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To not understand why people feel the need to lie about what their children really eat.

113 replies

SteamedVeg · 12/08/2015 15:36

Giving your child the odd bit of sugar doesn't make you a bad parent. If were honest we all do it, so why the need to lie about it and make those that openly admit to giving their children the odd chocolate digestive or glass of coke feel like they are damaging their childrens health in some way.

This is what my 3 dd's have had to eat today, feel free to point out where I'm going wrong.
7am Decaf cup of tea made with whole milk (no sugar)
8am Weetabix with sliced banana, table spoon of fresh blueberries with whole milk. (eldest aged 9 had 2 weetabix younger 2 had 1 weetabix, I used 1 large banana between them)
12:15pm Steamed broccoli and carrots (fresh not frozen) with left over roast chicken from last night, with a glass of water.
1:40pm An icecream picked out by each child and a bottle of water from tesco express after they scooted 1.3 miles there to buy some bell peppers to use in tonights dinner. Then 1.3 miles home again where they were given another bottle of cold water from the fridge.
Dinner will be 5:30pm and consist of chicken fajitas (No oil used chicken breasts diced then cooked in oven bag with 3 fresh sliced bell peppers and fresh mixed herbs and dry spices.) served with a mixed leaf salad, cherry tomatoes, celery, cucumber, spring onion, sliced radishes and red peper. Salad cream and a homemade honey mustard dressing will be in the middle of the table to help yourself to. A glass of orange juice mixed with sparkling water to drink.
Pudding is fresh fruit salad made from strawberries, raspberries, blueberries, blackberries, kiwi, water melon and nectarine. (No sugar, juice or cream will be added.)

They have also had blackcurrent squash today.

OP posts:
MrsTerryPratchett · 12/08/2015 16:45

Pizza is just a deconstructed, hot cheese and tomato sandwich. It's practically health food.

KatelynB · 12/08/2015 16:47

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Fuckup · 12/08/2015 16:50

Your dcs diet doesn't sound bad at all though, maybe people feel the need to lie because they let their kids eat shitly for lack of time, money and for an easy life me ,for example today my dd had today:

9am: coco pops and semi skimed milk with squash, then a yogurt.

12pm: cheese on toast

3pm (post swimming and playground): 2 mini doughnuts

tea (now): half jacket potato,half battered frozen cod, half tin of spaghetti hoops.

snack later:cut up apple and bread and butter.

now I know that looks shit by mn standards but to me its really not. I was brought up on a similar diet and have a bmi of 20, my dd is also in the healthy range (as assessed by her school). I know bmi isn't everything but I'm happy that my DC is healthy, so whilst I take on board criticisms I take it with a massive pinch of salt. Everyone has a different standard of healthy. I once had a mate bollock me for allowing DC cheese Confused conversely I've had bollocking off a relative for not wanting dd to have a packet of sweets every day after school.

ReginaFelangi · 12/08/2015 16:52

Pizza is just a deconstructed, hot cheese and tomato sandwich. It's practically health food.

Not really. Pizza dough contains highly calorific olive oil for a start.

Mrsfrumble · 12/08/2015 16:58

I count pizza as a healthy meal in this house. Wholemeal base, then I can blend veggies in to the tomato sauce and hide finely chopped spinach and grated carrot under the cheese. Some black olives (the only topping that my DCs will knowingly accept) and Bob's your uncle. What's wrong with that?

googoodolly · 12/08/2015 17:04

Olive oil isn't bad for you in small doses, though.

Ekkwhine · 12/08/2015 17:05

"Remote tribe in the fucking Himalayas" made me snorkle.

CarlaJones · 12/08/2015 17:07

Op said what the criticism levelled at her was in her 15.55 post

Mrsfrumble · 12/08/2015 17:09

What? Olive oil is seriously considered bad for you now? I can't keep up! I thought Regina was kidding...

Can we just go back to frying everything in lard and dripping again now?

CatthiefKeith · 12/08/2015 17:10

DD(4) still tells people that she has McDonalds for ever meal some days. This is because on the way home from holiday a few months ago we broke down. By the time we got going again she was starving, and it was late, so we got her a happy meal at mcDonalds since nothing much else was open.

The next morning (Sunday), after our 2am arrival home we got up late and dh had decided to pop out and get a McDonalds breakfast for us as there was no food in the house.

And then my parents rocked up to take her out and stopped on the way home at.....MCDONALDS!!!! Grin

Totality22 · 12/08/2015 17:10

I categorically do not give my DS any sweet treats... reason being he is awfully fussy so I am in no way prepared to supplement his godawful diet with crap.

He barely manages 2-3 of his 5 a day most days, he hates almost all carbs barring fucking bread and the bread family and he is generally a nightmare so I made the decision ages ago to never give him treats. He is allowed what he likes if he is at a party or if someone takes him out for the day but at home there are never any cakes or biscuits or crisps or ice cream.

DoJo · 12/08/2015 17:13

To not understand why people feel the need to lie about what their children really eat.

For the same reason that you felt the need to qualify almost every single item on your day's list - decaf tea with no sugar, how far your children scooted to the shops and the purpose of the visit, whether the fruit and veg you served was fresh or frozen, how you cook the chicken without oil, the fact that you used the word 'fresh' 5 times in your OP.

