To thinks u neighbour is extremely rude?

[Cracendale]

Just moved into converted house, im below a guy.
Twice he was over knocked on my door, by this I mean he will ring my bell even though he has access to my flat door because his is in the same building.
So he rings my bell, then again, then let's himself in and knocks on my door, then says something like. "Hello" then rings my bell again.
The two times before he did this was for nothing important, it was to discuss a lock change the HA doing.
It wasn't a nesscary conversation and wasn't urgent like he made out by ringing my door like he was police

He has just done this again
I'm in bed and just had eye surgery and he woke me up.
I have one of those bells that if you leave your finger on it it will ring forever
He pressed it 5 times and knocked on my door
I'm in complete silence
I don't know if he is stupid or something to not understand im either out or sleeping since I'm in complete silence I don't know

But now I'm pissed off, I'm in pain from surgery last time he did this I was grieving for my mother.
I don't know him for him to be ringing down my door like this
Nothing he would say will be important because I do not know him
He knows. Nothing about me
If he had to give me anything he can leave it on the side because he lives in the same building.

Aibu ?
When he rings again I want to tell him to not ever ring my door like that and if I ignore the door go away
How do I put this politely?

if you don't have a child with 'special needs' I don't think you can understand why how it was wrote was offensive.

My dd struggles with social boundaries due to additional needs.

'is he special needs' is an awful sentence

My child HAS special needs but it doesn't define who she IS.

Actually Supervet, both my children are NT. However I'm perfectly able to understand why the terminology used above is offensive.

It's a question of being willing to understand. Nothing more.

Im a bit confused too and the prick comparison doesn't work. Is it offensive then to say "is he disabled" instead of "does he have a disability"

Not by you dixie, thats for sure. Certain people are on here purely to stamp others into the ground. Its a terrible trait to have, where it comes from I can only guess that they are so unhappy in their real lives. So maybe I should try to understand where it comes from more.

cracendale I hope you feel better soon regarding the eye operation, I'm sure it makes the situation seem worse. My advice would be to answer the door next time he rings the bell and politely explain that you appreciate whatever it is he has to say even if it's not important to you but you are recovering from eye operation and are in pain etc. You never know when you might need this neighbour in the future so keep things civil at least.

Its not offensive at all.

If I have a disability Im disabled.

The PC world has become absolutely ridiculous. Its become something that people exploit in a way to be nasty to others.

Attack is the best form of defence, eh?

Really, now might be a good time to say "ok, I get it, I was wrong, sorry".

You know full well that I meant no harm MrsDeVere and still you go on, why?

Yes I happen to think you are MrsDeVere.

I happen to think you have a need to stamp on people to make yourself feel better.

People who 'mean no harm' usually apologise when they fuck up

Sorry scrambled I didn't mean no one with an NT child could understand why it was offensive. I might those who couldn't see why it was offensive never would unless they had a child with additional needs

crusts I've really tried to nicely explain to you where the problem was and haven't verbally attacked you at all, so to say we are just stamping on you etc is a bit unfair.

I genuinely can't understand why you haven't apologised for offending people, regardless of whether you think what you said was right or wrong crusts

I happen to think youre the same Dixie.

*meant not might

You're the one stamping Crusts

And again

Really uncalled for against MrsDV. A childish and offensive comment.

I don 't suppose this would be a good point to ask crusts if she is on glue?

That's ok Supervet, I get what you meant.