is it time to stop with the 'girls' day/night out shit?

[FrankietheSquealer]

Its patronising

Oh cos it's ladies night and the feeling right, yeah it's ladies night, oh what a night, oooooh what a night...

We had both girls/boys nights out and mixed group nights out when I was a student 26/27 years ago (fuck, I am ancient) - it hasn't really changed.

Dh and I are going to the pub but who is taking who out??

Is it me taking him because I suggested it or him taking me because he went to the bar first. Now he used the joint account but I contribute more to that. But I had a bottle of wine (£23.80) but he had 4 pints (£16.80).

It's a minefield :(

When DH takes me out, e.g. For my birthday next week, he chooses where and drives and pays.

When I take him out, it's the other way around.

Why do people have to get at that? Just because they split everything?

Someone I know puts on Facebook about three nights a week 'date night with the husband'

That's just bloody leaving the house in the company of the person you live with. They've no kids, every night is fecking date night!

You know the show Take Me Out? I always thought it should refer to snipers...

Ooh ooh, I had a girls night out last night. I think I win the bingo on this one, two of us had a cheeky glass of fizz in the cheap pub before meeting th other 'girls' somewhere else. I took a selfie of us all and put it on facebook with the caption 'love my girls' and even a hashtag. We all drank cocktails and raised our glasses "to girls' night out!". We woop wooped.

You all hate me I suspect. But I don't care cos I gots my girlies. #besties

I'm going on a 'girls night out' tonight!
Can't wait!!

You need to change the restaurants you frequent Frankie.

Indeed. What a silly thread.

Mind you there is a thread where the patriarchal oppression of describing a lab coat as a "man's lab coat" is being discussed. It's part of a great conspiracy.

I did consider replying and pointing out that actually women's bodies are a different shape (men have narrower hips and broader shoulders )and directing them to a website of a lab coat maker which points out the female version of say the chest 36 coat coat will be shorter and have shorter sleeves than the men's. But it wouldn't be worth the effort. The posters concerned are probably happier that it's a big conspiracy against women.

"Ladies' Day " is just a shorthand way of identifying " the day at the races where , if you want to, you can have a bit of fun and dress up in the sort of dress and hat you normally wear to a wedding, (giving you the chance to recycle that expensive and hardly worn wedding hat) And these days, given most of us are happy with gender fluidity you don't even have to be a lady in the traditional sense of having xx chromosome"

Alternatively you can get worked up about "ladies" being another oppressive, patriarchal term.

Is it wine o'clock yet?

I concur with the girlfriend thing. As a lesbian it can cause my great confusing.

My 60 year old vair posh aunt once said "ahh yes I once had a girlfriend who hiked for a hobby"

My jaw nearly hit the fucking floor until I realised what she meant

I agree with SirChenJin on the first page and then many others afterwards.

If you don't like the term, then that's your prerogative - don't use it, but it really, really, really isn't something to get worked up about.

I'm also curious, what is it about the term 'girls' that offends you. It is common parlance for a (friendship) group of females of any age. It's one of those many, many words that has evolved over the years, to be used in a wider variety of ways than the original "female child". Personally I think it's a nice term - friendly, descriptive, clear - but am happy for you not to use it if you don't. Just can't understand your angst.

#bliss #blessed

Just throwing those in there.

I'm with you OP.

People on "girls' " or even worse "girly" nights out drink "cheeky" drinks and eat things which they later describe as "naughty".
AND
I
HATE
THEM
AAAALLLLLL.

Are the DHs babysitting while they go on their girls' night out?

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'Girls/ladies nights' conjure an image of a specific type of person, in my mind. I won't elaborate beyond that cos the flaming I'd get would be hot enough to melt steel

When we were students everyone used to go out together. Suddenly it's gender-segregated nights out with 'the lads' or 'the girls'. I hate it.

Yes, that's exactly how it was in my experience too.

And that's how it still is as far as I can see.

It's one of those many, many words that has evolved over the years, to be used in a wider variety of ways than the original "female child". Personally I think it's a nice term - friendly, descriptive, clear - but am happy for you not to use it if you don't. Just can't understand your angst.

As is "lass". I completely agree with you but there are others who consider it patronising and demeaning. I was told very firmly that "guys " is much better and acceptable - it's flattering to women to be called "guys" .

Oh god yes to 'naughty'. Awful. Ooh shall we be naughty and have a cheeky cig?

Funny how so many people think this isnt an issue, yet hang around to talk about it

( not being an issue)

It's a non issue - but non issues are still up for discussion, aren't they?

Snort