Are my dresses unreasonable for the school run?

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I wore the black dress yesterday (see pics) and got a filthy stare off a woman pushing a buggy on the school pick up. I don't think I had my kids with me at that point. I later wore the dress to a Christian youth group, in fact I wore it to the office earlier the same day and it seemed fine. Today I had both kids on the way to school, I was wearing the dark red dress with a black cardigan. I got another long glare from the same woman, it was her staring that made me realise it was her again! I wouldn't wear the dark red dress to the office and I have pinned it to make it less low on the bust. They are both soft jersey dresses. But are they really that bad and does it make a difference whether I'm a mother or on the school run as to whether these outfits are appropriate?

all this thread verifies is that women are envious articles who do indeed cast aspersions (or indeed filthy looks) on their more physically attractive counterparts.

If we weren't wholly cognisant of this fact then the OP wouldn't be getting a flaming for inadvertently alluding to the fact that she may perceive herself as the victim of such treatment.

I think you look lovely OP. The things you have said about yourself, I could have written about me. Also, if someone gives me a dirty look I feel exactly how you do now.
No advice really but just saying I understand what your saying.

My Goodness! I googled Tinkerbelling, as if I wasn't hot enough all ready

OP, I do think asking for reassurance on how you look on AIBU was a mistake.

Several years ago I had severe anxiety and depression, going out in public was often agonising thinking people noticed me and judging me about the smallest thing. In reality most people don't notice anything much because they are preoccupied with their own lives. I might have stared at your shoes myself, as I would like to buy something similar.

FWIW I prefer the red dress; and usually avoid cleavage as I have large breasts and don't want people to over focus on them. But wear what you like and feel best in yourself, if a small minority (unlikely IMO) of people judge you that is their issue, not yours.

Silver - how can one word have developed so man alternate meanings? Are they even true?

tinkerbelling is when you dress your penis up in a small tutu and attach little butterfly wings to them. you then let it hang out of your jeans while you go shopping.

I just cutted and pasted that from urban dictionary.

ruddy - that is only one definition on urban dictionary. Scroll down....

This thread is brutal!

OP you look absolutely fine. Nothing wrong with the dresses or your appearance at all. They're very nice. You look nice.

I understand about the looking young thing but unfortunately people often see it as a stealth boast. Lots of people feel the way you do about it. It's annoying.

I think you would benefit from CBT. I'd advise you to see your GP about your anxiety and the overthinking. You can get to the point where the thinking over every little thing will be manageable and you can be happy with who you are.

I'd also hide this thread as it's not constructive.

Good luck.

OP I'm curious as to why you would wear a, slightly, revealing dress if you've self esteem issues and hate looking young? I wore a hellova lot less when I was young, many decades ago. My point is, you could wear a style of clothes that make you look older if you want.

No she hasn't Where, the HP quote was about knees of a young girl, in the film the young girl was 13/14/15 max. Nobody said OP had old-looking knees.

The photos are odd, they are posed. Why? Agree that the Muslim thing wasn't great, nor was it great followed up with 'she'll have to get used to more skin on British women' or whatever the silly comment was.

OP didn't want to post on S&B for fear of snobs; a cursory glance would have told her it's a very good board to post on for fashion advice but she chose to post here, not even on chat'.

I didn't mean 'Tinkerbell-ing' obviously, I meant 'Cinderella-ing'

OP... Style and Beauty is a very nice board if you want advice on your clothing, it really is.

On a side note I have a HUGE girlcrush on Wherethefuckismyfuckinggoat

I am going to report this thread. The OP has made a mistake posting on here.

OP, I didn't look at your other posts because I had no reason to. What I will say is this; do you honestly - hand on heart - believe that people are staring at you? From what you've described of yourself, you look like a normal, averagely dressed human being. I don't mean that nastily, you may be very pretty and clearly have a nice figure. However, people are just not that interested in others. I understand feeling self conscious and I have major body issues but as I've got older, I've realised that it's me who notices and the majority of other people don't notice. I think you're projecting how you feel about yourself onto others.

Oh.. are there 2? just re-read and it says coat not goat.. forever alone

Ironically perhaps, I think it is just quite a British thing to bristle when we sense people are fishing for compliments - it doesn't mean 'women are their own worst enemies' or 'envious articles'.

I'm sorry if the OP is suffering from anxiety or similar, and I actually have no comment at all to make on how she looks, which is, as far as I can see, fine. I do agree that some of the posts which relate specifically to what she personally looks like might be hurtful.

However, the OP has swung quite radically from noting how many people look at her, how young she looks etc to - as soon as she was called on the 'Muslim lady' thing - saying nothing but how anxious and lacking in self-esteem she is, so I'm not sure it all quite holds together.

Of course I can see that if you have low self esteem you might want it bolstering, but this (pose-y selfies, close ups of cleavage, odd comments about muslims, comments on how young you look) on AIBU is not a good way to go about that.

Lying, you're being disingenuous. From your previous posts you clearly stated that the op was deluded to think she could look like her daughters sister. When you were challenged that you couldn't possibly say that because her face wasn't in view, your follow up to that was "you can always tell the knees of a young girl" (paraphrasing). Insinuating that the op's knees showed her age. At least have courage in your convictions when you're insulting someone.

I don't know, Lego, I'm definitely 'coat'

I wasn't 'challenged' and I stand by what I wrote. I said that OP's sister would be in her 40s not 5. Then I wrote the HP quote. I don't insinuate and have no idea how old the OP is. Think what you like, Where, but disingenuous I am not.

i'm 99% sure it's always been goat before... in fact just the other day i was admiring your username..

perhaps envy is a truly British affliction then Original?

I doubt it though, furthermore it's rather disingenuous to imply that the majority of us don't recognise the fact that we are, on the whole envious of more physically attractive women.
whether we act on or display our envy is quite another matter but lets not pretend that it doesn't exist.

we're all adults here after all and none of us is perfect (or blind)

Not everyone share's your ideologies lemonade a lot of people couldn't give one single shiny shit about other women's looks, be they more or less attractive.

And your comment on none of us being blind is rather disingenuous - to use your turn of phrase.

Do people have to be arseholes?

Hide this thread OP, it is not good for you.

Why would people stare because you look younger than you are? . Unless you're going up to people and announcing "I'm 82, you know"...
Why would they assume you are in fact older than you think you look?
Are you a bit of a drama llama in all areas?

Today 12:47 LyingWitchInTheWardrobe

Unless your daughter is in her 40s you won't look like her sister. Do you think you're 'jail bait' or something? Your posts are very incongruous with how you say you really are?

Today 12:50 TheHouseOnBellSt

Witch and you can't say if she looks like her DD or not because you can't see her head! Her body could be that of a 25 year old and if her DD was 15 or 16 then yes...they could be sisters.

Today 12:53 LyingWitchInTheWardrobe

Just this then... Hercule Poirot, Cat Among the Pigeons... "You can always tell the knees of a young girl".

If these posts don't show what I described above then I'm obviously misreading things.