to shove her food in her face

[Talismania]

I know IABU. This is more a rant.

There's a woman who works upstairs for who some reason eats in our break area. I can't stand the way she eats. She always has finger food like sushi or pizza. She picks a piece up and stares at it before very slowly and deliberately moving it to her mouth, does this weird thing where she moves her lips away from her teeth and slowly tears off a tiny piece with her teeth, stares at the food again, slowly puts it down, then makes A lot of noise chewing (more like smacking her lips and tongue together than actual chewing) until she picks it up again for another bite.

It's the slow deliberateness of it. And the noise. I have misoph

I think the reason some people are offended by the miso phobia sufferers' comments is that is it unnerving to imagine being intently observed (and judged to be unbearably disgusting and repulsive) for blithely engaging in normal biological activities like eating and breathing. I know I'd be mortified if someone described I great detail how incredibly disgusting I was. Some of you guys are very colourful writers! ;)

That saud, no one on this thread is advocating actually calling out the people that gross them out. And I have definitely got some strong revulsion triggers too - I try to distance myself from the person/activity that I find revolting as much as possible, because I feel it is uncomfortably intimate (and sort of unfair) to focus on someone else's private habits - I try very hard to distract myself as much as I possibly can, because if I don't, I feel disgustedby what I'm seeing/hearing, AND guilty for being mean spirited!

I find the violent language here very difficult to accept. I would be shocked if someone was having these thoughts towards me in RL.

keepto what bizarre views you have, and what an ignorantly intolerant attitude to those who have sensory sensitivities or misophonia.

She has the right to eat how she likes in public.

Everyone has the 'right' to behave exactly how they like in public, unconstrained by social norms or good manners. Your opinion seems to be shared, unfortunately, by increasing numbers of inconsiderate, rude, or just plain antisocial oafs.

I choose not to torture myself.

This phrase shows an utter lack of understanding of the sensory sensitivities associated with autism, or misophonia. You feel a certain way and are able to control a 'dislike' of a sound, and you lack the empathy to realise that not everyone is like you.

Improbable's patronising and passive aggressive response when shown to be wrong has made me !

Because I don't like tattoos?
My right surely.
Never voiced to anyone except those I know have no tattoos.

so it's ok for you to not like tattoos and voice your dislike as long as it isn't to the person with the tattoo, but it's wrong for us to dislike how some people eat and voice it, even if it isn't to the person who is annoying us?

just so's I'm clear.

Also many of the funniest threads on here are when people rant about the things other people do that leave them gobsmacked or infuriated.

If you display the same attitudes in person as you do on here, keepto, that (the violent thoughts of others) might happen more than you imagine.

Haha Crabby

I would never have a violent though to someone with tattoos though. Unlike many on this thead.

Massive difference to disliking something and feeling you would like to kill someone.

oh god this is why i get nervous eating in public, i have no problem eating at home but if im out and there are people nearby and i have to eat something "tricky" I overthink it and make a disaster of it!

I have misophonia to a level that it really effects my day to day life,

As an example, there were builders outside the other week, the scraping of the shovel on the path made me physically vomit, just thinking about it has made shake and sweat.

I would have left the area op, it's all you can do o avoid triggers.

I would want to shove it in her face
I want to kill people
like a stupid fucking twatty rat.
me wanting to shove her lunch in her face,

I have miso as well, and its SO annoying. It used to be set off badly by the person sitting behind me pouring water into a pint glass, which he did multiple times every day. The blop blop blooop blop..blop blop... would just scrape along every nerve in my body like a serrated knife.

I spent a lot of time at that job gripping the edge of the desk while focussing furiously on a random thing, or pushing my earphones as firmly into my ears as they could possibly go until it was over. Ive been known to set it off by me pouring water from the kettle into my own cup. Its not the person, its the noise.

It makes it worse I think when its something totally innocent and un-reprehensible like that, because STOP POURING WATER!!! is clearly the mark of a crazy woman

I think most people understand that there are also things that they do that make someone, somewhere apoplectic with repressed rage. And for most people as long as we all stick to venting our spleen on forums like this rather than confronting people for, often unremarkable, behaviours it all works fine.

Regardless of miso or other conditions surely most people also have 'nails down a blackboard' noises or other sensory overloads that set their nerves jangling.

I can't look at open boxes of drawing pins. Makes me want to scratch my eyes out. I have to squint in order to reach in to get one out.

That would drive me mad. BUT.... there is nothing you can do but distract yourself or leave.

I sit opposite the world's most considerate eater at work - he eats his sandwiches with the most discreet noises and smallest movements possible ..but it still drives me mad! In fact I think it's worse. H is the opposite - he tells the children off for eating with their mouths open (quite rightly) but he makes so much noise chewing and swallowing that he's far noiser than them. It's my problem, not anyones else's so I just think of something else or start talking about something entirely different.

i didn't know it had a name. Just thought it was me being intolerant and DH being a noisy bugger

I think most people understand that there are also things that they do that make someone, somewhere apoplectic with repressed rage.

Really?

Yes. I'm struggling to think that this thread is you first encounter with such sentiments. Mumsnet,to name just one place where humans congregate is littered with similar discussions.

Love the way "thanks" got auto corrected to "that is fenella"

(misses point of thread)

The thing is, how do you know if you have misophonia or you just don't like the sound of people eating .

(No offense OP - am genuinely wondering as I don't like the sound of people eating either).

"There's a woman who works upstairs for who some reason eats in our break area."
Maybe because her colleagues have told her that they can't stand watching/listening to her eat?

I don't have misophonia, but from your description OP, I'd really struggle to be around her when she eats.

I have it too OP (who would have thought it was so common?) to the point that I feel uncontrollable rage as well.

My dad has it too. He was awful though because he would shout at me as a kid and I was too scared to eat around him. So I move myself away from people so not to make them uncomfortable. I know what hell it was to live with my father making me shake when I ate and having to hide away from him so I won't make others feel that way. He was an abusive arse anyway but even now, I still get nervous when eating around others.

Interestingly, my siblings have it too, even worse than I do.

I wonder if we actually learnt that behaviour?

Maybe learned.

My OH is a bad mannered eater. He eats at breakneck speed, almost in a panic, food and cutlery go flying in his wake.
I gently remind him to slow down as I realise he has good reason to have learned to eat like this.

I stand by what I said last night. Peter Sutcliffe and Hitler has conditions. That doesn't make what they did okay. They wanted to kill people who were'out of their control'. They had a visceral anger.

That's wrong, I agree. But apparently if you have this disorder it's fine to express feelings of rage and desires for violence against other people and that's okay?