BBQ at a wedding.....too tacky and cheap???

[Janeymoo50]

my wedding is booked for 3pm on a Sat afternoon. Tight budget (about 6K all in), roughly 45-50 guests for the whole day. Ceremony at 3pm, informal photos only, then a cream tea with cake, scone and cream, couple of small speeches. Guests will have a drink served straight after the ceremony and there'll be tea/coffee and more fizz with the tea. Then we're having a BBQ as the main food about 7pm. Not having wedding cake but hoping to do either a Krispy Kreme donut cake or some large pavlovas with fruit for pud. A couple of people have "made a face" when I mentioned BBQ???? Would any of you feel it was a bit tacky??

We had a BBQ! It was great.

Make sure there are places for people to sit and proper plates though otherwise it's a mess with posh wedding clothes.

I would love it.

Provided that there was enough food for everyone including greedy people like me. Nothing worse that being at a BBQ and all the rude quick people nabbing all the nice grub.

Congratulations in advance btw

We had a bbq at our wedding and the guests all loved it. Lots of comments about it being a fun relaxed and informal day which is just the mood we were hoping for

I don't see a problem with it.

Maybe you can come up with a poncey name for it to satisfy the sneerers :)

I think a bbq which is food on a plate with nice salads/sides, and good meat would be lovely. Being chucked a sausage in a bun or a manky burger, less so, esp in dressed up clothes

We had a bbq 21 years ago, no problem at all

It's not that different from a hog roast really is it?

The face pullers are very rude!
What are the logistics of a BBQ- I always find it expensive and who would cook it? A hog roast might be cheaper and easier to organise.

I would love to be a guest it sounds lovely.

Tell anyone who makes a face that you assume they will not want to come and invite someone who will be happy for you! I'm usually all for accommodating guests where possible, but someone who is negative about your perfectly legitimate food choices should keep their thoughts to themselves.

I don't think it's tacky - I'm always pleased to be at the wedding of someone I care for, and don't care what they serve me on a plate.

That being said - I'd worry about being outside for a BBQ in this weather (providing it's outside), and of spilling ketchup/grease down an expensive outfit. Are you doing the usual sausages/burgers, or something more fanch schmancy?

Soup Dragon - I'm thinking a grill sounds better!

Ugh is it too late to disinvite the face-pullers? How rude. Your plans sound lovely and in any other context £6k would be a fortune to spend on a party. But because it's a wedding you should find magic money down the back of the sofa...
Stick to your guns. Not tacky at all (and nothing tacky about not wanting to put yourself in a ton of debt for one day)

Do it! Just account for seating and shelter in case of weather.

It will be great!

It's fine, I'd really enjoy that. We had a hog roast & that's not too different from a bbq.

Went to a wedding with a BBQ and the food was fine. However, it was organised by each table going up one at a time to collect food. It took too long, we were one of the last tables to go and it's not very nice to see people eating while you're sitting there hungry having to wait. And by the time we got our food, the first few tables had long finished eating.

So just have a think about how to serve it!

Sounds lovely.

What if the weather is bad? Is there a covered patio area?

I love bbq. Retract the invite to the catbumfacepullers and invite me instead?

I would be happy to have a BBQat a wedding! It's your day. Don't let people put you off because the have preconceived ideas about what a wedding should be like. Your plans sound lovely.

I have been to a werding bbq and ot was good

We had a hog roast and BBQ.... It proved very popular

Sounds fantastic! I dislike the whole 'breakfast' (which is lunch or dinner) vehicle, speeches, 'evening do'. Glad to see this more practical format around.

Sounds wonderful OP

I would be more than happy as a guest with your plans.

Hope the weather is nice for you and you have a lovely day,

Not tacky at all, it sounds great! Definitely think through how it will be served though, table by table means the people going last will be waiting ages and that might be annoying.