To think this isn't quite right?

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Dd (6) in the park after school the other day. She has two best friends, and the backstory (which I won't get into too much) is that one friend has a helicopter mum and has gradually been driving a wedge between not only our relationships but also the 3 girls seem to be playing less and less together.

Anyway, other day helicopter mums (HM) dd had a massive sausage roll. My dd and other friend asked if they could have some. Friend turned to HM and said "do I have to?" And HM said "only if you want". Well she decided that actually she didn't want to. In the end the roll was far too large for her to finish but she still refused to share it and HM said "why didn't you bring a snack?"

Is it me or should we be encouraging our children to share?

Judging taking place on an AIBU thread. Who's have thought it?

Fuck it, OP won't tell us where the huge sausage roll came from.

It's all about the mutant cornish pasty now

OMG the sausage roll was binned now.

Nope, I flatly refuse to get in the idle of 6 year old politics. If HM wants to, that's fine. Probably explains why my dd doesn't much like her dd now.

I hope I don't get flamed by people from Cornwall now... I love your pasties, I do. Last time I was in Cambridge, DH and I ate at the Cornish pasty shop the entire weekend. I had the one with chickpeas in. Lovely thick crust.

Would you like me to text HM and ask her where giant sausage roll came from? I can. And FYI, the OP says that she couldn't finish it.

It's kind to share

But not compulsory. Or do people not have a choice?

TapTap, I was going to ask if it was a Greggs sausage roll but then thought nah fuck it, that's been done to death on here

The child is BU for not hurling the remainder at the pigeons and/or seagulls

'It is kind to share. It doesn't fuck up your kids, and it is easy.'

Of course, but it's only kind if you choose to share.

Kids being 'tricked' or forced into sharing are not being kind. That's surely an easy thing to understand?

I would like you to text your friend, yes OP.

Yeah text her OP, g'wan, you might as well. I'm bored and it's either this or me knitting

And kids who have enough to go around are not being kind in not sharing.

It's not 6 year old politics if the mother has waded in. You are allowing your dd to be forced to do something by another adult and it's fine?

Sorry op, I think you might be exaggerating

But OP...would you WANT your DD to have a leftover bit of spitty, chewed sausage roll?

My goodness. It isn't some massive thing (as some of you believe)
I don't go in for all this modern "how do you feel darling, Sarah wants a crisp... Can you work with that sweetie?"
Just tell them to share, and get on with your day.
Honestly, they're going to be okay!

So if the girl had shared the ssg roll, OP would be on here moaning about the crap quality food she can't avoid her DD getting from other less-salubrious children, right?

Nope, I flatly refuse to get in the idle of 6 year old politics. If HM wants to, that's fine. Probably explains why my dd doesn't much like her dd now.

You don't like 'HM', your daughter doesn't like her daughter (but wanted to eat her food anyway - because don't we all ask people we don't like to give us their food?) - cut your losses, simplify your life and don't bother meeting up with them anymore. It's a pretty obvious solution and saves an ocean of bitching/judging/massive sausage rolls all round.

There are a fair number of article out there explaining why making children share things isn't particularly logical or desirable, like this one. I wouldn't hand over part of my sausage roll if someone asked for some and in an adult it would be rude to ask. Same goes for my child.

But but but but but

the child had a sausage roll the size of pluto
she couldn't finish it
it wasn't her last morsel of food for a week
it was a vast amount of food
like turning up to meet friends in the park with many sandwiches and dips and evil evil child-killing fruit and refusing to share
it was an abundance of sausage roll!
there was no reason not to share

madness
this is all madness

Purplehair I've sent a CAT to Justine about your froot shootery, expect your next log in attempt to end in a land of hunnery and tickers. I'll have mods onto you and everything.

PS Yes please, I'd like to know where one can buy the enormoroll came from. Was it actually just an entire pig wrapped in pastry? Basically a Peppa Wellington? Asking for a friend.

Peppa Wellington

Snort!

My goodness. It isn't some massive thing (as some of you believe)

It WAS a massive thing. A massive sausage roll. It was comparable to the arm of a well-nourished woman.

If you had a glass of wine, or a nice sandwich, would you feel odd if two friends asked to share?

it was like a hog roast with a Just Roll raincoat

mad true.
I want one now. Perfect for summer parties.