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To think that some BMW are complete cocks?

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Meandyouandyouandme · 09/07/2015 15:22

Just had a massive standoff with a BMW driver. I had right of way, cars were parked all down his side, so I expected him to pull over to let me pass. At the point where we met, he was about 4 foot past a large space to pull in, which was also opposite a side road, which would have I would have been able to use to get past. So there was plenty of room for us to pass without either of us really waiting. He stopped on my side of the road, and expected me to drive on the pavement to get round him. I just stopped, I didn't have anywhere to be, in a hurry, so thought he would move eventually!
Some scaffolders on a nearby house started telling him to reverse but he wasn't having any of it.
A lady behind me tried to get him to reverse, then another guy told him to reverse. But all to no avail, I gave in to his complete twattery and drove on the pavement to get round him. I shouted to him that he needs to learn how to drive, he told me that I was jealous of his car. Hmm If having a car like that makes you drive like a cock, then I'm glad I don't have one.
I'm absolutely shaking with the frustration of his arrogance. I have noticed since driving a small car, I get cut up a lot. But this was ridiculous.

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Rafflesway · 09/07/2015 15:53

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Antlily · 09/07/2015 16:01

I drive a BMW, I don't think drive like a dick or at least I hope not.

I do seem to get more aggression than my boyfriend does. I think some people still dislike woman driving sports cars especially ones that stick to the speed limit.

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Meandyouandyouandme · 09/07/2015 16:02

Yes as he told me I was jealous of his car, I think the make of car is highly relevant to this. I am not bothered about what car I drive so long as it goes Grin

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Meandyouandyouandme · 09/07/2015 16:07

My mum once got pulled over by the police when she was driving her red BMW a few years ago, it was down as a drug dealers car! They now have a black one, not sure if that's better, surely less likely to stand out, though I am not a drug dealer. My mum was about 65 at the time and is a retired nursery school teacher, not known to do anything illegal AFAIK Confused

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StandoutMop · 09/07/2015 16:08

I noticed when I drove a BMW (dh company car, not chosen by us), people were less likely to let me pull out, filter in turn etc. Think they expected me to be pushy / aggressive and thought "oh no you don't". Am pretty confident my driving style didn't change though.

Quietlifenotonyournelly · 09/07/2015 16:09

guiltynetter I have owned both BMWs and Audis and I can honestly say that I am very mindful of others and am courteous to my fellow road users. Must be a man thing Smile

EponasWildDaughter · 09/07/2015 16:20

I drive a BMW 3 series and i don't drive like a cock.

I DO seem to attract aggression from other drivers though.

IMO the biggest cocks on the road are the women who drive the big flash always perfectly white 4x4s. They will NOT move over slightly in case they get a bit of mud up their bloody car and always drive up your arse all the way down the road. They do not, however, seem to have the driving skills (or the balls?) to overtake on the straight bits of road so they drop back then; only to get back up y'bum afterwards. Fuckers.

foxinsocks · 09/07/2015 16:24

I used to drive a Ford Smax and now I drive an (old) BMW 5 series

the change in attitude towards me is extraordinary!

I don't drive any differently, but most drivers are more impatient with me.At lights, people often pull up next to me and expect me to race off. And if I make a tiny mistake, someone will hoot or have a go that's for sure. I do find that other BMW drivers are far nicer to me though Grin

they are fantastic to drive - have never driven such a comfortable, easy car

I am selling it though, as i am going to get a Japanese thing that costs nothing to service and has a long warranty. Old BMWs cost a fortune to look after.

limitedperiodonly · 09/07/2015 16:27

Some scaffolders on a nearby house started telling him to reverse but he wasn't having any of it.

Yeah. Because people mistake a scaffolder's yell for the wisdom of Solomon all the time.

ouryve · 09/07/2015 16:29

I've seen some pretty stupid and aggressive driving by women, too meandyou

Though my favourite certain type of car incident was about a month into a snowy period, where the lying snow was well over a foot deep in places and hard and lumpy underneath. Some silly woman, who happened to be driving an Audi, decided it was a good idea to turn into the uncleared social club car park and promptly got stuck in the entrance. She was wearing pyjamas and a sweatshirt. No coat. She asked me if I could help push her out, which I'm not physically capable of doing even when not stuck in lumpy snow, so I told her she would have to dig herself out - complete blank look. I mean, we were only a month into one of the most severe winters we've ever had, here, so why should she think of carrying a spade (or even a coat) in her car. I ended up pointing her in the direction of a friendly local who would be bound to have a spade in their shed. She took out her phone instead.

The BMWs generally don't make it to that car park when the roads are that bad. They usually get stuck on the hill outside our house.

BettyVonBooperson · 09/07/2015 16:31

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ouryve · 09/07/2015 16:32

We're Japanese car fans, too. Not Mazda, though. The one we had seemed to be held together by spit and wishful thinking.

