To leave DD with no adult supervision after school
redskybynight · 31/07/2015 12:28
Hypothetical situation at the moment but may arise in the future due to job changes.
Would you feel happy to leave a sensible 9 year old DC for up to 1.5 hours after school on one day a week? She would also be walking or cycling home by herself/with friends (though the journey home alone is by itself not an issue as she would be doing this on other days as well).
Potentially her 11 year old brother would also be there (and could meet her en-route home if needed).
One parent works 15 minutes walk away (so no delays in getting home and close at hand). DC knows various neighbours she could go to in case of real emergencies.
Feel like 9 is just the "wrong" age - a couple of years younger and we wouldn't consider it, and a couple of years older and we wouldn't worry at all!
TheRealAmyLee · 31/07/2015 12:31
I wouldn't at 9 personally regardless. I would do proper after school care for any kid of primary age. Once secondary age it would depend on the child/age/length of time/how often.
If it's only 1 day a week see if you can stick her in an after school club. Ours is flexible and many parents use it on an adhoc basis (including a friend who does 1-3 days a week on a random basis due to shifts)
Lurkedforever1 · 31/07/2015 12:41
Its not the leaving alone, it's the letting themselves in at that age that would worry me. When dd was 9 I'd sometimes leave her for an hour in daylight, not through necessity just an exercise in responsibility because she loved the grown up feeling. But once she was already in, and I knew the neighbours were in, electricity or water wasn't off, there wasn't a break in or burglar to disturb, lost key or any other rare but possible event to deal with.
Forgetting how mature etc they are, I think for any child there is a massive leap in how responsible they are between turning 9 yesterday and almost 10 which would also affect my decision. Not to mention the huge leap between turning 10 to reaching 11.
Goldmandra · 31/07/2015 12:43
It would probably be fine when everything was going to plan but 9YOs aren't old enough to manage crises.
I would arrange for her to go to a childminder for that time or, at least, have a more formal arrangement with a neighbour that she checks in with them on arrival home and has a definite, reliable adult presence, albeit in a nearby house, to call on if something goes awry.
redskybynight · 31/07/2015 12:59
She would be nearer to 10 rather than just turned 9.
She is used to having her own key and letting herself in (she sometimes comes home with neighbours and although DH is in the house he tends to be welded to "important business calls" and can't always open the door to her). So that aspect of it is not a problem!!
TheHouseOnBellSt · 31/07/2015 13:01
Even at almost ten it's too young. It's something which needs to be built up to. First comes a little jaunt alone to the playground...then a trip to the shops...then maybe half an hour in the house alone.
If something happened such as a stranger calling or a fire, she'd be too young to make the right choices.
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