To think this isn't quite right?

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Dd (6) in the park after school the other day. She has two best friends, and the backstory (which I won't get into too much) is that one friend has a helicopter mum and has gradually been driving a wedge between not only our relationships but also the 3 girls seem to be playing less and less together.

Anyway, other day helicopter mums (HM) dd had a massive sausage roll. My dd and other friend asked if they could have some. Friend turned to HM and said "do I have to?" And HM said "only if you want". Well she decided that actually she didn't want to. In the end the roll was far too large for her to finish but she still refused to share it and HM said "why didn't you bring a snack?"

Is it me or should we be encouraging our children to share?

This has got weird.

Don't you realise Jesus was Jewish.

I imagine the sausage roll was in some sort of golf cart-like vehicle, to allow eating whilst on the move.

I have said my 10 hail marys and now I'm gagging for Maryland cookies. Frickin' religion, no wonder I'm fat. All them loaves and fishes and chips and curry sauce and doughnuts.

I really want to hear about helicopter mum's other irritating habits. And what of the third child - was her mum/dad/person there too? It sounds like HM thinks fair play is when her dc gets to decide who gets some of her massive dinnersnack/play with whom/and what game. Whilst OP's dd happily shares her snacks, though doesn't necessarily want to play the same games. In which case, imo, they have to find a game they both want to play and I agree the parents leave them to sort it out.

Now, back to the sausage rolls: hot or cold? which is best?

YABVU.

It is very rude to ask for food. You should be teaching your child that, not getting indignant because another child chose not to share their food. Note it was their food, not your DDs.

The mother helicoptering has fuck all to do with this situation as well. You clearly Don trike her or her child so maybe you should stop socialising with them.

I hate sharing my food and if someone asks for any I think they are incredibly rude and wouldn't share. Even as a child I knew this. I also don't force my DCs to share. One naturally does anyway because she likes to, the other doesn't and that is his choice as the food is his and no one else has the right to it.

But this is pointless as you have asked AIBU, have been told several times over that you are and are still refusing to budge so why ask.

I would def make my child share huge sausage roll if a friend asked for a bit. I'm with you OP. I agree it's not very civilised to refuse and watch your child snaffle through such a glutionous snack.

glutinous think that's right now.

True, totallybewildered. Therefore he would have been having hamburgers (no cheese).

No, I think you are a bit of a sausage though! This isn't a philosophy thread. I'm glad you feel comfortable sharing that you read a book on it though. Better go to the beginning of the thread and read the question. I'm glad you like sharing.

Everyone was being u.

Your dd to ask - bad manners.

Her dd not to share - bad manners.

Hm to query presence of your snack - rude.

You to be so judgey and mean - not nice.

I vote this thread goes to classics, for MadHenLady's posts if nothing else.

This thread's fantastic, made all the more gratifying by punctuating posts from people who've only perused the OP. MadHen and Peppa, you're obviously on a roll! Badoom-tish.

Yes, I am enjoying the interjections from the OP readers..

Yesstripy . All food up for sharing. If you bring food out with friends and they don't have any... Share, share, SHARE! You should offer before being asked as well. What's wrong with you all? OK I'm a quarter Irish may be that has something to do with it.

Mumsnet is becoming such a parallel universe.

Where children who ask their FRIENDS for a PIECE of their VERY LARGE snack are clearly being brought up incorrectly. And are rude. Very very rude.

Where if you don't fill your child up on snacks an hour before dinner time you are a bad parent.

Where a child should be encouraged NOT TO SHARE if they don't want to.

Where sausage rolls are clearly POISON and saying "not everyday" equates to "never".

Where fruit is equivalent to sugar laden donuts and other such poisonous sugary foods.

Where we only ever feed our children homemade organic meals.

Where we like to judge the other person but condemn those that judge us in return.

Where somehow, quite hilariously, Jesus has become involved in a thread about a humongous sausage roll.

Wow. Just wow.

Hey, OP - you very much set the tone of the thread...

I'm with you OP. Who are these people?

Yabu. And slightly odd. You ask aibu. You are told that Yabu. You really need to see that you are. Simple.

The more you post op, the more it becomes clear why this other lady is keen to drive a wedge between your relationship. People who are always right aren't much fun to be around.

YANBU

OP....it's nice to be taught to OFFER some of your snack....but even nicer to be taught not to ask!

OP don't forget

Where sausage rolls are as long as your arm

Where is the rest of the sentence Sparkling?

Oh sorry, my mistake. No full stop Wide that was the sentence. I would love to live in a parallel universe with oversized baked goods.

Sparkling that has made me howl

And I was in a shit mood!