Are my dresses unreasonable for the school run?

[MyNameIsPinkiePie]

I wore the black dress yesterday (see pics) and got a filthy stare off a woman pushing a buggy on the school pick up. I don't think I had my kids with me at that point. I later wore the dress to a Christian youth group, in fact I wore it to the office earlier the same day and it seemed fine. Today I had both kids on the way to school, I was wearing the dark red dress with a black cardigan. I got another long glare from the same woman, it was her staring that made me realise it was her again! I wouldn't wear the dark red dress to the office and I have pinned it to make it less low on the bust. They are both soft jersey dresses. But are they really that bad and does it make a difference whether I'm a mother or on the school run as to whether these outfits are appropriate?

Fair enough Rousette, but a lot of the other compliments have been thinly (and not so thinly) veiled insults and accusations of attention seeking etc. I just think it's shameful behaviour when the op is evidently vulnerable.

OP your dress and your figure are very, very average.
I hope that this comforts you.
nobody would glance at you twice ordinarily so perhaps the woman in question had a visual affliction.

This isn't worthy of the stealth boast which I struggle to believe you were aiming for.

Middle East

Where did that come from?

Don't take it to heart Roussette

I think the OP may just be homing in on the critical comments, seems very common these days for the negative to drown out the positive.

A shame that people feel the need to post the negative stuff but that's their own issue.

On behalf of the OP thanks Roussette you've cheered me right up

MyName I honestly think that your posts and your pictures don't go together. I have good self esteem and confidence, I like myself and I'm comfortable in my skin. However, I would rather stick red hot pins in my eyeballs than post a picture of myself on MN. I would die a thousand deaths.

Yet, you, with the low self esteem and lacking in confidence are happy to post three pictures.

So FWIW if my compliments are OTT, I apologise. You want to look OK. You've got it from me. You look OK.

There was a thread a while ago, about the husband fancying the babysitter.

I cannot put my finger on why, but this thread is giving me flashbacks to that one. Just me, or anyone else?

OP, I think in your efforts to steer everyone back to your corner you are doing yourself a massive disservice. Gruntfuttock Asks a pertinent question with regards to your updates and your story.

When posters started telling you that you had an overinflated ego you came back with how low your self-esteem is and how you tend to hide from society and as such you "feel out of touch." Jumping from one extreme to the other won't help.

You need to be more confident in yourself and have no regard for what others think about your dress sense or otherwise. I was once told that those who are very preoccupied with what others think of them are in effect more narcissistic than others as they think the whole world is watching them.

Fatstacks, thanks! (but I've gone into 'OK' mode now and stopped the silly ole complimenting)

Ohhhh zombie you look amazing x

All these people staring must be thinking 'Phwooooooooooooar!'

Or they're all thinking 'Here's that woman who looks around to see who's noticed her showboating in that perfectly normal dress.'

I left this thread after about page 2 because of the horrible bullying behaviour from so many people. What nasty comments. Op, I said before and I'll say again that you look great in the dresses. I'd leave the thread now or hide it.

Op, as someone who looks younger than her age I do get it. But you can't assume that that's what everyone's thinking when they look at you. That way madness lies.

You look nice, it's a perfectly inoffensive dress. The lady in the headscarf was probably just looking vacantly into the middle distance like I usually do.

Have you considered going to the gp? Obsessively anxious thoughts can sometimes be an indicator of something underlying. I was diagnosed with anxiety and pnd and one of the points that was flagged up was my paranoia about ezcema scars on my arms. In my head, I was convinced everyone I walked past was looking at them and thought I looked hideous. In reality, nobody actually noticed or gave a fuck.

stay so was it a wedding or a funeral you went to?

Cobblers! It was a funeral. That was a waste of a post.

The op got lambasted, yet again, for saying that she had spoken to an older lady in a charity shop about being older. She was justifying that by explaining that the lady had been discussing visiting the Middle East, and the issues that appearing young caused then.

As for op having kids/no kids with her when the op scenario happened, I believe she had kids with her when wearing one dress, but no kids when wearing the other - two separate days.

Sorry to those posting to help. I've seen other posts like this on here, people filling the gaps with absolute lies and rubbish and not reading what is actually written. It's easy to see only those posts and spend the whole time digging yourself out of the rubbish being thrown.

I'm surprised at how unbelievable being stared at is, like I'm making it up and could never be true. I often believe people dislike me just looking at me. Not so much because of how I look but something else they see about me.

WhereTheFuck.. You are the first person to make me cry on this post. Thank you. People rarely stand up for me so it means a lot. I know it's denied on here, but women can be judgemental and nasty and me trying to blend in and not have something people can rip apart is why I posted. I don't care about whether I look anything but unremarkable and ignorable, I just want to avoid snide comments on my appearance, the sort of school girl rubbish I experienced. I love that others don't care and so admired the friends who wore comfortable clothes and weren't on permanent diets.

It's pretty sucky that anyone can judge how someone should behave who has low self esteem.

I started wearing shorts as soon as it was warm enough this year

That would be yesterday, then :o

Dresses were fine. But why on earth were you wearing a cardigan in this weather?!

ourye

To be fair, I did have to expand my definition of 'warm enough' a tiny bit...

Please don't cry pinkie - mn can be a great source of comfort, but it can also be one of the nastiest, most judgemental places on the planet, where some people seem to get their rocks off on putting the boot in. I think they think it makes them look edgey or powerful. It doesn't. It makes them look like school children, and says more about them than it does about you. Try not to be too hard on yourself - ignore both the people on here, and the starers in rl. Not easy, I know - but you'll feel better for it

Some one who was confident and secure in their appearance would never have posted asking if there was something wrong with their outfit after getting a dodgy look of a random woman. They'd just think the woman was weird for staring and forget it. The whole act of the post is someone who is unsure and wants a second opinion.

I get that Pinkie but the process of posting a series of pics in AIBU for validation from a bunch of random strangers is FAR more scary than a look from a stranger on the street that is over and done with in seconds.

I too have searched OP's past posts.

Stop with the snide comments and move on!