabumsquash · 12/08/2015 16:41

You should see what they feed my DS in hospital, it would make some parents weep.

ThatBloodyWoman · 12/08/2015 16:42

I just read your post Magical Grin

thornrose · 12/08/2015 16:42

I can't imagine ever wanting to list my child's food diary on the internet. Especially not MN! Grin

Someone will ALWAYS come on and say "too many carbs" "not enough carbs" "instead of strawberries, which are full of naturally occurring sugar, why not offer a rice cake with half a teaspoon of honey from a remote mountain tribe in the fucking Himalayas"

And breathe......

insanityscatching · 12/08/2015 16:42

Dd (12) has had two of the fairy cakes I made today. She didn't get up until lunchtime and refused breakfast/lunch. I've made shepherd's pie and veg for dinner, she said she'd rather starve than eat it so she will probably have beans or egg on toast. I offer, she eats as much or as little as she wants tbh I don't normally discuss her eating habits or anyone else's and don't know anyone who does tbh.

Heathcliff27 · 12/08/2015 16:43

I sometimes eat last night pizza/kebab for breakfast and the kids share it

Whatthefucknameisntalreadytake · 12/08/2015 16:44

Ah thanks Crystal, I shall relax re my pepper consumption :)