to shove her food in her face

[Talismania]

I know IABU. This is more a rant.

There's a woman who works upstairs for who some reason eats in our break area. I can't stand the way she eats. She always has finger food like sushi or pizza. She picks a piece up and stares at it before very slowly and deliberately moving it to her mouth, does this weird thing where she moves her lips away from her teeth and slowly tears off a tiny piece with her teeth, stares at the food again, slowly puts it down, then makes A lot of noise chewing (more like smacking her lips and tongue together than actual chewing) until she picks it up again for another bite.

It's the slow deliberateness of it. And the noise. I have misoph

"seeing tattoos" oh now that's a new form of ridiculous.

Because I don't like tattoos?
My right surely.
Never voiced to anyone except those I know have no tattoos.

YANBU It must be awful. Don't know why people don't realise and have more consideration. Your only real option however is to leave the room and eat elsewhere.

Poor women- leave her alone. She has the right to eat as she wants to.

eating in a way that makes people want to vomit is a reason to be annoyed. It's Bad manners, sickening and quite frankly disgusting.

Someone's choice in body art/clothing is not something that affects anyone but them.

I don't see the difference mrsgrinch.

You see no difference in a disgusting habit and someone's difference in taste.

Yanbu. Adults (sen etc aside) should be able to eat in a way that it is not aurally or visually offensive to others. Lip smacking is ill mannered.

Sadly no one has informed my mother in law of this.

Not really mrsgrinch.

What you find disgusting I may not- same with tattoos.
I find them disgusting to look at but I would defend the right of someone to have them and show them in public.

She has a right to eat how she wants?

Well aside from the utterly ridiculous usage of the concept of a right in this context, yes, I suppose she does in that (sadly) there's no law about foul table manners in public. But what about the social expectation that people should adhere to certain manners in public? Or is that an old fashioned idea now? The one and only point of table manners is to pay consideration to those around you (and your host, where relevant). Unnecessarily noisy eating was once and still should be considered bad manners. And only a very silly person would argue that anyone has the right to inflict their bad manners on other people. What else is the point of them? We may as well get rid of the whole concept.

At least we have you to uphold social values- eh sleepy.

A fellow miso sufferer here!

The lack of tolerance and understanding about the disorder on this thread is really depressing.

OP, i have joined a few miso-based groups on FB that have really helped me. Especially 'Misophonia: vent it out' - a safe, secret place to rant about your triggers- and 'Misophonia: coping and solutions'.

I hope the groups help you as much as they help me. Much sympathy

I won't defend someone's right to eat disgustingly in front of others. I was brought up to eat with my mouth closed and not slurp/chomp/inhale my food. Manners at the table stop people feeling put off their food. I couldn't eat near my colleague, meaning I didn't eat as I couldn't leave the shop. He mouth open, food flying vile manners made me want to throw up on her lap.

poor women (sic)

Why poor her? She is not being affected in any way by the OP's inner turmoil. More like poor OP having to go through life with such a limiting condition. You do realise that she has no choice in this? People with Misophonia hear their trigger noises in a similar way that you would hear a loud scream or car alarm. One woman I chatted to recently was triggered by the sound of her own child's voice. Can you try to imagine living like that?

I'm the same as you OP and that would piss me off.

I can't bare the sound of people eating. It gives me the rage.

Years ago I was commuting and on the train was a pixy looking woman with a bag of dried fruit. She lifted her shoulders, kept them lifted the whole time raised the packet right up to her chin, held it with both hands like a childish fucking rodent and proceeded to nibble on these bastard fruits all the while her shoulders still lifted, looking around like a stupid fucking twatty rat.

Just remembering it pisses me off.

And yes Im being VVVU. But I can't help it.

I know a lot of deaf people. I must tell them about misophonia. Another one to chalk up as "hearing people's problems".

I feel for you I was once on a bus and a man was eating wine gums I had to move but could still hear him. Slurping each one it was never ending even the crackle of the packet made me want to scream. Its a horrible feeling. I have to leave the room when im around my family eating they think im crazy.

IHateStampysVoice

The name says it all!

pumpkinpositive I'm not sure what you are implying with your comment. Misophonia sufferers should 'check their privilege' because we should be grateful we can hear? So, by the same reasoning, people suffering from terrifying hallucinations should be glad because at least they can see?

When you said she pulls her lips away from her teeth, is it anything like this?.

Because that would really put me off

pumpkinpositive I'm not sure what you are implying with your comment.

I wasn't implying anything.

Misophonia sufferers should 'check their privilege' because we should be grateful we can hear?

Nope. Capital D Deaf people don't view the ability to hear as a privilege in any case.

Although I am now wondering whether there is a visual equivalent to misophonia.

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I can't be near lip smackers. Sadly DP is one of them along with deep heavy breaths. I know how ott this sounds but it makes me feel sick so I leave the room now when he eats

Fair enough, pumpkin

Maybe while you're chatting to your Deaf friends about miso, you could tell a few hearing folk, too! Judging by some of the posts on this thread, there needs to be a lot more awareness generally!