Netmums VS Mumsnet

[Samwelly]

Mumsnet seems more controversial in content to me (well the AIBU section anyway). I previously enjoyed Netmums but find now that I hardly ever go on it. I prefer the "lively" sometimes abrasive discussions on Mumsnet.

MrsDevere, you are the only NMs poster I have ever recognised on here, mainly because of your DDs story.

You are far, far too intelligent and wise for the vast majority of them, I'm surprised you lasted as long as you did putting up with it. I couldn't go longer than a couple of years

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^^if that doesn't work then I'm off to bed.

I was on a wedding forum years and years ago (2003/4ish when I was getting remarried) It was like NM all fairy sparkles, glitter and tickers. The passive aggressive bullying that went on there was awfull. I've never seen so many cliques and the rush to make as many posts as they could to get that sought after crown beside their user names. They had rings, crowns and wands to reward them for posting so many times. I much prefer Mumsnet, there's a much wider mix of posters here.

awful

Thankyou march. He's not what I expected

Ha Ha murfles were you lucy?

What an utterly stupid thing to ban someone over. I do wonder if it was a thread they were getting paid for and got all upset that it was taken over by #potatogate

Pumpkin they did get a tad annoyed. I will never admit to who I was . I was so annoyed at getting banned over a frozen potato. Well, there were other altercations but I think potatogate was the finale for me

I like good peoples, I don't care where they post on the interwebz, I do bloody care when people I've only posted with for five minutes call me hunni though. I cannot be doing with that.

OiledBegg if you remember the 'bitchfest' site someone set up to slag off members then you must be one of us oldies too. I was on holiday when that kicked off but heard all about it when I came back as I was a target, apparently!

Who were you on there?

There are some lovely posters on NM but I hate how you cant have an opinion without being reported and the cliques are unreal. I'm pretty sure i'll be banned soon as I cant contain myself when the snobs come on telling me and others that we should be doing this and that In our relationships or we are control freaks. These are the women who will do anything to keep their men. Anything.

All the mums I meet in real life are soooo dull and never swear and are smug Cat Kidston Netmums types. I need to find out where all the potty mouthed Mumsnet lot congregate!

Oh dear. Whoops. Suggested my (possibly in need of reality-check) sister get on "either Mumsnet or Netmums". I have never looked at Netmums and am unlikely to after this thread. Hope she came to Mumsnet first or she'll have flounced off and continued to think the internet has no useful info for her...!

I always say this on these thread but I have had far more nastiness thrown at me on NM than I ever have here.

Like Mrs D said, it is really bitchy there.

Just popped over to potatogate and that wagging finger emoticon made me seethe! As an unashamed user of frozen baked potatoes, I may have been taking it a tad personally, though

Triptrap yes I was featured on the evil site, was horrible! I am an oldie, was about 8 years ago that happened!

Bitchfest - that was the name of it, well remembered triptrap!

"One woman had a '7 years, 11 months, 3 weeks, 2 days, 4 hours, 10 mins and 3 seconds until I become Mrs Simpkins'"

The other site I was on before MN was into tickers in a big way, but it also went in for lengthy signatures, complete with little fairies and flowers.

There was a state of permanent warfare between the natural parenting section (giving it a less smug name might have helped) and the main boards, and there was one poster in particular who didn't seem to be able to leave it alone. If I remember rightly, she was very faddy and would get very into an idea and then preach it to everyone else, before giving it up five minutes later. She decided she was going to 'do' AP, spent about 2 days on the natural parenting board, and then flounced and became the site's most vocal opponent of all things sling/cloth nappy/breastfeeding related.

She created the most prodigious signature I have ever seen. It went on for about five lines - full width of her posts. I'm paraphrasing obviously, but it wasn't far off this:

Mummy of one squidgy little girl age 6 months 2 weeks 1 day 3 hours 2 minutes. Proud to formula feed because it's just as good as breastfeeding. Proud to use a pram because babies need their space and I'm not prepared to force slings on them. I keep my baby out of my bed because it's my space. Happy to try controlled crying in due course if necessary because you don't have to run to respond to every little whimper. Happy mummy happy baby.

Unfortunately everything in her signature was contradicted by things she'd posted recently, and whenever anyone pointed this out she'd add qualifiers to her signature until it was about 10 lines long.

Mummy of one squidgy little girl. Proud to formula feed although I did breastfeed for the first 6 weeks and that was probably the best thing to do then but formula's fine too. Proud to mostly use a pram but occasionally using a BabyBjorn. I mostly keep my baby out of my bed but I do sometimes co-sleep but only in the mornings. I don't really like controlled crying but I may well try it as a last resort. Happy mummy happy baby.

By the time I stopped using the site her signature was about a side of A4 and consisted of pretty much every thought that had ever gone through her head. It was epic.

I do go on netmums and a lot of times it makes me babble with rage but it's exactly the same as having a sore tooth that you have to keep touching to see if it's sore.

There's a thread going on at the moment about a wife who doesn't want to receive oral sex and only wants sex twice a week in the missionary position because other ones are uncomfortable.

I'm aghast at the number of posters who were saying that it's not fair on the husband and at least he cares enough about her to be angry; she is being selfish, no man should put up with a sexless marriage and if she loved him then she would grin and bare it. Loads of posters were saying that his needs should come first and he will end up leaving her and it will be all her fault.

When it was pointed out that it is her body the consensus was that he has needs.

I can't see how a husband getting angry, saying he's been conned and calling a wife names is conducive to a good sex life but there you go.

Kungfu, that didn't happen to be a site with the initials 'b & b' did it? Sounds very familiar.

Snobs. It's almost the same site apart from MN seems to be more judgmental.

I've always found NM to be generally more judgemental, as well as passive aggressive.

Wait, NM have a wagging finger emoticon? WTF?? SO glad I've never signed up there - that, along with the tickers and hunz and bubbaz would drive me mad!

NM is definitely more passive aggressive, no question about it. I experienced it myself. I've yet to see or experience that here.

This place can seem more judgemental and harsh at a glance but if you actually give it a fair chance then you soon realise that people are just honest and to the point rather than sugarcoating with 'huns' and 'aww bbz'.

The wagging finger gave me the rage. How handy - an emoticon that shows the world in graphical form that you are a judgemental twat.