To ask you honestly would you have had children again?

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If you could live your life over, would you have more children, less children, no children?

Depends when you ask me, I have 2, my DH wanted children as soon as we were married I held out til 5 years in!

Some days I wish no, other days they're the best thing that ever happened to me. I just wish I had more support.

I think two is the perfect number when you consider finances, space, time, attention, world population etc.

But my third (3.5 months) is a total darling who we all adore so I wouldn't change a thing now. Though impossible to be truly objective with him in my arms smiling up at me!

I would have more but with a different father.

No DC, just happened that way, was never in the right relationship/place in my life to have any, and I don't regret it.

I know children bring many people immense joy and fulfilment, but I just look at the Facebook photos and activity of friends and relatives with kids and their lives seem so limited and constrained. (And that's Facebook - these are the best bits they're posting about!)

Wouldn't change a thing. My kids make me happyand I'm not too stressy about the mess

Damn I'm rubbish at strikethroughs.

I would definitely, definitely have had them younger., if I was able to turn back the clock. Probably still had 3. Would have been unhappy with 0.

No, although I love my children, my mental and physical health are both wrecked. I get on with life - work, friends, interests but I have more front than Brighton and spend a lot of time feeling very depressed! I have been down the medical/medication/counselling route but the best solution for me is to just get on with it.

I know there are people who long for children and cannot have them and I am highly sympathetic. I looked forward to having children, had them quite late and so had lived a bit first.

I wouldn't do anything differently. I have four dc, started at 27, done now at 35. I am just coming to a place where I don't have a desire to have one more. I feel the right age for me, not too old but not too young. I've had my student freedom and I still have time left when they grow up. If I'd wanted a big career I'd have needed to wait longer. I hope I'll do something interesting and useful in the future beyond raising my own children but I wouldn't sacrifice my family for it.

I have 1.

I wanted 6!

I'd probably have 4 in reality if I could do it again.

But then I'm only 34 so I suppose there's still time to meet someone and have more?

No. I'm glad that I have them but I'm not exactly a good parent so maybe it'd been better if I hadn't had children.

Some days I wish no, other days they're the best thing that ever happened to me. I just wish I had more support

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I would my dh wouldn't nor would another of his friends exp made their lives hell and alienated their children very upsetting

My mum had 2 of us and always said that although she loves us and wanted us, if she'd known what it was like, she wouldn't have had any. She wishes she had had the chance to go to uni etc so I think that's part of it.

I'm not offended by that at all.

Personally I don't have any (age 32) and I don't see that changing due to health issues (pcos) and lack of a man!!! I'm fine with that. Have never had that biological urge that eg my mum talked about.

I probably would have had another one if possible. I just never got round to it when I was with my ex-husband and then we split. Now DS is 12 so too big an age gap so think I've missed the boat. Never mind.

Yes I'd have my Dc again, I'd also have tried to have more sooner and possibly has children younger than I did as I spent so many meaningless years thinking that partying was the way to live.

I started late, had miscarriages, only have one and wish I had more. Would have adopted but my other half wasn't interested and was happy with one. If I could do it over again, I wouldn't have given up my career - but in my circs, that would have meant not marrying the father of my child in the first place!

I had dd at 21 and was faced with disappointment and concern from my family.

14 years on, I still only have the one. I am only 36 and now have the freedom that my family was so worried I would lose. My career is in the up and life is good.

So no regrets. I'm glad I stuck to one, and especially glad I had a baby at a young age.

Honestly. I don't think I would have had children.

Gosh , that's a brave question. Not that I'm going to answer it...

Yes, I would. I can't imagine life without them now (2 DS).
Still haven't ruled out dc3 either...

I'd have liked one more

having a 3rd child destroyed my marriage BUT I lost a disloyal cheating fuckwit and gained a lovely funny clever amazing daughter so it was fine

When mine were toddlers, I truly regretted becoming a mother several times a day. Now that they're a bit older it's less often than that! I would probably have had 3 rather than 2.

Yes I would but I wouldn't have left 5 years between each of them. We currently have a toddler, a pre pubescent 10 year old girl and a teenage boy.
When they decide to go all stereotypical on us we turn to the drink!

Sorry there's 6.5 years between 2 &3 - I can do maths really!