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MIL birthday cake - I know I am being childish

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Happy36 · 20/07/2015 17:19

Today is MIL's birthday. We are on holiday with them so all staying in the same house. She spends the entire time in the kitchen watching television. Last night I went into the kitchen and said, I hope you don't mind, I am going to make a cake. It's her birthday today and I bake rarely; my husband who helped me with the cakes vakes even less frequently than I do. So it was pretty obvious we were making her birthday cake.

Then after she had gone to bed, we iced and decorated the cake and put it in the fridge, where everyone could see it.

This morning my husband spoke to his father and said that we would give MIL her gifts and sing Happy Birthday and cut the cake after lunch (when my husband's younger brother usually gets up). So I told the children and they were wonderfully stoical about waiting until 4pm to give their grandmother their cards and gifts, and to try the cake.

Now it's 6.15pm and there's no sign of any present-giving, (slightly irrelevant but I am angry so I'll add that brother-in-law has eaten multiple slices of brioche smothered in Nutella) and the kids know that they mustn't complain as it's not their birthday which is almost heartbreaking to watch. I asked my husband to have another word with his dad but he said it would be rude as it's his mum's day and we will do the singing, etc. when she says she wants to.

Now father in law has just shouted upstairs that we are going out in 20 minutes. I have no idea what is going on and my husband is taking a nap.

I know I am being very childish but I rwally needed to rant. Sorry.

OP posts:
ChoosandChipsandSealingWax · 20/07/2015 22:44

Where is the update OP?!

We have birthday cake for breakfast too (Swedish tradition). Might be having some for breakfast tomorrow at this rate, after all these comments about cake Cake Smile

No way would I be going on holiday with her again. What a miserable birthday. Your poor DC. Definitely cake for breakfast tomorrow for them!

fadingfast · 20/07/2015 22:44

I really want to go to bed but now all I can think of is CAKE.

Pleeeeease update!!

FuckingLiability · 20/07/2015 22:46

Oh damn. I was wondering if they'd had the cake yet.

CaptainSwan · 20/07/2015 22:47

This is SUCH a weird thread.

I'm calling #cakegate

StupidBloodyKindle · 20/07/2015 22:49

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CookieDoughKid · 20/07/2015 22:52

Op. If you are to real, I pity you. Hope you manage to serve the cake without starting World war3.

StupidBloodyKindle · 20/07/2015 22:53

One of my favourite memories: Nigella was making chocolate cake on her cookery show (for some reason I knew ahead this was the case). DH came home to find pregnant me in bed watching Nigella with a Michael Rosen chocolate cake giveaway smudge and the remains of a Tesco happy birthday choc cake (it was delish and had white choc balloon decorations on it). And it wasn't even my birthday Grin bdum tish

SugarMiceInTheRain · 20/07/2015 22:55

Argh, I need to know what has happened about the cake! I am sitting refreshing the page and avoiding going to bed because I want to know why MIL is being such a princess, why everyone tiptoes around her, how you've managed to refrain from decking her with the cake... so many questions. Why do I care so much? Grin

Taytocrisps · 20/07/2015 22:58

Cookiedough and SugarMice your usernames aren't helping my cake cravings!

Chipshopninja · 20/07/2015 23:04

OP please...PLEASE! We need to know what happened

Some of us are on a diet, think of those people on a diet! I can't read anymore about cake

mumbles CAaaaaaaake whilst drooling

MadAngryGnome · 20/07/2015 23:07

But but won't the cake go all weird sitting in the fridge all day? All cold and hard? Won't somebody think of the cake in this wretched situation?!?!

I have a chocolate Guinness cake with cream cheese icing sitting in my kitchen, AND I'm going to eat some for breakfast Smile

Isntitironic · 20/07/2015 23:11

Please tell us what happened!!

TheSpottedZebra · 20/07/2015 23:12

Choos sorry, but all of Sweden has forfeited the right to have an opinion on cake, due to this abomination ----> Sandwich Cake

Deedeecupcake · 20/07/2015 23:12

I've read the entire thread thinking there would be a resolution, but no... NOTHING!

OP, I know now how your children feel waiting for that blumming cake

Patspanandjam · 20/07/2015 23:13

I have read to the very end & I can't believe there's been no update.

Shock

Hope your day ended ok op!!

DustBunnyFarmer · 20/07/2015 23:14

Well, at 12.01 it won't be her birthday anymore and it will be open season on the (by then) non-festive cake. Fill your boots, I say!

MsVestibule · 20/07/2015 23:14

I'm on a fast day today. I've consumed under 500 calories. The thought of an unwanted/uneaten cake sitting in a fridge is making me weep.

Thank god I don't have in laws.

ProcrastinatorGeneral · 20/07/2015 23:15

Superb tactic Gnome!

DustBunnyFarmer · 20/07/2015 23:16

The sandwich cake is friggin' awesome, Zebra. I want one for my packed lunch. I'm assuming the 'frosting' is cream cheese. Yum!

DustBunnyFarmer · 20/07/2015 23:17

Ahem, a slice of one. Not the whole thing, obvs.

Pixel · 20/07/2015 23:17

LooseSeal I claim my prize for getting the Portal reference .

Well I've caught up with this thread and am totally bemused. I can't help thinking that if OP 'hasn't the authority' to serve up a cake she helped to make then the cake is the least of her problems!
Am I the only one feeling sorry for MIL? There she is, waiting for the cake she knows is in the fridge, but not wanting to presume it's for her (guessing it hasn't got 'happy birthday MIL' piped on the top) because that would be rude. The children have spent all day walking into the kitchen, staring silently at her and walking out again. No one has offered her a present. Some people haven't even got out of bed!

DoesItReallyMatter · 20/07/2015 23:18

I need an update and a slice of cake. Sad

achieve15 · 20/07/2015 23:24

this is the oddest thread....I'm so baffled....or is it actually a Harold Pinter play? Confused

OP, couldn't help noticing this in your posts "Again, evening cake is a little odd as cake is really for the kids and they'll be going to bed"

if it's really for the kids and not for her, and she knows it, she probably thinks it's up to you to decide when the cake is eaten. Not much of a gesture if it was really made for the kids Confused

yes, this really is like a Harold Pinter play, did they just find one in the vaults and the marketing people are testing how invested the audience might get? Grin

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 20/07/2015 23:32
lutra3d · 20/07/2015 23:33

I hope OP isn't a cake troll.

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