DH. Drink driving. Facebook. This one has it all!

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Im fucking LIVID with DH.

He went out for a meal last night. Came home at 11pm, and I got hit by the smell of beer straight away.

He said initally he had 4 pints with a big meal over the evening, today he has changed that to 3 pints.

Im literally fucking steaming. Im no goody goody, I drink like a fish, but Id NEVER consider getting behind a wheel.

What makes it worse is that it was a performance car he was driving, and he depends on his license for his job.

So, as well as possibly killing himself and others, he also risked his job, his home, everything. He had to come home rurally too, and the chances of hitting a deer or another animal at that time was increased. Not to mention teenagers hanging around during summer holidays.

Can you tell Im mad?

Anyway, I just let rip, publically, on facebook. He still doesnt think he has done much wrong and that Im over reacting. So Ive blasted him publically. I hope his boss reads it and I hope he is FUCKING MORTIFIED.

Its almost a deal breaker for me.

Anyway, Im wondering whether Ive made myself look like a twat for using facebook to shame him. Should I remove it?

Hang on, so you have done it??

Yes I do agree there msgrinch, assuming you're right about 8%.
I assumed it was 3 or 4 so a normal strength lager size.

I have a bottle in the kitchen (no car so I'm ok) it's 7.5% so I guess they're all around that region.

My normal lager is 5.1% and I think that's pretty normal, I could drink 3 pints over 3 hours ish and be sober especially if it was with food I still wouldn't drive but I don't think my driving would be effected.
If my DP did what OP did I would expect a serious apology or the relationship would be in trouble.

Oh FGS, you just admitted that you've driven after a couple of glasses of wine yourself!!! You're just as bad as him. If you drink, you DO NOT get behind the wheel of a car, EVER. It doesn't matter if you've had 1 drink or 10 drinks, you are being completely irresponsible by driving afterwards

So OP has done it herself. Little hypocritical therefore having a go at your DH.

Drink driving is never acceptable.

Sigh.

Lambrusco is 5.5% and two glasses does not make me drink driving.

Sorry but if you drive after having an alcoholic beverage you are drink driving IMHO.

How weird that many of you seem to find the op making a Facebook post far more objectionable than her husband drink driving and showing no remorse about it at all. How very, very weird.

Lambrusco is 5.5% and two glasses does not make me drink driving

Yes it does.

"The experts at the tasting instructed us to crack open a bottle of Lambrusco whenever someone stops by (along with salumi, of course). Plus, its low alcohol content (around 8%) means it works well as an everyday dinner drink." from Google. I've obviously got a low bottle.

Seriously?!

This place is like a twilight zone.

2 glasses of 5.5% wine over an evening does not make me break the law or affect driving. At all. In any circumstance.

I object to law breaking.

"How weird that many of you seem to find the op making a Facebook post far more objectionable than her husband drink driving and showing no remorse about it at all. How very, very weird."

Which posts said this?

People who think they are ok to drive after a couple of drinks - make sure you don't do it in Scotland where the blood alcohol level limit is lower. And much though I love to criticise the Scottish Government, I think this is a really good thing they've done. I was talking to a colleague recently who said it had stopped all the peer pressure to have 'just the one' or 'just one more' and then drive. Hopefully there will be some good results shown in stats and the rest of the UK will follow suit on safety grounds.

2 glasses of 5.5% wine over an evening does not make me break the law or affect driving. At all. In any circumstance

By that thinking 2-3 drinks of Stella which are less than 5.5% wouldn't either. Would you be happy getting into a car with someone who has that?

I think Lambrini and Lambrusco often get confused.

Lambrini is around 8% (the fruity flavoured ones are lower, around 5%) Lambrusco is a lower alcohol content than Lambrini.

Not that I drink cheap "wine" very often or anything...

A glass of wine is 175ml? A pint is 3 times that....

You do know it is legal to drive after a drink don't you? You may choose not to, very admirable, but the law does not require it

Read the thread. Count how many people are condemning the OP. Compare it to how many are condemning her husband. It's astonishingly simple to do.

Bubbles presumably those drinks of Stella would be in 125ml wine glasses

I think this all says a huge amount about the acceptability of alcohol in our society, not only drink driving. Pub measures have got larger yet people seem to convince themselves that the new, larger measure does nothing to affect their capabilities. It's ok to drink two glasses of Lambrusco, because it has a slightly less ABV than a traditional dry white. Four pints of beer can be consumed during the course of an evening because it's taken with a large meal. And of course, if you sleep for a few hours after consuming three bottles of wine/ a crate of beer you're perfectly OK to drive. People everywhere are telling themselves lies. Most alcoholics are not the ones stumbling around pissed at 10am or can't get out of bed without reaching for the vodka, they're the ones who have homes, husbands, wives, children who tell themselves half a bottle/ a bottle of wine every evening with their dinner is fine. Society's relationship with alcohol is sp skewed that when my dh chooses to drink 0.0% beer and drive home he's ridiculed by members of his own family rather than congratulated for his sense and his resolve. You're seen as a terrible bore if you don't drink on a night out. Instead people try to cajole others into drinking and getting a taxi, like the only way you can have a good time is to get shit faced. Seriously, it's our whole relationship with alcohol which is flawed and drinking and driving is a horrible by-product of that. I'm not a saint, I enjoy a glass of wine, I've often gone too far with it in the past and I'm no party pooper. But I really believe that until all our perceptions are completely revised, we are all just living in glass houses throwing stones. Op if your dh has been having mugs of red wine on his desk with colleagues at work the problem goes way beyond one instance of drink driving.

Read the thread. Count how many people are condemning the OP. Compare it to how many are condemning her husband. It's astonishingly simple to do

Many have condemned both.

LittleLion - 5.5% is hardly "slightly less" than your average dry white, which is usually up around the 12.5-13.5%. Sweet white wines have a lower alcohol content, usually, Blue Nun is around 9% iirc. Maybe that's what you mean.t

LittleLion very well made point imho

Your husband is an arse for drinking and driving. You posting it on Facebook makes you look like a child, especially as you have admitted to drinking and driving yourself. Doesn't matter what you had,it's never ok, legal or otherwise

The point is Thumb we're again being sucked into the ABV argument rather than focusing on the bigger picture. We'll tell ourselves anything providing it gives us a licence to drink more than is healthy.