To not want DC to use Nan/Nana

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I have just never liked this word and think I prefer grandma or similar but is it up to the person what they are called?

" It's quite snobbish to dislike Nana isn't it?"

So they say, but to be honest on this thread I have seen more inverted snobbery and silly sarcasm based on some kind of class hatred than anything else....

I couldn't hold such strong opinions on a simple word like Nana or any other word for a grandparent. I don't get it!

When posters say they hate or despise it, surely you're exaggerating!

MIL is Nana and My mum is Granny. I'll be Granny when my time comes.
I think Grandma is pretentious.
It's the grandparent's choice IMO.

I cringe at "my kids my rules"

Well obviously in many cases its fine but trying to control everything that impacts on your children is unfeasible and probably not very healthy (safety issues excluded) - controlling what they call other people seems a bit pointless - what are they meant to gain out of it?

And look at the number of threads where people complain about grandparents not wanting to see the kids enough. No doubt many of them are absolute arses, but I can't help wondering how many cases the grandparents become totally disengaged for a reason.

Mum, at 42, felt too young for any of the traditional options. So, she chose to be 'Nags', and for my dad to be 'Grumps'. 13 yrs later, and not only have they stuck, but it is what they are called by their gc friends as well! Thankfully xps parents went with Nan and Grandad. But there is no way mum would have been happy with a traditional name and doing 'my child, my rules' would have left her feeling extremely uncomfortable.

I find it bizarre when people find one "title" is pretentious" or "common" or whatever. It's just a word! I can only think that it's a regional thing.

Nana was commonly used when I lived in Wales, my (very posh) mum is a Nan, my sisters (not at all pretentious) mother-in-law is a Grandma. I really don;t understand imbuing such innocuous and pleasant words with value.

Love Nags and Grumps. Sounds like a (scary) pair from a Roald Dahl book.

I don't really like any of the names for grandparents tbh, but I know I definitely wouldn't want to be known as Nanny, it makes think of a goat.

Each to their own though, except probably my neighbour who insists her 4 grandchildren call her Grandmama, and yes she is a huge snob.

I'm more of a "My kids my take your lead from me but feel free to use your discretion." Especially with people who love and care for my child therefore have their best interests at heart.

Grandmama really is a whole other level!

I never knew people cared about stuff like this.

Fwiw my DD has a Nana, MIL chose it. My family has Nonna and Nonno because we're Italian. There was no real discussion

"When children refer to nanny I never know whether they mean grandmother or paid child carer nanny e.g nanny is picking me up. Could be either gran or child carer type nanny"

That probably depends on your upbringing or social class though. I would never associate a nanny with childcare. People who care for children are either childminders or au pairs around these parts.

those of you who have never heard of such a thing, you are lucky.
I will never forget my working class hero stepmother banging on about how 'strange' it would be for her child to have a 'normal' Nanny and a 'posh' Granny (the O in post pron as in 'oats').
Silly biatch.
She still goes on about now, thirty five years later.

My ex mil had my dd1 calling her sexy Sheila from the age of two

Nan & Grandad work for us (both for our grandparents and our kids grandparents) - usually with the surname attached so we know which ones we're talking about.

And I don't think 2 seconds has been spent thinking about that in our entire family history.....

My ds calls my parents granny and gramps he calls my ds mum Tottie Gran because she is very er well Tottie

All very well saying the gps get to choose, but my ILs wanted to be called mama and papa over my dead body!

I like nan and nanny/nanna. It sounds warmer than grandma, imo.

Yes it is Crystal I thought she was joking when she first told me. That was rather awkward!

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That's hilarious

MN does make me laugh, I can't imagine not wanting to use word because of snobbery reasons. I wouldn't have the energy to be middle class, much easier to be a common oik.

This thread is really making me angry.

nan is common

Why don't you get the fuck over yourselves? Jesus the snobbery on here is ridiculous. My DM and mil are adored by their grandchildren and couldn't give a shiny shit what they call them, or each other.

Fwiw they're nanny and nana.

My ex mil had my dd1 calling her sexy Sheila from the age of two

Sexy Sheila.....that's different!

Does Sheila look like Dorian from Birds of a Feather?