Dads staying over night

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What do you think?
m.burtonmail.co.uk/Burton-Queen-s-Hospital-introduce-scheme-allow/story-27564928-detail/story.html

Whenever this comes up the majority of those replying are always dead against it. I think MN should consider a campaign on the issue.

Link to a recent thread discussing the same issue:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/childbirth/2422363-Men-staying-overnight-on-postnatal-wards

There was a male poster whose responses were particularly illuminating. He berated women for excluding and disadvantaging men, because clearly when we've just given birth that's what we should be thinking about. Then there was thinly veiled whining that women on a forum catering overwhelmingly to women dared to discuss being afraid of assault from men we don't know, insistence that his right to be present would be more important than the comfort and health of patients, and finally a dismissal of the women who didn't want men there by saying they'd just have to manage. And this was one of the ones who wouldn't be kicking off. Those of you who blithely trill that 99% of the men there will behave themselves don't live on this planet.

Also worth a read because it contains links to other pertinent threads and recounting of some hair raising stories.

Next they'd be asking patients to sort out their own food.

That was pretty much the message we got with DS1 when they slung two slices of white bread and a pat of margarine at me after 28 hours of labour. We'd missed breakfast on the labour ward. By the time various things were taken care of, I also missed lunch on postnatal. Clear message - sort your own, then.

I think that's always been the case Jassy. Way back in 1988 my husband used to make me rolls and bring them in, because the food was just inadequate. Half a medium jacket potato, a smidge of cheese and a thimbleful of salad is apparently a large dinner.
The midwife (or auxillary ) did make us tea and toast though when I'd just given birth. That used to be part of normal nursing care.

Noeffing, it's grim, isn't it?

Mind you, I would have killed for toast! Apparently toast wasn't allowed. No toaster because of health and safety. Toast only allowed if it's been transported from the kitchen, and thus cold.

I think they buttered mine for me! I don't know, when I was a nurse we often made tea and toast or even scrambled eggs for patients, and the odd relative too.
Food has always been a problem in hospitals though, as far as I can see.

Yeah, I don't think I'd disagree with that statement!

I saw this article recently about maternity services being the most likely to come into contact with trafficked women and immediately thought of this thread. What hope have trafficked women got if their trafficker is effectively able to stand watch over them for the duration of their maternity stay? Fuck all. Yet another reason why it is a supremely bad idea.