If you really didn't understand why people feel the need to like then surely you wouldn't have been at such pains to ensure that we were all acutely aware of how much effort you put into making sure your children are fed the things that you consider to be healthy. Of course people feel bad when others accuse them of not doing the best for their children - it's not exactly rocket science to work out why some people would rather lie than face the judgement of others, but I don't think many of us are immune to it.

Totality22 · 12/08/2015 17:14

EV Olive Oil changes composition when heated and yes its full of trans fat.... not at all healthy.

Wheredidiputthekeys · 12/08/2015 17:15

The part I am struggling to reconcile myself with is if your DDs are generally on 25th centile for height and weight, clearly they aren't in the high BMI range. This would suggest the reference to obesity clearly wasn't aimed at the children or food diary was stealthboast.

Your username suggests food issues may be at the root of this. I may hoik judgy pants at babies with squash in bottles (friend at primary school aged 6 had all her milk teeth out because of this), but actually how other people feed their kids is none of my business. How I feed mine is entirely my business, and unless they start falling off charts or failing to thrive it's no one elses business.

googoodolly · 12/08/2015 17:16

Oh FFS, olive oil in a pizza base once in a while is NOT bad for you.

hides empty Kettle Chips bag and Galaxy Caramel wrappers

MrsKoala · 12/08/2015 17:27

I thought oil was good for you. Surely we all need 'good fats'. My dc eat sugar all the time. i need it for bribery purposes. Today ds1 has had 1 cookie from Lidl, 1 chocolate finger and 1 jammy dogder. This has been a surprisingly sugar free day.

Not sure whether you were expecting some kind of pat on the back, but you must realise comments like (not frozen) and (no oil - which sounds fucking foul tbh) is a dig at those of us who may use frozen veg and Shock oil and it seems like you are putting others down to make yourself feel better.

I actually eat a low carb, low sugar, high fat diet and i think your menu is full of sugar and no where near enough fat. Having said that, i'd be happy if ds1 would eat it.

BlackeyedSusan · 12/08/2015 17:27

It is a case of eating healthily as they can without risking them going daft for sweets and stuff later in life as they had no treats when little. like I did

also with things lile weetabix, there quite a bit of difference between how much sugar is in the different brands/generics and I prefer the sugary one, annoyingly

ThatBloodyWoman · 12/08/2015 17:33

Olive oil is good for you,as is frozen veg because its frozen quickly after picking rather than be transported 85000000000000000 miles, irradiated,coated in wax,then sat on a supermarket shelf for weeks.

Tonight we have organic potatoes fresh my my garden.

ImNotCrazy · 12/08/2015 17:36

Blimey...do people really care? Today DS rejected his breakfast of frosties and milk but managed a yoghurt drink. Had a sausage roll, half a packet of crisps and a fruit shoot for lunch (must win some sort of anti-MN award for that). BBQ for tea so he'll probably just graze on salady stuff because he likes that. Usually eats better but we're staying with family and its the summer holidays so it's fine, who can be arsed to stress about it, it must be exhausting to analyse it all the time.

MummyPig24 · 12/08/2015 17:40

I've never had anyone criticise my children's diet, but I suspect no one else cares, just like I couldn't give a flying one what their kids eat.

Shreddies/coco pops, Apple/banana for breakfast.

Big two had a biscuit at holiday club, little one had a biscuit at home.

Big two were taken out for lunch by my aunt as I have a sickness bug and they had bacon baguettes and ice cream. Little one had raisins, a satsuma, a pancake and a yoghurt. Basically anything I could manage to fling his way.

Dinner was fish fingers, chips and broccoli followed by a mini muffin.

I know it's crap but you can't make a judgement based on one day. And I wouldn't judge other's based on one day.

PoppyFleur · 12/08/2015 17:43

Olive oil turns to trans fat only when repeatedly reused and heated to very high temperatures. The smoke point of olive oil falls between 365 and 400 degrees Fahrenheit, so unless you are deep frying everything in industrial deep fat fryers (in which case you have bigger problems!) a bit of olive oil does no harm.

Eva50 · 12/08/2015 17:53

Ds3 (9) has just had an ice cream cone with a flake whilst walking round Tesco. We didn't scoot their, we went by car and it wasn't to get bell peppers but a bottle of wine (well, that's grape juice isn't it). If anyone commented on his ice cream I didn't notice but would have informed them that it was to wash down the chicken burger he had for his lunch.

I have never had any comments from anyone about what my dcs are consuming.

GreenSkittles · 12/08/2015 18:06

Well my DCs had Domino's pizza for lunch and if they don't get home soon, they will be having Ginsters pasties for dinner or whatever else they can dig out of the fridge. I am also considering buying a dozen Krispy Kreme doughnuts tomorrow. No guilt pangs over here whatsoever!

mysticlogistic · 12/08/2015 23:15

Worst stealth boast Ive seen for some time.
What are you doing wrong? Caring this much about what other people think about what your children eat and drink and whether the water is bottled or cold or not (I don't know you or your children, I would only be concerned if it was dirty?), Feeling the need to validate what you're feeding them by posting diaries of it online?
Im not sure how old your children are but why are you giving them tea?

youareallbonkers · 12/08/2015 23:41

I dont understand why people need to post a list of things they claim to feed their children to get validation from a bunch of randomers but there you go. Also is it necessary to type bell peppers, surely peppers would suffice?