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to make an "official" complaint?

152 replies

catfourfeet · 28/06/2015 20:50

Returning to camp site , I REALLY needed my asthma inhaler, I did have my "back up" inhaler in the car but it was on the last few (weak) puffs.

I came down the entrance Road (fenced off on both sides, clear line on site) faster than I should have.

As I got out my car to open the gate to the campsite proper the camp site owner (cso) came storming across to me.

cso "DONT you EVER come down my drive at that speedagain"

I appologised, he continued to absolutely RAGE at me , I continued to appologise ( as best I could with my asthma) but he just wouldn't stop.

At this point he came round my car AT me.

I said "if you come any closer I will consider it assault"

Cso " pack up your tent, FUCK OFF and dont come back"
He then stormed off.

I am totally ashamed to say I then realised I had partially wet myself.

I want to"officially " record this some how.

I don't want to report him as he has all my contact details from my booking.

Can I record this with the police but not have it go any "further" as it were ??

Then when I feel more able to handle things I can use my report as evidence.

OP posts:
IUseAnyName · 28/06/2015 22:39

Should you have been driving in the 1st place if you were on the verge of asthma attack?

Tryharder · 28/06/2015 22:39

I don't think that anyone disputes that the OP was on the wrong for driving too fast.

But there's no excuse at all for abusive or threatening behaviour.

I would write a complaint letter to the campsite association of which this person is a member.

You did well to stand up to him OP. I hate bullies.

Jessica2point0 · 28/06/2015 22:39

If you felt threatened you can definitely report it. Intimidation is a crime. You are clearly still scared because you don't want the police to follow up in case the man retaliates. This type of bullying behaviour is really not okay. Try calling 101 and see if you can report it as an incident rather than a crime.

AnyoneForTennis · 28/06/2015 22:41

Op says it was 20mph.... But really? I bet the cso would have a very different story to tell

Iliveinalighthousewith2friendl · 28/06/2015 22:41

He could be the same man well so called who lives by me. He has had plenty of run ins with women, incidentally. I've never saw him fighting with a man though

LaurieFairyCake · 28/06/2015 22:44

You should call the police if he was screaming and raging and 'coming at you' so much that you peed yourself in actual terror.

Obviously Flowers

Original poster
catfourfeet · 28/06/2015 22:47

Anyonefor :

I could "say" anything, "he had a knife " etc. What I've said is what happened.

OP posts:
MyNameIsPinkiePie · 28/06/2015 22:50

If she didn't drive how would she get her inhaler? Run and then collapse being unable to breathe at all? Asthma kills people every day, it can be an emergency situation, although the stress of what happened after won't help either. It's frightening when you are struggling for breath and the medication isn't helping. I find the end of the inhaler can be weaker in the force it comes out which reduces the efficacy. I don't like speeding but I do understand in this situation and it's a shame the guy didn't consider or allow her to explain the mitigating circumstances. I also believe people react different to different people, a man or perhaps an older person, would he have shouted at an elderly lady in the same way? I doubt it but it can't be proven. Leave a trip advisor or other relevant review to warn others and then forget about it and stock up on inhalers.

Original poster
catfourfeet · 28/06/2015 22:52

Thanks for those who have seen both sides. Good night

OP posts:
springsprang · 28/06/2015 22:57

We have a campsite, it's bloody terrifying watching idiots tearing up the drive to it - I hope they kill my dog before they kill my kids. Usually the speeders on the drive are the speeders on the camping field. You were driving too fast which is dangerous - and while having a asthma attack so severe that you had to race back to the tent? Doubly dangerous.

Maybe he was worried about you killing his dog/kids/other campers once you got on site?

scarlets · 28/06/2015 23:24

Sorry for your ordeal. Neither of you comes out of this brilliantly tbh, and it would be your word against his unless there was cctv. I'd leave it.

SeenSheen · 28/06/2015 23:43

Horrible experience but a police matter..really?

worridmum · 28/06/2015 23:48

I am sorry but driving while having a ashma attack is at best careless driving if you were on a public road you would rightly have the posibility of losing your licince or atleast points on it.

