Are my dresses unreasonable for the school run?

[MyNameIsPinkiePie]

I wore the black dress yesterday (see pics) and got a filthy stare off a woman pushing a buggy on the school pick up. I don't think I had my kids with me at that point. I later wore the dress to a Christian youth group, in fact I wore it to the office earlier the same day and it seemed fine. Today I had both kids on the way to school, I was wearing the dark red dress with a black cardigan. I got another long glare from the same woman, it was her staring that made me realise it was her again! I wouldn't wear the dark red dress to the office and I have pinned it to make it less low on the bust. They are both soft jersey dresses. But are they really that bad and does it make a difference whether I'm a mother or on the school run as to whether these outfits are appropriate?

Maybe I'm missing something but why are you upset at looking young??

I do understand being upset at looking young. I look younger than I am and it is embarrassing sometimes - though I'd say the lack of sleep since dd was born has aged me so maybe I don't now! I don't know why the op thought that was relevant to anything here though. I'm confused about this whole thread tbh.

"We covered all sorts of subjects and then I mentioned how people think I'm younger than I am and she agreed"

I used to know someone who was convinced she looked much younger than she was she didn't.

It was amazing how often she would crowbar it into a conversation.

oh OP it must be HARD to look as pretty, stylish and slim as you. I bet you all the women you know INCLUDING your church going friends are seething with jealousy/envy inside whenever they see you.

going to work in a dress where you can see the 'slot' for your cleavage well I don't do that (don't care if others do!). It does look a tad tacky. my opinion

the Muslim comment was a low swipe, she's entitled to look at who the hell she wants to. Why would she judge you on your dress anyway? do you actually KNOW all the Muslims out there?! disclaimer I worked with Iranian clients who did the cleavage etc and coverings and I spoke to my boss about the clothes issue one time. He said on the whole why do they care?! They may not think it's something they would wear but they generally don't judge other womens' clothing. OK I mean some do. and you're judging her so it seems for a headscarf... which is more practical in this heat

rant over.... and breathe!

OP you're being also vairy naive if you don't know what... fishing means. PS it's not to do with fish!

They look like eBay pictures.

I walk with high level of self consciousness, fidgeting with the dress, pulling it up and checking it isn't tucked into my knickers etc.

the above statement coupled with your photos - no I don't buy it... the pics contradict your so called shyness and modesty.

You'd have got a better response if you posted your pics and said something like 'I have extreme anxiety and can't judge if this is a normal outfit. Is it? I don't want to attract unesscessary attention so if it's a bit garish please say.'

Instead you put a weird story about someone looking at you while you were simultaneously with and without your children (who look like your siblings). Oh and that person was a muslim but your best friend or someone you know is also a muslim and some Christians called you a prostitute once.

I'm sad that op is still being teased.

This thread is mean even if someone is fishing, so what? People who fish for compliments online probably need them for some reason.

For what it's worth, op you're overthinking things. If you're happy in your clothes then that's all that matters.

Hi ladies, this is a pic of me doing the school run this morning. As you can tell I had to go straight to work thereafter so thought I'd kill two birds with one stone.
I received a few odd looks but can any of you tell me if there's something wrong with me? Misshapen eyebrows perhaps?

The reason I mentioned people think I look young was because she talked about going to the Middle East, she said she got a lot of attention when younger but it was easier once older, they ignored her. I said I'd been too and the attention was annoying, I said it would be nice to go when older and not get attention, although I'm told I look younger than I really am so it may be a while.

The rest have been people approaching me and bringing it up themselves, or being very shocked that I had kids and me saying I'm older than I appear. One girl came up to me to ask my age, a friend of DH's, she was about to accuse him of cradle snatching.

The reason it was mentioned was probably because I get looked at from time to time when with the kids, a puzzled look usually. I get looks far far less when I'm alone. Which is why the look yesterday was so odd and surprising. But I'm pretty sure she wasn't jealous and perhaps thought I wasn't dressed appropriately, irrespective of faith or background and some of you would consider the dresses inappropriate too so she wouldn't be alone if she did think that. I wouldn't have posted if it hadn't happened twice.

pinkie l think you are just going in circles. Can you speak to someone locally? Your doctor perhaps?

OP, you keep changing your mind about whether you were with a child when this happened. Some posts say you were on your own, but you also say "And no I wasn't staring first. I had a pushchair and holding a child's hand".

Right. One last time. Pinkie. You look great. That dress is very flattering. You have a lovely figure with a tiny waist. Your tits look very nice and not droopy like mine. All in all, from what I can see, you look like a very attractive woman. Make the most of the looking younger bit because one day that might not be the case. Feel grateful that you do look young because there are those out there me who has never really looked anything but the age they are. The End.

I thought that Private????!!!!!!

Was Sharon there?

grunt l think she can't remember because it is all wrapped up in her anxiety.
I'm sure pinkie would be the first to admit she is being irrational.
Unfortunately, all the mumbling of religion have led the thread astray. They are red herrings.

The responses on this thread have been disgusting. Op has been told her knees make her look old, her tits are no great shakes, called racist, accused of stealing photos. Women really are their own worst enemies. The op has tried to explain why she said what she did, and had admitted to low self esteem and anxiety, but I know, why don't you just kick her a little fucking harder.

Listen the 'Sunscreen' by Baz Luhrman OP

It cannot fail to make you feel better. Actually, everyone should listen to it.

Fukin ell Zombie tha teks a good snap

Not me wherethefuck - I'm quite exhausted from complimenting! I think the OP looks fab and haven't stopped telling her so with no acknowledgement from her

Do you not think that some of the duck face pouting selfie taking teenagers are not grossly under confident and have rock bottom self esteem? Do you not think that some of the glamour models and strippers are not depressed and full of anxiety and body issues?

These pics are mild in comparison, my face is deliberate excluded so you won't know me if I walked by you in the street.

I don't want complements, I don't post on Facebook, I don't have Facebook. I don't have Twitter or Instagram. Mumsnet is the nearest to social networking I get and this is the first pic I've posted of me. I wanted to get an opinion on whether I looked ok, not great, not slim or whatever, but ok. Or should I cover up because I look like an attention seeking slag - my worry after two days of evils. There are teens who post on YouTube to ask if they look ok, the comments are disgustingly horrible, these poor girls are so lacking in confidence they seek reassurance and are cut to pieces.

I don't think I look anything but my age but annoyingly other people have thought otherwise and it's not as good as you think it is. My dad has good skin for his age too.