To thinks u neighbour is extremely rude?

[Cracendale]

Just moved into converted house, im below a guy.
Twice he was over knocked on my door, by this I mean he will ring my bell even though he has access to my flat door because his is in the same building.
So he rings my bell, then again, then let's himself in and knocks on my door, then says something like. "Hello" then rings my bell again.
The two times before he did this was for nothing important, it was to discuss a lock change the HA doing.
It wasn't a nesscary conversation and wasn't urgent like he made out by ringing my door like he was police

He has just done this again
I'm in bed and just had eye surgery and he woke me up.
I have one of those bells that if you leave your finger on it it will ring forever
He pressed it 5 times and knocked on my door
I'm in complete silence
I don't know if he is stupid or something to not understand im either out or sleeping since I'm in complete silence I don't know

But now I'm pissed off, I'm in pain from surgery last time he did this I was grieving for my mother.
I don't know him for him to be ringing down my door like this
Nothing he would say will be important because I do not know him
He knows. Nothing about me
If he had to give me anything he can leave it on the side because he lives in the same building.

Aibu ?
When he rings again I want to tell him to not ever ring my door like that and if I ignore the door go away
How do I put this politely?

Dixie is not 'slagging you off' crusts she pointing out what she said previously. You have said that it is all 'the usual' posters having a go at you. I am not a 'usual' one but I can see how nasty you are being crusts
I'm sorry that you can't see that for yourself

Oh crusts. I'm not fighting anyone's corner.
I don't want to derail your thread OP, so I'm out.

crusts I'd advise you to reread the thread when you've regained your sensibilities.

27 minutes crust

YANBU not to answer your door if you don't want to. I love in a flat and disconnect the intercom from dinner inwards and the trades button is off then!
I do wonder though if maybe he's aware you've had surgery and is concerned your ok if your not out and about as much as usual and is checking up on you out of kindness and concern? How many threads on MN have there been about not seeing neighbours and what should I do?
Definitely get a doorbell that goes ding dong in a press and not the shrill continuous noise!
Hope you feel better soon.

As for the rest of the thread and Crusts. Yes, he may have some special needs that affects his ability to understand boundaries. My son has special needs (HFA) which affects his ability to understand social boundaries and sometimes control himself and do what's right over what his mind is saying/ telling him to do. He is the child who will call at your door and then come back a minute later and try again. Then again
He is not special needs though. And despite him having SN I'd still expect people to tell him it's not acceptable and him to adhere to socially acceptable boundaries. I'd also expect people to be cross with him for crossing them.

Do you know what? I was actually completely bewildered for a moment and thought that you were all being ridiculous.

"is he diabetic?"

Same scenario, I thought. Both a medical condition a person is born with that affects their quality of life, that they could not have prevented occuring.

But then I realised that whereas I'd say "are you diabetic?" to someone, I would never say "are you special needs?" to someone.

One feels and sounds derogatory, even if it was not meant so.

Im actually working, zossi so no vino for me until 10

WTF do you do for a living?

Hello again,

Well, erm, this has all deteriorated somewhat so we are going to suspend new posts to the thread shortly while we sort things out [serious face] .

Awful situation OP

Someone else on MN has a very similar problem but with a man next door. I'm not sure how/if she resolved it.

WTF do you do for a living?

^just what I was wondering!