To ask you honestly would you have had children again?

[Behonestplease]

If you could live your life over, would you have more children, less children, no children?

Well no, I was typing.

But you know what I mean!

Ah I think I see what you mean my comment about not accidentally adopting a child was in reference to LeftMyRidingCropInTheMortuary who thinks because she is 32, single and has PCOS she will remain childless - I meant she might not get pregnant in her current situation but she could adopt but that is always planned, it's not going to happen by accident when she isn't looking!

Now that would be a shock!

It would be more realistic though just randomly ringing up people to say they'd be chosen in teh adoption lottery. A bit like the HUnger Games... to be fair you would get 9 months notice pretty reliably rather than being pregnant for maybe a year maybe 3 years or any amount of time in between!

I'd have my two girls again without a doubt, they make me laugh everyday and I don't regret a single thing. Not sure if I'd go back and have the one I didn't have, I do have regrets but I still think I did the right thing at the time which is all we can ever do isn't it?

I would happily do it all again, the same as I did, and it wasn't all planned.

I've been very lucky.

I have two adorable children. But I would have liked them earlier and that their father wasn't an arse.
I'm always worried about money. I left a good job to go to a lower paid/less prospects one. I feel as my life is on hold and restricted. If I had more support I would feel happier

I have 2. I wanted 3 but for several reasons we decided to stop at 2.

If I had to do it all over again, I would have the three. Because I think, as it turned out, we would have been fine.

It sounds ridiculous to say that you miss someone who never existed, but I do miss my third child.

you don't need to tell me how stupid that sounds. I already know.

No, not if I were to get the same dc.
2 of my dc have ASD & ADHD.

I hate the life I've ended up with.

That's actually my main terror peppa so I'm glad you brought it up. I wanted to start a thread about it but was worried I'd get ripped to shreds.

Don't know. Love dd to death and am happy she's here. Probably yes. I'd still stick at one.

Either none or 10 years earlier

I'd have done it all the same, at the same ages (I had 5 dds between the ages of 34 - 40). However, my first dd was stillborn, quite obviously I want her with me, and as a pp, I'd send back dd2 asd, which has complicated our lives no end.

Having DCs has made me acquire knowledge in a way i could never have imagined. It's not been plain sailing, it's not art and craft around the table while I bake cupcakes, but it's an experience!

Glad to have spent a lot of time without kids and travelled a lot. I think if I'd had them in my 20s I may have regretted 'missing' out on some things.

More and I'd start younger (much younger) - I had my first at 32 and have 4.

Yes, the same amount-2.

Yes. I wish I could have had more.

Just realised, I wouldn't send dd2 back! I'd just send her asd back. I would love her to have a lovely, uncomplicated and anxiety-free life....

Just realised, I wouldn't send dd2 back! I'd just send her asd back. I would love her to have a lovely, uncomplicated and anxiety-free life....

Oh yes indeedy. Well put. DS has an Executive processing disorder, I love the bones of him but his life isn't always straightforward and I'd so like it to be so.

That's a really interesting question and I'm intrigued by the different responses.

I'm jealous of those posters who've said 'yes, in a heartbeat', with no doubt.

I adore my children and I'd die for them now they're here, but I currently have two under two and it's ridiculously hard. I'm exhausted and if I'm totally honest, thoroughly bored.

I'd be lying if I said I haven't wondered what my life would've been like if I hadn't had children - two incomes (I'm a SAHM), oh the money we'd have!! Holidays!

But then, I'm told this is the hardest bit - if I can get through this maybe I'll become an 'in a heartbeat' mummy. I hope so.

Can I ask those saying you wish you started earlier, what age did you start?

Yes defo. I've got two and I'm the happiest I've ever been. Loved the baby years, and now they're older we have a lot of fun and do great stuff together. It's like getting your youth back. I wouldn't have had more, we can cope and afford these two. I have had significant changes because of the kids to work and finances and that has been hard but would do again in a heart beat. In all honesty if I had to do it all again I might not get the dog.....

Yes, same amount (2) but with a different, more hands on, father.

I would have started 5 years earlier, would have had more, no MC

we have 7.
they are gorgeous and fab, and I love them so much, but they're bloody hard work and yes there are days when I scream inside "why why why did I do this to myself?" but then they come and hug me and all is well
there's no way I could ever seriously wish I hadn't had them.
my only regret is that one if them didn't make it

WaitingForEgg 32. Met Dh at 24, with hindsight 26/27 would have been ideal.

None. I think. The worlds not great is it.