to make an "official" complaint?

[catfourfeet]

Returning to camp site , I REALLY needed my asthma inhaler, I did have my "back up" inhaler in the car but it was on the last few (weak) puffs.

I came down the entrance Road (fenced off on both sides, clear line on site) faster than I should have.

As I got out my car to open the gate to the campsite proper the camp site owner (cso) came storming across to me.

cso "DONT you EVER come down my drive at that speedagain"

I appologised, he continued to absolutely RAGE at me , I continued to appologise ( as best I could with my asthma) but he just wouldn't stop.

At this point he came round my car AT me.

I said "if you come any closer I will consider it assault"

Cso " pack up your tent, FUCK OFF and dont come back"
He then stormed off.

I am totally ashamed to say I then realised I had partially wet myself.

I want to"officially " record this some how.

I don't want to report him as he has all my contact details from my booking.

Can I record this with the police but not have it go any "further" as it were ??

Then when I feel more able to handle things I can use my report as evidence.

OP the fact that you wet yourself tells me you must have been very scared indeed which isn't surprisingly considering you were having an asthma attack and being shouted at the same time.

Go easy on yourself here, it sounds like a horrible experience and I'm not sure who to complain to but please don't feel ashamed. You did a reckless thing in a frightening situation & when you needed help you were verbally attacked. Horrible situation all round.

Domestic abuse is completely different and that's a really odd comparison to make.

Oh my full title. I must hAve been naughty!
Perhaps op would be better off putting this in chat then. . If she is looking for support that is

I can't imagine a situation where you're so scared you actually wet yourself being 'ok'.

I don't think you should report him. It won't help.

But this man is a horrible, horrible bully, and you're well off staying away from him campsite.

I hope you're ok now, that you've got your inhalter and that you're with people who love you to give you a hug.

Flamed?This is AIBU and some of us felt she was BU. No one was abusive or rude, just honest. I don't think the OP has a leg to stand on.

YABU for speeding. He was within rights to complain to you about it. However he had no right to be abusive to you and make you so frightened you wet yourself. You need to consider what you're doing next. Is it a chain? Can you report to someone higher up? Is it camping and caravanning site? On trip advisor? No point calling police unless you're willing to see it through if they wanted to take action.

I shout at you if you drove over my property at an unacceptable speed too. He might have children playing, or loose animals.

The rest of it is pretty irrelevant.

Hare our forces must work differently then

You were opening a gate on private property?

Police?

I am sure the highway code says somewhere you must be for to drive a vehicle at all times surely driving whilst having and asthma attack is dangerous?

I'm not surprised he was livid. His livelihood is dependent on families feeling safe while on his property.

Redglitter I think I want to come and work with you. We report EVERYTHING or the cad won't be closed because we aren't allowed to use our discretion anymore

I think you need to get a grip and stop being so precious. You were speeding and he tore a strip off you for it. Tough - but you deserved it. YABVU.

Cat it sounds like a shit experience.
Would you consider calling or writing to the campsite mant to explain that you were in the wrong driving down the lane, you know that and you understand he can't have this on his campsite but you were not at your best having an asthma attack and were trying to get to your inhaler. Getting the inhaler was time critical and as he may have noticed you were quite distressed and had wet yourself.

Today I think AIBU is "please BU to me"

Basically a large man can (almost literally) scare me shitless , physically come at me , I genuinely thought he v was going to hit me. He was just "right there" but as he didn't actually touch me its ok.

If this happened to you in your b work place (whstever the reason) it would be reported to hr. I was in the wrong, I admitted it straight away.

Hes a bully, I child virtually guarantee if id been a big bloke he'd have acted differently.

I also think you are being precious

What's his size or yours got to do with it?

Hare Oh were fast approaching that. Don't you just love chasing complainers for fora week to get them to make the report that seemed essential in a drunken stupor or in rage

For now though thankfully the control room is allowed a bit of discretion. I'm sure it'll be removed soon though!

It's hard to know if you are being unreasonable unless you describe what you mean by the man "coming at me". Fists raised? Carrying a weapon? How close did he come?

You were obviously scared and shaken, but were you also in the middle of an asthma attack? Could this is have affected your perception of the situation or precipitated your loss of bladder control?

Someone shouting at you in this manner might be considered intimidatory and bullying, or it may not, depending on the circumstances.

I think you should leave a review of the campsite and say what happened. There was no danger from what you say so his reaction was unwarranted.

In what kind of MN parallel universe have I walked into tonight?
A woman, having an asthma attack and desperate to get to her meds drives NOT at 100mph through the bloody tents themselves, but at about 20 down the empty and fenced off entry road, is verbally abused by some bully of a man (and she's right, he'd never have done it to another man) and is so scared she wets herself and SHE is BU?

Some of you want to vive your fucking heads a wobble.

OP

At the bare minimum could you post the way he treated you on an online rating thingy like Tripadvisor?

Yes you were speeding a bit on the road (which you've admitted to), but I'm with you in that it's not on for someone to be that aggressive and frightening towards someone else to the point where you're in fear of your safety.

Cat. I would advise you to hide this thread, Or ask MN to delete it. Or move it to chat. Aibu is a risky place to put things when you're feeling vulnerable as it is world wide and people have different views experience ect, and yes we're all entitled to them, but IMO verbal beatings are not needed.
You will never reason with people who think it's okay for a man to scream and shout at a women. And then not even let her explain or aplogise.
Oh and tennis size has s lot to do with it. Would you appreciate a big hulk of a man screaming at amd intimidating your mother/daughter, even after they had tried to say sorry.

(she's right, he'd never have done it to another man)

What a ridiculous thing to say. How the hell do you know that? Are men really well known for not kicking off at each other, ever??

Yy sangria. Brilliant post. He'd probably shit himself if confronted by a man