AIBU?
Bettercallsaul1 · 10/08/2015 09:56
I sympathise with this, OP, as I have never liked these terms for grandparents either. However, I would stand by the principle that it is the person herself who should choose the name they are called, so if a grandparent has asked to be called Nan/Nana, I would accept it.
.LindyHemming · 10/08/2015 09:58
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Fishwives · 10/08/2015 09:58
Grandparent gets to have preference, but in my experience, the child decides as soon as s/he becomes verbal. My son, now three, having had us always refer to Granny X and Grandpa Y, now calls all four grandparents by their first names.
I agree Nan and Nana are awful, but it wouldn't have been my call.
EmeraldKitten · 10/08/2015 09:59
Yes I think it's up to the person. Mine and Dh's parents/step parent all chose what to be called.
Thankfully they were all different - we have a Nanna, Nain, Granny, Bampa and Grandad. I think there would need to be a bit of negotiation sometimes though because 3 Nanna's would have been a pain!
Kewcumber · 10/08/2015 10:01
Grandparent decides in my experience though children can sometimes bend it to their will - my grandparents were Grammer and Grumpa!
I decided for my Dad in his absence so he was stuck with it, but I assume you wouldn't prefer an absent grandparent who doesnt see their grandchildren?
LokiBear · 10/08/2015 10:02
My mil was obsessed with this. To the point of irritation. She insisted on knowing what my mum was going to be called because she was Grandma. I told her that my mum would be called whatever she wanted, which irked her because she wanted to be the only 'Grandma' 
. In the end my mum chose Nanny, so it was fine. Just seems a daft thing to get worked up about. I call my own grandma by her first name and always have.
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