Are my dresses unreasonable for the school run?

[MyNameIsPinkiePie]

I wore the black dress yesterday (see pics) and got a filthy stare off a woman pushing a buggy on the school pick up. I don't think I had my kids with me at that point. I later wore the dress to a Christian youth group, in fact I wore it to the office earlier the same day and it seemed fine. Today I had both kids on the way to school, I was wearing the dark red dress with a black cardigan. I got another long glare from the same woman, it was her staring that made me realise it was her again! I wouldn't wear the dark red dress to the office and I have pinned it to make it less low on the bust. They are both soft jersey dresses. But are they really that bad and does it make a difference whether I'm a mother or on the school run as to whether these outfits are appropriate?

Please tell me you dont talk in a silly baby voice around your dd, that might explain why people think you are younger.maybe you act younger rather than look it.

Bikini tops and shorts at our school last night, you look like a nun compared to us.

"I hate the staring and am waiting for the time I'm invisible. I think it will be nice when that passes and am almost jealous of those who are there now and don't have the same pressures to look a certain way. "

I think it would be nice if we stopped judging women on what they look like and, well just stopped judging them really.

Today I am mostly wearing a rather nice olive-green linen sun dress. Very well cut, bought by a friend of my mother's who has quite a bit of spare cash, buys lovely clothes, gets bored and gives them to my mum, who gives me the stuff she doesn't want. So it's 3rd hand. It's knee length but I fully intend to cycle home from work in it which will make it somewhere around my thighs/ wherever length. Frankly I don't give a monkeys and the slut shamers can fuck off to the far side of fuck.

Oh, I'm 43 if that helps. No idea if I'm invisible or not.

Exact same wording on a different thread about shorts on the school run. Funny that

I don't think that is by the OP - I think it someone taking the piss.

It's interesting that UKIP have a cleavage wing ... Bingo wings are more their style ... ( Runs ... )

There's a Shorts on the School Run thread?

Bullying doesn't stop at school, clearly.

S'gone already randall

I like to be invisible and avoid any attention and then post multiple picture of myself posing in frocks in order to ask strangers on the internet whether they think I look offensive to Muslims

why would I reply to jokes?

People are filling in the gaps and making statements directly in contradiction to what I've actually said. As for racist, thanks, I've explained that I don't believe she was jealous as my understanding of that faith means it's unlikely, certainly from my friends and wider reading, I also have Muslim relatives and was around them from an early age. Very normal and moderate as are all the friends I've had in school, uni and work. I'm an uber liberal Christian type who likes to think we are all the same even if we have different ways of doing things and we all go to heaven together, although i don't like judgemental shits of any faith or other background.

Have I supposedly posted the pictures because I want you to slag them off? Is that what tinker belling is? Is that because you'd then presume I'd post them because I believed the dresses were inappropriate? I can post a pic of the dress in front of the tread if it helps. Although it probably won't help me. I didn't post in S&B because I thought they'd be snobby about the dresses, I don't know that board but presumed it was designer or high end high street labels.

I have crushingly low self esteem too and there's no way I would ever post a selfie on an anonymous Internet forum (actually there is one on here but it's hair related) for people to comment on.

Going by the face I just caught myself pulling when I found myself in this position, maybe the woman had a nasty wedgie and was working out whether she could discreetly deal with it there and then or if she had to wait until she got home. Where there any trees near you when she glared at you? She might have been contemplating popping behind one for a quick reshuffle of her undies?

I've just done an image search on Tinkerbell. She seems to wear a very short green dress of the kind I suspect very few would brave on the school run. It simply isn't long enough to swish around. Cinderella on the other hand is often pictured holding her skirt to the side, mid-swish.

OP, I find it hard to work out if you're genuine or not. If you are, then post this query on S&B. Leave out anything about religion and modesty. This seems to be less about what one woman thought and more about you having the confidence to wear what you want to wear.

If you're not genuine, meh, who knows, perhaps this thread has helped someone, in someway. It's made me chortle from time to time although perhaps not in a nice way

Perhaps she was just struck dumb by your apparent youth and beauty?

Or maybe she couldn't give a shiny shite.

Inappropriate for what? It's a dress, why would it be inappropriate? I have completely lost the gist of what all this is about. Why would S&B be snobby about a lovely figure in a lovely dress? The only times I've been on there, posters have been lovely about any pictures posted.

The heat has got to me and I have no blinkin' idea what this is all about. all I know is, I would like to look like that in a dress like that, end of

I don't speak like a child, although I also hate my voice and have wondered if it sounds younger. When I spoke to the lady with the dogs she seemed to change her mind and said she had thought I was my Dd's sister, so nope I evidently speak like an adult. I also spent a while talking to an older lady helping out a charity in the office. We covered all sorts of subjects and then I mentioned how people think I'm younger than I am and she agreed, she didn't know my age but clearly realised I wasn't as young as I had initially appeared.

I did see a thread with someone complaining about looking much younger. No one believed her either. It was shit because it is an issue and it can make an impact on work and making friends, especially if confidence is low and you don't make a big effort to overcome looking young. I tend to hide instead.

feel free to acknowledge my compliments that I've posted throughout this thread, OP. Just a 'thanks' will do.

You look lovely!

Zombie is 63. She wears whatever the fuck she wants. One of the many advantages of being mature. I was only 61 when this picture was taken.

Spits out tea. Thanks op this has cheered up a hard day for me.

You look fine, as in you look good, you know you do, but posting photos of yourself
a la "do I look ok?" is attention seeking.

I think if she was staring at your outfit it would have been because you say you were wearing a cardigan. In this heat!

I suffer the cold but I don't think there's anywhere in the UK today that is cold enough for a cardigan (sorry if you're not UK based).

You can't see my face so I presumed I'd be pretty anonymous. I would never post my face but I'm sure I'm not identifiable from these pictures. Plus I can change my body and my clothes but changing faces is much harder. The dresses are quite flowing and cover up my bumps, you'd never get me in a bikini even without a face. knowing whether these dresses are inappropriate or not is me not being sure of myself and having low confidence in my ability to choose right. In fact making decisions gets really hard as my depression gets worse, it's much easier in winter when a huge coats hides most of me. I don't walk down the street knowing I look great, I walk with high level of self consciousness, fidgeting with the dress, pulling it up and checking it isn't tucked into my knickers etc.

And really, my self esteem is far less about looks than everything else. Actually you can slag off my body, my dresses, my imaginary nylon tights and I won't be upset. But I start thinking about everything else about me and it's much harder. So if I can know I look ok and people don't have anything to pick apart or negatively judge then at least I don't have that to worry about. It's nice to get the reassurance that I haven't done anything wrong and you wouldn't personally judge me negatively - although plenty have stated they would judge for a variety of reasons and I suspect you'd never say those things to a friend or partner but will be honest here.