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AIBU not to pay her for a party she threw

408 replies

ahphoque · 06/07/2015 21:04

Last week I was visiting a friend and she had been invited to a party by a new friend of hers. I had previously met this friend but don't know her particularly well ikywim. Anyways, since my friend had only recently met this woman, she asked me to go as her plus one and so I went along with her. The party was quite dull and the woman throwing it was a bit off with my friend and rather rude towards me so we left after an hour or so.

We didn't have anything to eat (she had laid out crisps and the like) and brought a bottle of (rather expensive) wine each aswell as flowers.

This morning I received a text from party woman demanding £5 to cover the cost of the food she laid out. Now there were at least 60 people in attendance and there is no way she spent £300 on food.

AIBU to not pay her as I didn't eat any of the food and already gave her flowers and wine?

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FunnyCatVideo · 06/07/2015 21:49

Holy fuck! Were the crisps gold plated? Yes, what prepper said. If you don't want to pay for a party yourself, then don't throw a party Hmm

StrangeLookingParasite · 06/07/2015 21:49

I should pay just to avoid future awkwardness

Er no, any awkwardness is for here. Honestly, she has the scandalous manners of a pig under a bed.

AwfulBeryl · 06/07/2015 21:50

Have you read the full message ? Is there anyway it could be some sort of joke / misunderstanding ? Confused I really can't imagine ever thinking that is a reasonable way to behave.

I like prepperpigs message, I think you should send iit, and keep us posted obviously.

StrangeLookingParasite · 06/07/2015 21:50

For her, not here.

DowntownFunk · 06/07/2015 21:50

There's no chance of avoiding future awkwardness after her text. It's a classic.

Are you going to reply?

fastdaytears · 06/07/2015 21:50

Ah if she is trying to charge you and not your friend then I think she's in a strop about your friend bringing a plus one to her very exclusive and expensive party... Which figures with her being rude to you on the night.

Anyway she's out of her mind so ignore. Am a bit Shock that your friend is saying to pay up

fastdaytears · 06/07/2015 21:51

Or can we get this as a Daily Mail sad face? I'd have a lot more sympathy than with most of them.

CatsandCrumble · 06/07/2015 21:55

??? What on earth is your friend thinking? Why would she suggest you pay up to avoid awkwardness?

broadbeanstew · 06/07/2015 21:57

Ahh, so was it because you weren't technically invited?! Even so, she's still crazy. I would open it so she can see that you've read it... And then just ignore.

CrapBag · 06/07/2015 22:05

What the hell! I'd be freaked out about how she got your number.

I go with the deducting the fiver from the wine and flowers.

Please do it and report back. Grin

MiddleAgedandConfused · 06/07/2015 22:08

Go with pepperpigs message - it's genius!

answersonapostcardplease · 06/07/2015 22:12

What pkanet are these weirdos from?Shock do not pay

bittapitta · 06/07/2015 22:13

It is wrong and impolite of her to ask. And odd to ask you but not your friend (she must be jealous of your friendship?).

But I'm curious - maybe there was food you missed or were too late/early for? If it were really only crisps how on earth could age justify the message? Any chance you missed some pizza OP?

Aeroflotgirl · 06/07/2015 22:13

If your friend wants to avoid future awkwardness, why doesent she pay it if the 'friendship' means so much. Do not pay, ignore. If you fall out with your friend, she is not much of a friend. I woukd be shocked and embarassed at my 'friends' behaviour if I was your friend. I would ask my 'friend' what she playing at!

answersonapostcardplease · 06/07/2015 22:14

Future akwardness, not a problem as you have no intention of seeing her again. You friend is weird too.

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ahphoque · 06/07/2015 22:15

My friend was told by crisp lady to bring a plus one, my attendance seems to have thrown her though. She came up to us at one point and very arrogantly told me to sing her a song as she was bored, like i was a performing animal or something then got really pissed off when I wouldn't oblige. Even her husband was Confused

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Topaz25 · 06/07/2015 22:16

Wow, sounds like she has issues! Ignore and avoid.

MrsKoala · 06/07/2015 22:17

I think she's seen her arse because you were not technically invited (altho she should take that up with your mutual friend who invited you along).

I am laughing here imagining her simmering away all week since the party, muttering to herself. She probably banged on about it so much to her dp/friend that when she suggested she text you for a 'payment' they just agreed to shut her the fuck up. So then she thought, i bloody well will you know, and did it in a pique and now she is hopefully cringing and keeps checking her app (no idea what that is btw) to see if you have read it.

Defo read it. Then a week later reply. 'shame on your batty'

Grin What a berk!

MrsKoala · 06/07/2015 22:18

I think 'future awkwardness' should positively be cultivated in this circumstance.

usualsuspect333 · 06/07/2015 22:18

All sounds very odd.

SugarOnTop · 06/07/2015 22:19

i'd send her this in response

Appleblossom82 · 06/07/2015 22:20

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snala · 06/07/2015 22:22

Have you opened the message yet op?

rollonthesummer · 06/07/2015 22:23

??? What on earth is your friend thinking? Why would she suggest you pay up to avoid awkwardness?

This. Your friend's response is just as odd as party girl's one!

Aeroflotgirl · 06/07/2015 22:24

She sounds like she is a sandwich short of a picknick, delete and block her number and avid your friend if she starts to get shirty. Where do Mumsnetters get these erm hilariously bad friends from, mine are lovely and normal so no such friendzilla ishoos Sad