to shove her food in her face

[Talismania]

I know IABU. This is more a rant.

There's a woman who works upstairs for who some reason eats in our break area. I can't stand the way she eats. She always has finger food like sushi or pizza. She picks a piece up and stares at it before very slowly and deliberately moving it to her mouth, does this weird thing where she moves her lips away from her teeth and slowly tears off a tiny piece with her teeth, stares at the food again, slowly puts it down, then makes A lot of noise chewing (more like smacking her lips and tongue together than actual chewing) until she picks it up again for another bite.

It's the slow deliberateness of it. And the noise. I have misoph

I feel very sorry for you.

I had never heard of misophonia until this thread but even your description is making me want to claw my face off. Horrible! My friends son is an incredibly rage inducing eater. All breathy and greedy and clumsy. I do actually make my excuses and leave when he starts eating as i just cannot cope with hearing/seeing it.

Wow, Improbable, take a bow, you are wrong, accept it!
Japanese people confirmed to me that yes, you can eat sushi, and sushi rolls if you really want to split that hair, with your fingers.

lol I never notice things like this

YANBU I know how you feel.

I too suffer with miso, there is nothing i'd like more than to eat a meal with my family without feeling murderous rage, white hot rage.

Do you think that if I could I would control how I feel? The simple fact is, is that I can't, no amount of therapy, mindfulness, pills has helped. The only thing that helps is not getting triggered.

It's a trigger. Avoid it.

Haha I'm getting much the same sorts of comments on my thread at the moment. Apparently it's not ok to get annoyed with other people IN YOUR OWN HEAD.

Personally I don't think YABU - no one wants to hear/see that stuff. She could have an eating disorder, but having known several people with eating disorders in the past, they usually make you less likely to want to eat in front of people. Though that could be the reason why she vacates her own floor in favour of yours...

UglyBugaz, you say you don't notice things like this.

I cannot even begin to tell you how much I would like to be like you - it must make life so much nicer.

I don't think the OP is going to shout at anyone but if you can't think "ARGH" in your head and vent on a forum, when can you? Esp if she's at work. Better to vent here than say something to a colleague.

Some noises are like nails down a blackboard. Luckily for me, noisy eating isn't one of them but it clearly is for the OP and that's a horrible experience to be having.

I have misophonia. The reaction can be controlled with relaxation and distraction techniques - I'd not cope with my own kids otherwise. I tend to eat lunch where there's enough of a background noise not to be put off by other people's eating - music on at home, somewhere busy but not raucous out and about, if I can't find somewhere isolated or it's too cold or hot to sit outdoors.

I'll happily yell at DH if he's eating or drinking in a quiet room with headphones on, though, as he can't hear the noises he's making!

In the case of this woman, I'd assume there was a back story as to why she a) comes down to your floor to eat and b) fannies on with her food so much.

Yanbu a fellow Miso sufferer here and I feel your pain.

Those saying she is being good UR have clearly not suffered with Miso, it is not a choice to feel that way.

Yanbu as I have misphonia and I cannot stand being in the same room as people who make ridiculous loud sounds while eating (other sounds trigger the rage too) there is no need for someone to eat like that in a room full of other people who do not need to hear her chews. Sounds like she got kicked out of her own eating area. It's just bad manners to eat in a way like that. I haven't found good coping measures yet apart from leaving the room, sometimes I cannot even be in the same room as my children when they are acting up with their food.

Sushi is finger food in the same way that sausage rolls can be.

This is nothing about this poor women eating.
She has the right to eat how she likes in public.

Have you ever spoken to this woman? Does she chomp her way through her food without uttering a word? I must say it does sound extremely irritating. It does seem likely that she has been hounded out of her area. I have a great dislike of the way some people eat crisps as shown on a recent Gary Linekar Walkers ad. I don't know what you can do apart from repositioning yourself or eating at a different time. She does sound very odd but try to befriend her and things may change.

Yes I've spoken to her.

Just because I hate he way she eats doesn't mean I hate her. It just gives me the rage

I have just realised I probably suffer from misphonia too. Swallowing, slurping chewing and gulping noises make me feel SICK. If they're accompanied by breathing noises too, I seriously have murderous thoughts (sorry DH).

I can't stand hearing anyone breath. Breathing should not be noisy unless you're doing yoga.

OP do you feel some sort of morbid compulsion to watch this woman eat and feel repulsed?

Oh, yes, the swallowing. I can't stand to hear anyone swallow (including myself!). Especially multiple swallows at a time.

For people who think I'm mean I don't think you can understand how difficult it can be to be so affected by sounds. I rarely have a problem with the individual making the sounds, it's just the sounds themselves. With Break Area Woman the whole slow process wouldn't have even been on my radar if it wasn't accompanied by the sound o don't think.

Jebus, does no one on this thread every get driven mad by some random behaviour?

I don't have misophonia but I can well imagine this could drive me mad. Someone at my work has a way of eating that tortures me, TORTURE, I TELLS YA. I don't watch her but sometimes she's unavoidably in my line of sight. I get on very well with her but I still want to kill everything if I have to watch her eat.

There are lots of things I don't like.
Screaming kids, watching people pick their noses, seeing tattoos, noisy lorries, people swearing, people who smell bad..

But none of it drives me mad.
I choose not to torture myself.
It's one things seeing or hearing nasty things, but if I add annoyance and throw a lot of negative emotion at at, then my troubles are doubled.
Life is hard enough without me adding to my own troubles.

I let it wash over me. I find it empowering to choose not to get rankled.

I used to work with a guy who on our 15 min "tea" break would shovel a sandwich, packet of crisps and a can of coke down him then let out a huge burp. I couldn't stand to be near him when he ate and would go outside.

yanbu. I'd be the same. We had an employee that chewed with her mouth open and ate like a noisy pig. I couldn't eat lunch with her, it made me feel sick. Thank god she left. Noisy eaters are disgusting.

I reckon she's saying mindfully

YANBU. Takes me back to my last job but one when my boss would sit at the communal lunch table licking and slurping at the lid of her Muller Light. Gross.

I think being in the same space as you, keepto would drive me mad!

so lots of things annoy you waffly? You sound a laugh a minute.