To thinks u neighbour is extremely rude?

[Cracendale]

Just moved into converted house, im below a guy.
Twice he was over knocked on my door, by this I mean he will ring my bell even though he has access to my flat door because his is in the same building.
So he rings my bell, then again, then let's himself in and knocks on my door, then says something like. "Hello" then rings my bell again.
The two times before he did this was for nothing important, it was to discuss a lock change the HA doing.
It wasn't a nesscary conversation and wasn't urgent like he made out by ringing my door like he was police

He has just done this again
I'm in bed and just had eye surgery and he woke me up.
I have one of those bells that if you leave your finger on it it will ring forever
He pressed it 5 times and knocked on my door
I'm in complete silence
I don't know if he is stupid or something to not understand im either out or sleeping since I'm in complete silence I don't know

But now I'm pissed off, I'm in pain from surgery last time he did this I was grieving for my mother.
I don't know him for him to be ringing down my door like this
Nothing he would say will be important because I do not know him
He knows. Nothing about me
If he had to give me anything he can leave it on the side because he lives in the same building.

Aibu ?
When he rings again I want to tell him to not ever ring my door like that and if I ignore the door go away
How do I put this politely?

Crusts - why didn't you just say "Ah sorry, poor choice of phrase"?

Another nasty comment from MrsDeVere there. What on earth is wrong with you?

Crusty I do understand that it was worded wrong but it's a very emotive subject for other posters, bloodys example puts it well. I don't think people are purposefully being rude to you, they're just explaining the problem and why it's so offensive. Calling people the PC council is unfair, it's such a shun of valid feelings. A simple "oh I'm sorry, I didn't realise that them was offensive" would have cleared things up.

Because it came across as an attack! and you well know that.

Theres a way to show a person. To shout and swear at them is not the way.

fooling who? what on earth is your problem Dixie. You were rude and nasty.

Crusts people are responding based on previous experience of some posters being deliberatly offensive/goady using disablist language. If that really wasn't your intention then the normal reaction would be to explain what you meant, apologise for inadvertently causing offence and then we can all move on. If you keep defending what you said it comes across like you are minimalising it.

bringing the thread back slightly i used to have a doorbell like this it used to scare the shit out of me and i would answer the door in a massive bad mood it would irritate the hell out of me i pulled it out the wall within a week

get rid of it for a normal one

Im not attacking anyone MrsDeVere.

Do you understand yet what was wrong with how you phrased the question?

The normal reaction is to defend what was said.

Im not responsible for other peoples experiences.

"Is he special needs?" is vile. Unbelievably vile. Reducing a person to the sum of their disabilities.

I'm surprised that if it did come from a 'nice place' that you've not taken on board the fact that actually it's not a good way to phrase what you meant.

Its the same people time and time again turning a molehill into a mountain. Becoming so offended by a word and then being so nasty, its really ridiculous.

Not if what was said was offensive, then the general reaction is to be mortified.
Unless the person actually meant to be offensive, where they will continue to defend their actions. Often will then include even more offensive stuff.

You've been deleted by MNHQ for using disabilist language. I really don't think you can take the moral high-ground here.

one that gently corrects an error is a nice person. one that has to tread another into the ground for it isnt.

If words shouldn't offend then why are you offended?

I'm confused now, do some people have special needs or not?

Some people have special needs.
No-one is special needs.