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AIBU?

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AIBU to find MN intimidating?

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ICantThinkOfAUsernameH · 09/08/2015 16:40

I know this sounds absolutely ridiculous - recently joined and have posted a few times but find it scary .
I thought I was well-educated albeit a young mum, but reading some threads makes me feel scared Apprehensive to post .
I'm being silly aren't I?! Or do I belong on a certain other site instead haha!

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Sparklingbrook · 09/08/2015 17:02

I do believe a very high percentage of threads in AIBU are works of fiction or intended to goad.

VulcanWoman · 09/08/2015 17:04

I don't like the way some poster gang up on other posters, even if they're being an arse, they're probably disturbed and need to be left alone not goaded IMO. Whereas people flogging their wares and ripping people off deserve it.

TenForward82 · 09/08/2015 17:05

Well, as a fellow newbie I would advise you to post with caution, especially if you have views contrary to the pack. Say the wrong thing and you'll get treated like the trolliest troll who ever trolled. (I speak from recent personal experience )

magimedi · 09/08/2015 17:06

I do believe a very high percentage of threads in AIBU are works of fiction or intended to goad.

About 99% at the moment!

Arkkorox · 09/08/2015 17:06

I'm not sure where I would have been without the support on this forum when I was very very unexpectantly due to have a baby 6 weeks after my positive test. I came here for advice before I even told anyone and the support was just amazing and continues to be so.

It's not scary really :)

Quiero · 09/08/2015 17:06

You just have to learn to sieve through the shit. Or learn to laugh at it. Sometimes on a thread the first few posts will be awful and you'll start questioning whether you've gone mad but given time, the 'normal' people turn up and post and all faith is restored.

I totally agree about the depth of knowledge and intelligence. It astounds me sometimes. I cannot begin to describe how much I've learned from this website with regards to feminism, politics, issues around disability and as MrsTP said even aerospace engineering .

Whilst I'm often the first to complain about the nastiness I would always say the good by far outweighs the bad.

Arkkorox · 09/08/2015 17:07

Plus some of the threads are piss you pants funny.

Sparklingbrook · 09/08/2015 17:07

magi, I was thinking 98%

magimedi · 09/08/2015 17:07

I think you got a real kicking, ten. Don't let it put you off the place.

PacificDogwood · 09/08/2015 17:09

I watch AIBU instead of Jeremy Vile

TenForward82 · 09/08/2015 17:09

Thanks magimedi. I've had Inbox messages of support from other people too which means a lot! hug

Sparklingbrook · 09/08/2015 17:09

I do think that new people would be unwise to make a big announcement 'Hi I'm new' etc.
Nobody needs to know who is new, just join in, post normally and pick which threads to join in on and nobody will even notice.

PacificDogwood · 09/08/2015 17:10

ten, I think you sparred v well
Hope you're not put off.

Pagwatch · 09/08/2015 17:10

Try to just treat each thread and each op on its own merits. It's by far the best way.
One of the joys of this place is arguing vociferously with a poster on one thread and agreeing the next day on a different issue.

Carrying grudges around is tiresome
and limiting.

Original poster

ICantThinkOfAUsernameH · 09/08/2015 17:10

I love these replies - was kind of expecting a thrashing , but I've been proved wrong and you've all be helpful.

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HoneyDragon · 09/08/2015 17:10

Don't be intimidated by this lot, blimey. Mnetters are like cheese, various flavours, from disparate locations and some are riper than others, and the odd one smells slightly dubious. But at the end of the day we're all just cheese.

sebsmummy1 · 09/08/2015 17:10

Mumsnet is full of lots of angry women. Just wade in, wear your flame retardant suit and don't take things personally.

Sparklingbrook · 09/08/2015 17:11

Hide Thread is a brilliant function too.

Rafflesway · 09/08/2015 17:14

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FenellaFellorick · 09/08/2015 17:15

There's a nack to it.

You have to not give a shit.

A bit of typing can't hurt you.

If you squirt right, like I do, then you can skip right over stuff you don't like without even properly noticing it

mn is great. Lots of fun. Lots of good people. It's not worth taking the few shit bits and giving them any power.

Sparklingbrook · 09/08/2015 17:19

YY you really have to not give a shit It is just typing. You can hide the thread or log off it's all in your power.

If you are in the mood you could argue/debate for a bit but you have to really not care what some stranger on the internet thinks as it doesn't make any difference.

toffeeboffin · 09/08/2015 17:20

It can be at times.

But then you realise its great because you can say what you like about anything.

It's great, the support and information is second to none.

Love you guys

Maryz · 09/08/2015 17:21

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

magimedi · 09/08/2015 17:26

Agree with Maryz - but I orfern prevu coz moi selling is full of misteaks an I don wanna be shredddded by the grammer perlice.

I wont prevoo this one - maybe I should of!

HoneyDragon · 09/08/2015 17:27

Fenella....I'm not comfortable about you squirting, even if you are doing it right.

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