I was at school when 2 of my class mates where killed by a bloody stupid woman rushing home for her inhaler because she was having an attack and lost control because she was going too fast and crashed into a group of school children..... you were not in a fit state to drive a car irrespective of the need for driving

FirstOfficerDouglasRichardson · 29/06/2015 07:01

As an asthmatic... My take on this in particular.

If she didn't drive how would she get her inhaler? Run and then collapse being unable to breathe at all? Asthma kills people every day, it can be an emergency situation, although the stress of what happened after won't help either. It's frightening when you are struggling for breath and the medication isn't helping. I find the end of the inhaler can be weaker in the force it comes out which reduces the efficacy. I don't like speeding but I do understand in this situation and it's a shame the guy didn't consider or allow her to explain the mitigating circumstances.

Asthma does kill and yes when in a severe attack it's terrifying. So in this event. Ask anyone at hand if they have a Ventolin inhaler, a massive percentage of the population carry one. I carry 2 in my bag, 1 in my car, 1 in my desk at work, and have 2 or 3 at home at any one time. If having a severe attack don't get in a bloody car and start driving, it's bloody dangerous. Call an ambulance if necessary. Or ask someone else to drive you or take you to where an inhaler might be. You really have no excuse. And that's from someone who has severe asthma and does understand what it's like not being able to breathe.

Get in the car and speed through a campsite and killing a child will still be death by dangerous driving and you wouldn't be able to live with yourself.

ExConstance · 29/06/2015 07:10

If it was the access road to the campsite there could have been dogs and small children there, though probably acompanied. Sounds to me that you got a fully justified robust telling off for speeding, his camp site, his rules. You should have kept sufficient supplies with you.

Altinkum · 29/06/2015 07:16

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sandgrown · 29/06/2015 07:16

Well said Tryharder at last a reasonable response! I also think he would not have spoken to a big man in the same way for fear of retaliation. He was angry but as a business owner he should behave in professional manner.

PinkSquash · 29/06/2015 07:20

FWIW, I would never tell anyone in the UK to dial 911, as that's not a UK number. Are you in the US?

NRomanoff · 29/06/2015 07:22

Should you have been driving while having a asthma attack. I get that you needed to get back, but I would have thought you shouldnt be driving whilst having an attack.

Personally I think this must have been distressing for you. However, you shouldn't have been driving at all and you were speeding. You came down his drive at a dangerous speed and not in control of your car. It was near a campsite so there could have been small children, adults and animals. You probably wet yourself because of their of stress and the asthma attack. Reporting this probably end up with you having to explain why you were driving at speed, during an attack.

Personally I would leave it. No trip advisor, no police etc.

VenomousVorpent · 29/06/2015 07:45

I'm sorry you have had a horrid experience. Asthma is frightening and awful and you must have been scared.

The camp site owner may also have a back story, I can see the incident from his point of view too. I may well have been initially angry and shouted in this situation. I hope that if you had explained I would have been more understanding towards you and helped you get your meds. He was unreasonable to give you such a hard time based on the facts you gave us.

Nevertheless , shouting at somebody you are angry with should not be illegal. I think you need to keep a spare inhaler in your car and chalk this one up to (unpleasant) experience.

HelenF350 · 29/06/2015 07:48

He shouldn't have made you feel scared but you shouldn't have been speeding. Chalk it up to experience and move on.

ahbollocks · 29/06/2015 08:05

you dont know the background OP. What if he has had a child or pet hurt by speeding drivers before?
I know my first reaction when I'm terrified is to shout but id never hurt anyone.
You need to leave it and accept that your actions leading up to this event have significantly helped to cause it to blow up.
By that I mean; you shouldn't have driven in your state, thats not safe.
You need two inhalers in your car.
You should have kept your phone with you to call yourself an ambulance or find the nearest pharmacy.

candlesandlight · 29/06/2015 08:57

Op,if you do leave a negative review on trip advisor I hope you remember to say you had been speeding...Will make the review a bit more balanced.

popalot · 29/06/2015 09:10

Maybe there had been an accident in the past on his campsite.

SoupDragon · 29/06/2015 09:12

You were both in the wrong.

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