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To not like other children commenting on the size of ds's penis

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BocaDeTrucha · 06/08/2015 00:04

We're on holiday at the moment and ds is a chubby little 22 months old so most of the time naked. In the last 2 days I've had the following comments: "why is his willy so small?" from a little girl, about 4 years old. And today, the little boy in the bungalow next to ours who has spent 3 days playing with ds, asked " is 'Bob' a boy or a girl?" and when I replied he was a boy, the little boy said "so why doesn't he have a willy?".

Gee, it's not that small!! I got a bit peeved but dh just told me to stop being ridiculous. Am I being ridiculous?

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Singsongsung · 06/08/2015 07:42

I hate to see kids naked, not least because of the obvious risk of sunburn, particularly given that you're in Spain. A child this young should be covered up in cool, loose clothing.

You are being entirely unreasonable for making him parade around naked and risk sunburn.

GloGirl · 06/08/2015 07:52

So many people saying it's weird seeing a naked toddler, makes me really sad.

FurtherSupport · 06/08/2015 07:54

Are you putting sun cream on his willy? I'm not sure how you go about that, but I expect that's just me. And wouldn't it sting?!

I can't imagine the 2yo is bothered at all about being "teased" about a small willy, this sounds like your issue. I don't think it's wrong not to have him covered (apart from the sun) but it would be a way of solving the "problem"

If children are commenting, isn't it just curiosity about something they don't often see?

FurtherSupport · 06/08/2015 07:57

Are you putting sun cream on his willy? I'm not sure how you go about that, but I expect that's just me. And wouldn't it sting?!

I can't imagine the 2yo is bothered at all about being "teased" about a small willy, this sounds like your issue. I don't think it's wrong not to have him covered (apart from the sun) but it would be a way of solving the "problem"

If children are commenting, isn't it just curiosity about something they don't often see?

AngieBolen · 06/08/2015 07:57

It sounds like his willy is pretty small to me, but so what.

I'm worried about him getting sunburn. Please put a t-shirt on him.

Aeroflotgirl · 06/08/2015 07:59

The kids are only small themselves and say things like that. Yes put some swim trunks on or swim nappy if he's out in public if this bothers you.

Findtheoldme · 06/08/2015 08:03

He can only be teased if people see it....

perfectlybroken · 06/08/2015 08:04

I do think it's normal for kids to ask questions, although if my kids mentioned anyones private parts in my hearing I'd explain to them it's not good manners. It sounds like your DS may have a 'buried penis', which is common in chubby babies. DS1 had this, and still has it to some extent at age 4 when he is no longer chubby. His penis is normal length when it is erect, but when not it retreats inside the body. We've been told over time that it will appear more normal. I do feel a little self-conscious on his behalf about people seeing it, which of course happens less and less as he gets older. If it is too hot for a nappy could you just out some cotton pants on him, and you can rinse them through if wet/soiled?

pinktrufflechoc · 06/08/2015 08:06

I was going to come on and say YANBU but having read that you've got him running around naked I do think he should have something on to be honest - this is one of my pet hates though and I'm sure many will disagree.

brownfang · 06/08/2015 08:06

Some little swim shorts or pants, and if he poos that gets caught a bit, too. Win win.

maccapacwac · 06/08/2015 08:10

Can anyone explain what's wrong with a naked toddler? My4 year old prefers to be nude!

pinktrufflechoc · 06/08/2015 08:13

I just don't love seeing it, there's plenty of swim/casual wear for tinies and sunburn and sand is an issue.

There was a thread a few weeks ago where people were going mad about teenagers in their pyjamas at breakfast in a hotel. That didn't bother me but I really don't like seeing naked children running round in public (obviously changing rooms and the like - fine.)

milkysmum · 06/08/2015 08:14

I think the amount of people worried about a naked toddler are the odd ones - not the op! She is a little upset about the thought of her son being teased, shock horror. I do think op though that children often say little willy as they have often only seen there fathers so a toddler penis will indeed seem tiny in compassion. Try not to worry im sure your ds isn't

MovingStress · 06/08/2015 08:18

Cant believe got to page 3 before sunburn mentioned. Of course nothing wrong with a naked 2 year old, but def wouldn't have mine running around in Spanish sun with no clothes on

MyPelvicFloorTrainsItself · 06/08/2015 08:18

I'm not bothered about naked toddlers but my point was that the OPs problem can be solved in the amount of time it takes to put some pants on.

mummypig3 · 06/08/2015 08:18

Just stick a t shirt on him

YouBastardSockBalls · 06/08/2015 08:19

I'm always extremely wary of these kinds of threads that encourage people to share info about their children's genitals.

Just remember - you never know who could have really written things, or for what purpose they want to hear a load of people talking about this subject.

Just saying.

Jo4040 · 06/08/2015 08:22

Ooo Hun. If this kind of this g is bothering you, hour going to have a hard time as hes growing up. Grow a thicker skin around him. Hes your precious little boy, yes. If you let comments like this bother you, your going to spoil things for yourself and your DS. Just let it go over your head. HonestlyFlowers

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BocaDeTrucha · 06/08/2015 08:23

"entirely unreasonable for making him parade around naked" - ffs, he's not even 2 years old yet!!! Of course I put sunscreen all over him, we stay indoors /in shade from about 13h until 17th and I'm very aware of this issue. But as for some people's offence / distaste seeing naked kids, I really don't get it. What a shame.

Posters who mentioned his being a bit chubby have mentioned my thoughts. He does have that pshe you've mentioned and I know he'll slim down so I'm not worried. Also is not a health issue so again, putting things in proportion. SillyBilly, thanks for your reassurance as a GP that it is not weird for this to be mentioned at a 2- year visit. HVs don't exist in Spain so I can't ask there.

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Preciousbane · 06/08/2015 08:24

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Aeroflotgirl · 06/08/2015 08:25

Exactly, it's hot, a young child out in the sun without any protection from the sun. Op put a t shirt on him at the least.

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BocaDeTrucha · 06/08/2015 08:27

Podge, I meant, not pshe! (teacher's autocorrect!!)

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Singsongsung · 06/08/2015 08:28

Advice on sun protection and children is sunscreen, shade AND loose cotton clothing. One isn't interchangeable for the other.

Jo4040 · 06/08/2015 08:30

Remember this...up to thr age of around five, its the 'Age of innocence' and I bloody love them for it Grin

AlanPacino · 06/08/2015 08:31

I really don't get it

Me and a lot of other posters neither op. There's nowt queer as folk. Grin