Wedding invitation

[PaintedTshirt]

Never thought I'd be doing one of these, but here it goes!

The wedding is that of (very) extended family, but we all see eachother fairly regularly at events and so. Have known the bride for years, but as I say through extended family on DH's side.

If we (DH and I) hadn't been invited I wouldn't have batted an eyelid, but as it happens DH is invited and I am not. I'm really surprised with how upset I feel . He's only invited to the evening and I know me coming too would make no difference to numbers or cost.

So AIBU to feel like shit? I'm not sure how many of the in laws are invited yet, but at a guess it's everyone except me

[hibbledibble]

Unless the card was intended to be about your dc, it doesn't seem like a mistake.

I would worry that they have been embarrassed into inviting you.

[PaintedTshirt]

Yes I know that is a likely possibility. Maybe I'm being a mug

It's all so embarrassing.

[Jackie0]

Yes embarrassing, for THEM

[CrapBag]

I would assume the card was meant for DCs and they forgot to put your name on it or it was not meant to be in there at all.

You are invited you said the you get on with them so I don't see what the problem is.

[BrockAuLit]

I think they've been embarrassed into this (at best).

I would be making nice, non-committal noises about planning to come but at crunch time not go (prob using kids as an excuse). I really wouldn't want to be somewhere I'm not wanted, and would insist that DH go and enjoy himself (not his fault after all).

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

I think if it's a mistake, and I'd made it, I would be phoning you to apologise!

In your place, if I didn't get a phonecall, I'd be wary of going - but now you have got an invitation (apparently) it could be seen as petty and churlish not to go, so I supposed I would go.

I once had to ask someone if I was actually invited to their wedding, as everyone else had received their invitations, and mine hadn't turned up, despite me supposedly being included, and being asked to bring along some sound system equipment. That was embarrassing! I got round it by sending an email saying that I didn't know whether to send the stuff with friend A (going to the whole thing) or friend B (only to the evening) as I didn't have an invitation so didn't know what if anything I was invited to. Got the invitation a couple of days later, for the whole thing, so I like to think that the original did actually get lost in the post (I'd lost a few things in the post during that period, so not inconceivable). STILL very embarrassing having to do it though!

[FishWithABicycle]

You may never know if it was a genuine mistake but I think you should go if you possibly can - not going would be seen as having taken massive offense and now bearing a grudge, it could develop into a rift in the family. Take their word that it was a mistake with grace, and forgive and forget.

[Dunkyourcustardcream]

Totally agree with officervanhalen