It isn't rubbish - the vast majority of people cannot afford, or accommodate, a Nanny
Yes it is rubbish, I've known corporals in the army who use nannies, shop workers on NMW who do (my current one splits her time between my family and a retail worker) the woman who sells me my morning coffee in Costa uses one (I know this because her kids go for days out with my kids with the respective nannies).
If you have 2+ little children and you work whilst having no family support and are not lucky enough to have free childcare then you have to pay for childcare that may be a childminder a nursery or a nanny and a nanny will often be the cheapest option, around here the going rate for a CM is £5 ph/pc or £7 ph/pc antisocial many do not offer sibling discounts,if you have to be at work before 9am amd don't finish until gone 5pm then it's hugely cheaper to use a nanny.
Would you assume the same things about or make the same comments to someone who had 2/3 kids in a nursery or with a CM?
A nanny does not have to mean a super expensive employee or one from Norland that is a myth and a preconceived stereotype
also quite often Nannies do not live in granted lots do but it's by no means essential and many prefer not to. Over the years ive only had 2 that lived in and that was when I worked nights so they were actual night nannies.
It is not the norm, by any stretch, and the turn of phrase "in my world a nanny is an employee" implies a snobbishness that "I associate the word Nanny with a professional childcarer" doesn't
So it's not the norm for you but it is the norm for me and for many other people,lots of them perfectly normal people.
It may imply snobbishness to you perhaps that's because of your stereotypical way of viewing things. To me it implies nothing other than a useful way to distinguish between different types of childcare providers because nursery staff and child minders are not the employees of parents nursery staff are employees of the nursery and child minders are self employed.It would be unusual for a nanny to be self employed.and nanny is their job title. Nanny reminds me of no other type of childcare provider because they are differnt.
Would it be snobby for me in a relevant conversation to refer to anyone else who I directly employed as an employee? Or is it just nannies because you think only rich people have them. Inverse snobbery perhaps?
But do children with a nanny as in childcare refer to their nanny as the "nanny"? Do they not use their name or Miss/Mrs
Mine call theirs nanny first name as it is what she prefers. I've on,y had one who wanted to be called by first name and one who wanted to be Mr x