DH. Drink driving. Facebook. This one has it all!

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Im fucking LIVID with DH.

He went out for a meal last night. Came home at 11pm, and I got hit by the smell of beer straight away.

He said initally he had 4 pints with a big meal over the evening, today he has changed that to 3 pints.

Im literally fucking steaming. Im no goody goody, I drink like a fish, but Id NEVER consider getting behind a wheel.

What makes it worse is that it was a performance car he was driving, and he depends on his license for his job.

So, as well as possibly killing himself and others, he also risked his job, his home, everything. He had to come home rurally too, and the chances of hitting a deer or another animal at that time was increased. Not to mention teenagers hanging around during summer holidays.

Can you tell Im mad?

Anyway, I just let rip, publically, on facebook. He still doesnt think he has done much wrong and that Im over reacting. So Ive blasted him publically. I hope his boss reads it and I hope he is FUCKING MORTIFIED.

Its almost a deal breaker for me.

Anyway, Im wondering whether Ive made myself look like a twat for using facebook to shame him. Should I remove it?

The guy doesn't think he did anything wrong. has called his wife hysterical, said she is over reacting.

So, she calls the police. They refuse to come out/can't come out/whatever.

That will do NOTHING for the op's dh except give him ammunition to throw at his wife for "over reacting" ... "see, the police aren't coming because I didn't do anything wrong"

And will be another stick to taunt his already fed up/stressed wife with!

It is not normal to publically humiliate an adult you love to teach them a lesson. Not at all.

Yes! Massively. Her reaction to this situation is blood riduculous!
Honestly.
Public drama... all round. I'm sure nobody gives shiny shit if this guy does this. So report him and be done with. Leave him if need be. But all this?
Threatening to take the kids and go to her mum's?
WTF?
Ridiculous behaviour.
If he's a repeat offender then leave the bastard but all this ranting on facebook is pretty pathetic and will achieve nothing.

And will be another stick to taunt his already fed up/stressed wife with

So don't fucking put up with it then.

Leave!

Its not normal to drink drive either.

crap - absolutely a risk. However, you are not factoring in the fact that the OP will be there - ready and waiting to confirm what time her DH got home and the fact that he didn't drink anything else.

I'm sure she'll be a very credible witness.

But - I actually think the earlier suggestions of lie detector tests is better

I'm sure nobody gives shiny shit if this guy does this

no one gives a shit? of course they do! It would seriously alter my opinion of the DH if I saw his wife posting about his drinking and driving on FB. I would be judging HIM not her.

It is not normal to publically humiliate an adult you love to teach them a lesson. Not at all

But it's perfectly normal to drive drunk & put untold lives at risk? Hmm...ok!

I'm sure she'll be a very credible witness. IF they go to her house, which they won't.

Oh fgs, I havent threatened to take the kids, Ive just gone to my mums for a few days. Hardly a big deal to the kids!

And its not a public drama, I made a couple of comments that have now gone.

And yes, I think youll find people would care. Id care if it was one of my friends husbands!

So, Ive called the police and they have said there isnt anything they can do now. If I suspect him of doing it again I can call them back. Great help.

So what else can I do? He is still adamant that I also drink drive after a couple glasses of wine (bollocks and massively deflecting), and he doesnt understand my reaction.

Then why mention here then OP? Hmmm.

You did very dramatically imply you were off with the kids to your mums.

If it's nothing to do with this, then why mention it at all.

Sounds like you like the drama.

You should have phone last night then if you abhore it so much.

Why didn't you?

I mentioned it as its showing that Im doing something about it. Chances are this will be the end of us.

But its hardly dramatic. Its a couple miles down the road

no one gives a shit? of course they do! It would seriously alter my opinion of the DH if I saw his wife posting about his drinking and driving on FB. I would be judging HIM not her

the point being is, if he's a repeat offender and OP has reacted this way before, people will know he's like this anyway so this FB post will have achieved precisely nothing!

Monkey, how long has your DH worked for his employer?

No, again, you are wrong. Nobody would expect him to be like this.

www.alcohol-breathalysers.co.uk/

It really is coming to something when people can defend the drink driving actions of someone & call out the person who is trying to sort it all out.

I think the op knows she didn't deal with in it the best way, she went to take the post down, the boss already did it (ashamed of his actions, maybe?) but yet the highest % of posts here are admonishing the op for kicking her dh's arse in public.

So, he is an adult. She didn't humiliate him. He did that himself. He humiliated himself when he acted like a twat & got into a car, drunk.

2 years best

No problems before.

Ok, so you are asking what you do?
But you are planning to leave him yes?

Not one person has defended this guy!
Not one.
You can disagree with the OP and not agree with her husband you know.
He's a dick! Clearly.

Get one of these installed in his car www.alcolockgb.com/
Then he won't be able to drink drive in the future.

Is the performance vehicle he drives related to his job? Or does he just need the driver's licence for his job?

DH works for a company that produces interlocks like the one I've linked to - every sales rep in the company has to have one fitted in their company car, so they can show customers how they work. Added bonus = none of the staff can drink-drive.

DamnBamboo Back off. OP wanted some support. People rounded on her.

Just as you are doing now.