To think this isn't quite right?

[Allisgood1]

Dd (6) in the park after school the other day. She has two best friends, and the backstory (which I won't get into too much) is that one friend has a helicopter mum and has gradually been driving a wedge between not only our relationships but also the 3 girls seem to be playing less and less together.

Anyway, other day helicopter mums (HM) dd had a massive sausage roll. My dd and other friend asked if they could have some. Friend turned to HM and said "do I have to?" And HM said "only if you want". Well she decided that actually she didn't want to. In the end the roll was far too large for her to finish but she still refused to share it and HM said "why didn't you bring a snack?"

Is it me or should we be encouraging our children to share?

Shockers the child had the equivalent of a bottle of wine and a basket full of sandwiches.

i am changing my name to peppawellington

'And kids who have enough to go around are not being kind in not sharing.'

Sure, but that is something that kids need to be given a chance to do. Try not sharing and being kind and see how your friends react! Which brings us back to the question in the OP and the conclusion that the HM was absolutely right to let her DD make a choice and YABU.

But the mum should have offered to share the sausage roll before her dd took her first bit.

If I turned up at the park with a friend and a massive SR, I would offer her some before I started chomping.

Yes, but you could also slice it up and dole it out to all 40 of your guests.

It's like the feeding of the 5,000. If Jesus was a Greggs fan, and if he went to Asda for a tiger loaf

Bite

Bakeoff but how would you dismember the sausage roll?

With your fingers? Would you let them tear their own bit?

Would you like me to text HM and ask her where giant sausage roll came from?

Err, God yes! Please do that now.

oink

PeppaWellington

Why didnt you bring a snack! Yabu in this situation unless the roll was offered

And lo, Jesus did go into Greggs and yea he went into Asda.

Then he went to the park and said fuck off are you having a lump of my sausage roll, and hit his disciple with a 2 litre froot shoot bottle.

Yea, and forthwith Jesus tried to cut the tiger bread

oh fucking hell, he said, it's all coming apart, does anyone have a serrated knife?

Lo, the prostitute Mary Magdalene had a serrated knife, and she was blessed.

Then someone else begat the butter, and someone else begat the lemonade, and someone after that begat the Asda Flapjack Bites

And lo, there were ants. And it was good.

Some people are being a bit weird about the sharing thing on this thread. I don't think it's rude to ask if you can have a bit from someone else's food and I don't think it's rude to decline if someone asks you to share. I certainly wouldn't feel embarrassed if my child did either thing.

I forgot. the coleslaw was begat too

What about the wine, Madhen?

Some people are being a bit weird about the sharing thing on this thread. I don't think it's rude to ask if you can have a bit from someone else's food and I don't think it's rude to decline if someone asks you to share. I certainly wouldn't feel embarrassed if my child did either thing.

Agree completely with this

Alas, quoth the disciples. We have forgotten about the wine.

And they tore their hair and there was much wailing and gnashing of teeth

Fear not my children, sayeth the LORD. There is a Winemark just down the road, and if you send the nearest shepherd boy in his souped-up Ibiza, he can be back with half a dozen bottles of Echo Falls before you start on the egg sandwiches

And so it was done, and it was right in the eyes of the LORD

Praaaaaaaise Beeeeeeee

Is the shepherd boy hot?

.....but the ice creams were bejams

[gimmer]

I think you'll find Jesus and his picnic companions were all men who wore dresses.

Undoubtedly the shepherd boy was in hot pants and topless.

So yes, hot

My kids are taught to share Toys not Food! YABVVU

Clearly people here have some very poor insight into bringing up children. Children with a friendship and too much food for themselves should always be willing to share. If they say no to sharing eat a bit then throw it away. They have not been helped to fit into a community. And most people on here aren't considering community. I would suggest the point where this child asked her mother if she should share was too late. If she is disinclined to share with a friend at this point, her mother taught her this way. Her Mother could have asked her if she was starving? Then told her to share. Sharing is what will bring happiness to the child, not this closed attitude most have encouraged here. Remember to live in a community, not a family bubble, where our own child is sacred. All children are sacred. And sacred people always share!

The shepherd boy is OK looking, but he is a bit skinny and malnourished, poor thing.

And lo, the picnic was ended. Everyone was half cut, and realised they couldn't drive home

Who shall lead us, the people cried

And then the VOICE OF THE METATRON came down from on high

YEA it said. There is one among you who was marked at birth as a leader of men. And his name is DAVE

And so it came to pass that THE PROPHET DAVE, who worked at the One Stop Mortgage Shop, led the people out from the park, down the dual carriageway and towards THE BUS STATION

The journey was long, and the people cried

Our children are hungry, Prophet Dave. Why does the LORD punish us so

Prophet Dave looked in vain for some manna, but YEA, he spotted a Texaco Garage.

And so it came to pass that all the people went and bought out-of-fate-kitkats and packets of Quavers from a pimply youth called KEANU

And YEA, Prophet dave led them safely to THE BUS STATION whereupon they caught the 5.20 to THE PROMISED LAND

'Every sperm is SAAAACRED, every sperm is great, if a sperm is waaasted, God gets quite iraaaate'

Oh Lord. You are so Big. So incredibly huge

We're all really impressed down here, I can tell you