To not want DC to use Nan/Nana

[treehousepicture]

I have just never liked this word and think I prefer grandma or similar but is it up to the person what they are called?

[StitchingMoss]

Wow, didn't realise nana was a class thing - there's some real bloody snobs on here aren't there???

maninawomansworld, "I informed MIL what the acceptable choices were" - bloody hell, truly hope my poor sons don't end up married to someone like you!

[Lookingforwardtoholiday]

Mamie is lovely. My DH had Mamar as his cousin couldn't say grandma

[ReganHero]

But I can understand it. I really don't like Nana or Nan and it would jar if my children used them, I'm afraid - I am sure the poster didn't put it as bluntly as that but I can understand disliking particular words.

[ShelaghTurner]

Up to the grandparents I think. Both of my grandmothers were 'nanny' but my mother and MIL were adamant they wanted to be grandma. And this will out me but FIL has ended up being Papa which I have got used to now but really detested when it was put forward. But it's the name they will be known by so their choice, much as it pained me!

[Redshoes55]

Agree my kids my rules usually the mantra of the annoying.

[TittyBiskwits]

Mil is Nanny, and constantly refers to herself in the 3rd person. "Nanny get you a drink" "Nanny went to the shops". Drives me bonkers. Don't think I've ever heard her use "I".

Oh my god, yes! This drives me up the frigging wall. DC are 8 and 12. There is no need now for Grandparents to refer to themselves in the third person

[StitchingMoss]

I don't like Grandma - I think it's sounds stuck up and stuffy, but I would never have dreamed of stopping MIL from using it. Does not make one iota of difference to my life what my kids call their grandparents. Why upset your DM/MIL over something that doesn't matter??

[Artandco]

I don't like nanny. Here nanny is a child carer. It's not that the child calls them ' nanny', but that school/ nursery/ friends will say oh is that your mummy or nanny, or x your nanny is collecting you today for example

[leccybill]

We had a Nin which I think might be Welsh or possibly just made up.

[turkeyboots]

I asked my parents, stepped parents, in laws and step in laws what they wanted to be called. So we have a Gran, Grandpa, Grandad x2, Nana and Grandma. My mother choose Granny, then changed her mind and wanted to be Nanny when my eldest was 5. Which was weird.

[noeffingidea]

I think it's up to the grandparent to choose.
My Mum was Grandma to my kids, my MIL was Nannie.
I am Nannie (I didn't choose, but was happy with it. ) , the other 'gran' is Nana.
Personally I would have hated to be called Grandma or Grannie or any variation of the G word.

[Totality22]

My mum is Nan / Nanny and MIL is granny. This is what they prefer and what the other grandkids call them.

[riveravon23]

All this planning and deciding, yet as soon as my grandson could babble he called various grandparents/great grandparents by the names he wanted and now they have stuck. From a year old he called me Nanny (which I am thrilled about) even though I had been referred to as Grandma up until then; he changed both Granddads to Dadas; followed by their name (which stuck) and great grandparents to Grandma and Grandpa...we all now like our names because it was what HE wanted.

[Notso]

We used to think one of our friends was posh because she called her grandmother Grandma.

That is just as bad as people thinking Nana is common IMO. I hated being called posh in school, I moved from a not very 'posh' part of Yorkshire to a not very 'posh' part of Wales. There were a few things that I said differently to my peers which were instantly deemed posh

[Rhine]

Wow, manina you sound like a right bundle of fun. "My kids, my rules. Seriously, get over yourself!

[Dowser]

I didn't want to be called by my surname as my nana's were . That was far worse I thought. So I got my kids to call their nana's and grandads nana Mary and nana Dora , grandad dave and grandad mike and I've continued the trend.

I shuddered when I heard cilla black wanted to be known as Bubba!

I was a young grandmother too!

[TheOriginalSteamingNit]

I really don't like Nan/Nana/Nannie, but I guess I would have had to suck it up. In the unlikely event that I have grandchildren who are told to call me Nan, though, I will be catsbum-faced in my refusal to take that name!

My mother believes that Granny is the only acceptable form - and yes, absolutely for snobbish reasons, but if she'd balk every time she was called Grandma, it would have been mean to insist on it!

[Redshoes55]

You have to love mumsnet! Snobbery over what to call grandparents?

And parents insisting on certain names being used!

Seriously who the fuck has the head space for bollocks like that.

[Welshmaenad]

Mum was Nonna (Italian), dad didn't want to be Nonno as he thought it was too similar and confusing so he's Grumpy.

Inlaws chose Grandma and Grandad, which I wasn't v happy about as Grandma was my own beloved grandmother, and I loathe MIL and didn't want the connection, but what can you do? She also does the "Grandma went on holiday and Grandma saw this and that.." and it makes me want to stove her head in with a nine iron, so it's probably a good job I've gone NC and don't have to hear her fucking wittering any more.

[Rhine]

Notso, I can't lie. That's what we thought at the time, everyone around here called their grandmothers either Nan, Nana, Nain (Welsh) or Nin. Grandma sounded so twee and formal, I still think it does actually and it brings connotations of a little old lady with white hair and round glasses sitting in a rocking chair by a fireplace knitting. How many grandmothers are actually like that these days?

[Clawdy]

Nana is a class issue?? That is weird. The Italian name for grandmother is Nonna. My friend who is Indian says the Indian word is Nannajee. And Marianne Faithfull is known as Nana! If it's good enough for Marianne.....!

[FrogletinaBallerina]

My MIL was adamant she was being 'nan', which DD called her, then when BIL had his kids she decided she was 'nana' which I really dislike (sorry!) So she's stayed as 'nan' to my DCs.

[Sootgremlin]

I don't think Grandma is posh or pretentious, everyone comes from different backgrounds and has different words they use.

However I do find people who reject the more usual terms, such as Grandma and Granddad, on account of their being 'too young for them' a bit cringeworthy. I always think they should get over themselves, it's like aging has become such a bad thing, when really it is a privilege to become a grandparent, it is not a downgrade in station.

My mil spent ages deliberating over her name (we have cards from the early days with several different monikers) that we lost interest by the time she reached her final decision

[Notso]

Rhine Nana makes me think of little old lady. My Mum had two maiden Great Aunts we used to call Nana they were typical, grey haired, sweet giving, knitting and slippers type old ladies. Unlike my gin swilling, sweary, trainer wearing Grandma.
Weirdly one of the words deemed posh was settee, everyone else had a couch or sofa.

[PercyGherkin]

My inlaws are Oma and Opa. They, and we, are not German. MIL chose it. I think she feels less old if hardly anyone understands it.