To ask you honestly would you have had children again?

[Behonestplease]

If you could live your life over, would you have more children, less children, no children?

yes. absolutely.

ds has asd and has just snapped the curtain rail.

dd has hypermobility and lots of toruble with that...

I wish they were trouble free for their sakes but I would absolutely do it all again with all the problems involved, no question.

Love mine dearly but in a different life I wouldn't have dc.

is, not it.

Oh yes! I'd have had three instead of two maybe but for me life without children/grandchildren would be a half life. I am very fortunate to have three steps as well as two 'blood' dc and 9 lovely grandchildren.

Definitely. But I would've appreciated the child free twenties more! And traveled more.

Thumb my Ds turns 17 next week. He said something the other day about how would I feel if he and his sister never had children = no grandchildren for me. I think I would rejoice that my particular line was at an end and that all the crazy that's occurring in the world would not affect us any further.

If the world was peaceful and my life was good different etc, I would probably have had children earlier than I did and aim for the three I always wanted. and emigrate to Oz

Yes. I would have started earlier and had more. This is a complete surprise to me as I was never broody before I actually had a child!

The way I feel today I would say no. However I am sitting here thinking if I was childless how would I feel? I would feel emptiness, loneliness and a sense that I was missing out. So maybe one and I would have chosen to be younger.

Have 4 all spread out - multiple MC, v happy with them. Would have been happy with more but not less.
Blundered on career wise and that seems OK as well
Would definitely have tried to adopt and will think about fostering as they get older

I'd have had 2 more when I was younger.

It really is easier in your 20s!

Yes definitely. In fact I would have gone up to Scotland and dragged dh out of the car crash of his relationship (of the time) so we could have been married sooner and had more of them.

I love my children and I don't regret having them. Just wish it had all been different for me and the worlds population was better I suppose.

Yes, Solo - I know what you mean. I was having a complete downer about all sorts of things, not least the poisoning of the world's food supply and death of the bees courtesy of at least one well-known manufacturer of poisons and seeds; but also because of the trade agreements currently being put in place that will allow said manufacturers to sue the arse off any governments that restrict their ability to make profit.

Yes.
But I would have them younger.
And try for 4, maybe even 5.
I was 29 when I had my first.
Would have loved to start at 23/24
Then had one every couple of years until I had a few...
Greedy, I know. But I love them to bits!

I would not have had fewer (it's fewer, not less by the way when it's a plural). 5 is a lovely number and to work full time and have a high paid career you adore is a great combination. I recommend it.

I'm lucky in that I have four kids ^and* am happily married. I think having lots of kids is hard on couples. Weirdly I happen to know a few people with 5 kids who are divorced - not nice divorces either.

Have 2 DC, would not want to be child free at all, but, in hindsight, and if I am being really honest, I would have preferred to have had my kids when I was older (mid 30's), instead of spending my 20's with the responsibility of children and all it entails. We should have been saving for our future, doing impromptu things, blowing our money on clothes, holidays, nights out, lazy weekends in front of the TV, frivolous stuff, whatever.

I tell my sister to not even think of having kids before she is 35 (despite the warnings about fertility decreasing), but once you have kids you will always feel a responsibly to them, you will never be able to guilt free put yourself first. I will be telling my DD the same, We really wanted kids, but now I wonder why we were in such a rush.

I realise it may seem a bit shallow tbh, but we missed out on what could have been a very carefree decade, where we had money to do things that we could not do with kids, things that we are not interested in doing now but would have been fun at the time.

Definitely . Wee monsters make me want to tear my hair out but I love watching them grow more than I've enjoyed anything else.

I always thought I wanted three but I have two and we're definitely done (in).

no

Tears me apart. I'm guilty having had only one for ds sake, it was the right decision because of dh's illness but he hates being an only. I absolutely could not cope without having at least tried for a child, but at the same time feel terrible that I have created another person to have to go through all the crap involved in living. Having a baby liberated me but also trapped me - I'm really aware that I can't take my own life unless I kill ds too ( I know that's horrible.) I don't find it easy.

Yes. And more. Mine are 9 and 4 and although we're satisfied that our family is complete I'd have loved a couple more if we'd kept going after DS2. I'd never not want to be a parent; my life is made better for having them in it, they make me a better person.

I realise it may seem a bit shallow tbh, but we missed out on what could have been a very carefree decade, where we had money to do things that we could not do with kids, things that we are not interested in doing now but would have been fun at the time.

You see I have found the opposite. I have more money and freedom now than I did in my twenties. Dd is 14 and a very independent young person. I went back to work when she started school, and I was 27. Since then I have been able to seek promotion and increasingly give more time to my career as she grew. We are now in a good position financially and set to be mortgage free by the time I'm 45, by which time dd will be 23 and living independently. But we will still be young enough to enjoy all those things we 'missed out' on in our twenties (and in fact, we're not able to afford then anyway).

I would have had the same but not with their father. He didn't take to having kids well and frankly wasnt interested in them much.