to make an "official" complaint?

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Returning to camp site , I REALLY needed my asthma inhaler, I did have my "back up" inhaler in the car but it was on the last few (weak) puffs.

I came down the entrance Road (fenced off on both sides, clear line on site) faster than I should have.

As I got out my car to open the gate to the campsite proper the camp site owner (cso) came storming across to me.

cso "DONT you EVER come down my drive at that speedagain"

I appologised, he continued to absolutely RAGE at me , I continued to appologise ( as best I could with my asthma) but he just wouldn't stop.

At this point he came round my car AT me.

I said "if you come any closer I will consider it assault"

Cso " pack up your tent, FUCK OFF and dont come back"
He then stormed off.

I am totally ashamed to say I then realised I had partially wet myself.

I want to"officially " record this some how.

I don't want to report him as he has all my contact details from my booking.

Can I record this with the police but not have it go any "further" as it were ??

Then when I feel more able to handle things I can use my report as evidence.

There's not much further you can take a non crime. Go ahead and report your not assault and the police will politely listen to you while asking if he actually said anything threatening before letting you know there is nothing for them to act on.

I think you need to take this one on the chin and move on. You were at fault,did something dangerous, he may have over reacted but even so, his actions are as understandable as yours.

The problem with reporting it to the police is that he may make a counter-complaint against you for dangerous or careless driving.

no he is a fucking twat

sorry others have said yabu

you are not

And regardless of the fact that you were speeding, I'm assuming you were on private land so any speed limit is not enforceable. Saying that, there is a 'speed limit' in placed like that for a reason. Hope you're feeling better.

The OP says it was an entrance road that she was speeding on, fenced off and clear line of sight. She stopped at the gate which is where the owner was. It's not the same as speeding through the actual campsite.

The man shouldn't have been so aggressive but YABU. Speeding to get an inhaler (when you have one in the car albeit weak but surely enough to take the edge off) is not reasonable IMO (and I'm asthmatic too).

You should have been more prepared OP, there was no need for the bad language but you were speeding.

I think your asthma medication needs reviewing if you needed your inhaler that badly.

redglitter I am a police officer. If an allegation is made, then the crime has to be recorded, whether that be directly or by appointment. Saying that, it is probable the the camp site chap will never be spoken to if the OP choses not to substantiate the allegation.

You could report him. He could report you also.

Although you didn't deserve to be spoken to like that, not even a little bit. Mumsnet can be a right prig-fest often sometimes.

I don't think it's on for a large man to "come at" a 5 foot 3 , 9; Stone woman and terrify her.

I was wrong , I do ( and did ) admit that.
Kids /dogs etc were separated from me by a fence and locked gate.

My dad owns a campsite (pretty sure it's not him as he's the least scary man alive even if he tries to be mad) and it is a nightmare with people speeding. Most families who choose camping want their kids and dogs to have freedom to explore and entertain themselves so the 5 mph limits are there for a reason. I don't personally think it's relevant whether or not it's legally enforceable.

No one should be rude but it happens when people are scared about someone else's safety. The language you hear if someone speeds through a naice middle class village round here...

How can an inhaler be weak? Surely the last few puffs are the same strength as the first? They seem to be in my inhalers...

Sorry you were scared, but surely you must have been going at some speed for the owner to react the way he did?

You see this is how I totally understand where the MN nest of vipers reputation comes from at times.
This is a women who felt terrified humiliated, and yes fearful for her safety, she came on here looking for support not s flaming. I think it's fair to say. "She's already been verbally roasted on a pitt fork by Mr I'm dead hard swearing at women."
She knows she is wrong for speeding. She gets that. She has never once posted denying that.

If kids and dogs were on other side of fence at the time then his reaction is totally understandable.

She's hardly been flamed Ilive - and people don't come on to AIBU for support. They come on to find out if they are being UR....

liveinalighthouse but it's AIBU so she asked a question and got an answer. Who has been rude to her? It sounds horrible and I'm sure we would all have wished it didn't happen but that's not what she asked.

You were in the wrong for speeding but it was am emergency

Calm down , go and find him and explain

I'd agree that a large man shouldn't "come at" a smaller woman, but you were in a vehicle.

Regardless of whether you should complain, realistically you can't. There is no point in reporting it to the police and saying you want no action to happen - they have nowhere to record this type of thing. You'd need to report the incident and give a statement, and then let them speak to the camp site owner, and then if it's a judged that a crime has been committed, the CPS would decide whether to prosecute.

It's worth considering that, if he scared you that much. There is the chance that the campsite owner would then report you for speeding, but that may or many not be an offence depending on whether it was private land. Something like dangerous driving or driving without due care and attention may apply, but again there aren't enough details to specify.

So - just to be clear - you were not driving at 20mph ON the camp-site itself, therefore weren't in breach of any 5mph limit?

Presumably there aren't small children and dogs wandering around unattended on the approach road? Because it was the approach road to the camp-site proper and didn't form part of the actual camp site?

Did this approach road have any kind of sign on it saying that there was a speed limit?

As someone else said, if it's private land there isn't an enforceable speed limit anyway and therefore you weren't "speeding" in the legal sense.

Can't see a problem with your driving myself. The site owner sounds like a pratt.

Iliveina :thank you

To clarify I was not going to fast on the camp site , it was on a separate road.

If my dh / dp / df had scared me so much id wet myself how many cries of "call 911"would I get ?????

He came at me when I was outside the car opening the gate. He could easily have hit me