ASettlerOfCatan · 09/07/2015 16:39

Some PEOPLE are BMWs... Bloody Minded Wankers (or big massive wankers if you prefer) THAT is the issue!

foxinsocks · 09/07/2015 16:41

that's interesting ouryve

as on paper the mazda cx-5 is the best car of that size around (has the best engine, powerful, good spec etc.) yet most people seem to opt for the Honda CR-V. I am toying with both at the moment. I'm put off the nissan qashqai as everyone seems to have one (it's also a bit too small). 2 people on our street have got the new Kia Sportage which also looks good!

CoolAs10Fonzies · 09/07/2015 16:42

the driver in this instance was the cock. it has no bearing on the type of car imo

there is absolutely no way that I would have waited this out. as a driver you are also responsible for the flow of traffic and two wrongs don't make a right.

I am probably in the minority in my opinion here, but I would probably just do whatever I could to avoid delays and let the knobed in the fancy car just fuck off and get on with his day.

I'd shake my head as he moved past but to actually have a stand off would actually affect me more whilst knobchops has probably forgotten all about the episode

you cannot reason with stupidity so why give yourself the extra aggro.

it's shit really because these people will continue to get away with this type of aggressive behaviour but emotionally I am not equipped to deal with twats

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Meandyouandyouandme · 09/07/2015 16:53

limitedperiodonly - one of the scaffolders was stood next my car when I stopped, so just asked the guy to reverse, then the others started shouting. I was being bullied basically, and they helped me. This guy had the hide of a rhino to stay though all that. No two wrongs don't make a right, which is why I gave in. This road has numerous other ways to go round, as most of the cars that pulled up behind the cock, then turned down the side road and carried on with no problem.

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Meandyouandyouandme · 09/07/2015 16:56

But basically I had to drive on the pavement or reverse about 100 yards to keep the traffic flow going, even though I was on my side of the road and he was in my way. I go down this road at least four times a day, so am sure to come across him again. Will do a live stand off Grin

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Sunnymeg · 09/07/2015 17:07

I think a lot of sales reps drive BMW's and nowadays they have such tight schedules that many of them don't have time to sit behind someone doing the speed limits. They have to drive fast to get to the next appointment so woe betide anyone who gets in their way.

0x530x610x750x630x79 · 09/07/2015 17:10

I did this one day, i did actually turn my engine off and sat listening to the news quiz.
Eventually a white van man behind him told him to reverse and he did. i don't know the make of his car.

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Meandyouandyouandme · 09/07/2015 17:12

The irony is this guy didn't even have to turn his wheel, to let me pass, just slow down and stop a few feet earlier, and I would have pulled into the side road and he could have carried on quicker than I could, it was baffling.

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limitedperiodonly · 09/07/2015 17:27

Everyone drives stupidly sometimes. Mostly it's a lapse of concentration and sometimes it's because they are cocks.

It's more to do with their attitude and competence than the kind of car they drive.

In your situation I'd have sighed and gone up the kerb after a while. I guess it's against the Highway Code but it was probably the easiest course unless you were going to sit there all day until the police turned up to adjudicate.

I'm sure your chivalrous scaffolder directed pedestrians out your way.

If I found myself behind either of you I'd have been really pissed off at a stand-off no matter who thought they were in the right.

TightWadBastard · 09/07/2015 17:32

I think it's the driver, not the car. Although some of the series 3 BMW drivers are twunts, and Audi drivers are twunts.... I think their attitude boils down to self-made men who have got their aspirational car so they drive with a sense of entitlement but no manners.

And we all know that is is the manners which makes the class, not the car.

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Meandyouandyouandme · 09/07/2015 18:53

Sounds like I'm not the only one who would take a stand, if only for a few minutes. As I said up thread, there are several ways round this road, if you know the other ways, like most people did, there was only one car behind me and one behind the other driver, so not a massive hold up.
He thought he owned the road and no one was getting in his way, definitely got no manners and was old, fat, and grey, so was obviously jealous of my youth and beauty Hmm

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lampygirl · 09/07/2015 18:58

I find that less people let me out/try to race me in my big beemer than if in in DP's little panda (our car choices make sense, he poodles round cities and I do 3x as many miles up and down the motorway and we also have a huge dog, and I don't like the interior in anything from the VW group...)

It kind of breeds you to be a bit more assertive. I'm not a different person, but in the panda I often get waved out of junctions if traffic is queuing for example, whereas in re BMW everyone inches right up not to let me in, so I end up having to force myself out or id never go anywhere. Mine is a 5 series estate, so it's not even boy racer.

Raffles, mine is fine in the winter. Spends 4 weeks in the Swiss Alps over winter, and with winter tyres I've never failed to make it anywhere I've needed to go.

I'd say there were more cocks in clapped out Vauxhall Corsas than in BMWs round here...

RoboticSealpup · 09/07/2015 19:01

...what's your opinion on Volvos?

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