To thinks u neighbour is extremely rude?

[Cracendale]

Just moved into converted house, im below a guy.
Twice he was over knocked on my door, by this I mean he will ring my bell even though he has access to my flat door because his is in the same building.
So he rings my bell, then again, then let's himself in and knocks on my door, then says something like. "Hello" then rings my bell again.
The two times before he did this was for nothing important, it was to discuss a lock change the HA doing.
It wasn't a nesscary conversation and wasn't urgent like he made out by ringing my door like he was police

He has just done this again
I'm in bed and just had eye surgery and he woke me up.
I have one of those bells that if you leave your finger on it it will ring forever
He pressed it 5 times and knocked on my door
I'm in complete silence
I don't know if he is stupid or something to not understand im either out or sleeping since I'm in complete silence I don't know

But now I'm pissed off, I'm in pain from surgery last time he did this I was grieving for my mother.
I don't know him for him to be ringing down my door like this
Nothing he would say will be important because I do not know him
He knows. Nothing about me
If he had to give me anything he can leave it on the side because he lives in the same building.

Aibu ?
When he rings again I want to tell him to not ever ring my door like that and if I ignore the door go away
How do I put this politely?

Youre post wasnt explaining in a nice manner msgrinch, it was tounge in cheek jumping on the bandwagon.

Smoking - ditto.

amends list

OP, can you explain to him that you'd like to be left alone unless it is really important building on fire/he's giving you a cut of his lottery winnings ?

I'd rather eat shit than apologise to these sorts of people.

Really? well that's you're view and not at all how it was meant. Next time I'll throw in a hun and a few xxxx ' then.

Now I agree with everyone else, you're being goady even when people are trying to be pleasant.

OK apologies for the glue comment, but really crusts, if you cause offence, even unintentionally, then when people explain, over and over again WHY that was offensive, you could at least apologise gracefully, having learnt how to avoid putting your foot in it and upsetting someone in future. Instead of getting angry and rude. Maybe you are just generally an angry and rude person who is never in the wrong.

I didn't say I was trying to explain in a nice manner, I just pointed out that the normal reaction to accident it offending people is too apologise. Not go off on one and then tell everyone else that they are verbally attacking you.

Regardless, you are clearly trying to goad people now and frankly it's pathetic.

P.S - replying to thread on MN is not jumping on the bandwagon. Maybe you don't understand the turn of phrase

No, msgrinch was the first person to give you the explanation of the offensiveness of your phrase.
I can't see tongue in cheek or which bandwagon she jumped on.

I've read every one of msgrinch's posts and can't see where she has been unkind to you. In fact she's actually been very generous in trying to give you the benefit of the doubt.

Evening all,

We've had quite a few reports about this thread and we can see why. Thanks to everyone who took the time to get in touch.

We'll go through everything and delete anything that breaches Talk guidelines.

But in the meantime, peace and love and moral support please!

OP - answer the door, ask him what he wants and if he is being unreasonable tell him to F Off.

As Ive just said, Id rather eat shit than apologies to people that use being offended to a ridiculous degree and PC correctness to belittle another.

Sorry op for the derailing of your thread. I hope you feel better soon

for pps who feel a bit too.

and my opinion is you are a nasty person dixie so lets agree to disagree.

Ah, the 'PC gorn mad' defence.

With this goadiness you really are spoiling us.

Ferrero Rocher anyone?

Your comment was deleted. Does that not tell you that it was offensive?

You just obviously feel deeply unhappy about admitting when you're wrong. It's quite an immature trait but I hope you grow out of it sometime, for your own sake.

And OP - I'm so sorry your thread got so massively de-railed. Any chance you can leave a note on your door to prevent him doing this again until you've had the opportunity to talk to him properly?

Yes! I want one! I'm having a day where no amount of food is filling me up. so load the chocolate in.

Crusts, stop now, If you don't feel the need to apologise that's your choice but you're not painting yourself in a very good light here.

My son lives with Aspergers
He is not Aspergers. There is a difference, really there is.

crusts, would you be this rude and aggressive to someone in RL who pointed out that you had said something they found offensive? would you tell them you'd rather eat shit than apologise?

So everyone was wrong and you are correct and you will never give an apology for being offensive?
Okay then. If you say so.

Just everyone accept that crusts is disabalist. ANYONE who was not would accept they were wrong. Deep in her heart she thinks less of people who have special needs.