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to think this is ridiculously grabby?

238 replies

queentroutoftrouts · 21/06/2015 21:52

I have received a baby shower invitation via Facebook from an acquaintance and she has listed various requests including
please bring size 4 nappies and wipes
£10 cash or vouchers for next and mother care, NO PRESENTS PLEASE
£10 entry fee and at the bottom she has added 'men allowed'
Is this the done thing nowadays then or aibu to be shocked at how entitled she is being? Since when did you charge guests to attend your baby shower?
The size 4 nappies are presumably for her elder child unless she is giving birth to a giant.

OP posts:
nattarji · 23/06/2015 11:52

My stomach has literally churned reading that birthday invite

No good can come of it wanders off sucking teeth

Corygal · 23/06/2015 11:59

Unspeakable.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 23/06/2015 11:59

Haven't some people ever heard of 'cutting your coat to your size'?

Probably not, while there's any chance of getting others to pay for it

As for the petting zoo ... am I the only one who thinks it may just be someone's clapped-out chicken, another friend's kid's guinea pig, a promised baby lamb which doesn't arrive and a few posters?? Hmm

MerryMarigold · 23/06/2015 12:01

as much as I can afford would be several thousand, actually. But it ain't happening as I'd rather save up for a kitchen.

SlightlyJaded · 23/06/2015 12:02

DSis in law has agreed to the 'entrance fee' so her DD doesn't get left out, but will be forgoing the PC world voucher in favour of something naff from Claire's Accessories.

They have apparently invited about 40 kids and everyone is waiting with baited breath to see who the magician is. Grin

CrystalCove · 23/06/2015 12:02

How on earth can any sane person think charging for an invite to a babyshower, party etc is a good idea? I genuinely don't get it. As people have said - cant afford it, don't have it.

MerryMarigold · 23/06/2015 12:04

I have a ds who will be 10 in a few months and there is no way he'd be seen dead on a bouncy castle, or cuddling rabbits. or be happy with his mum contributing to a mac book which he is never going to get for his tenth birthday

BalloonSlayer · 23/06/2015 12:11

Lion are you sure that horrible thread really was about you?

I'd imagine a lot of people have similar stuff on a baby-is-imminent Amazon wishlist. There could have been a real person who had a lot of the same stuff as you on theirs, plus all the other mad stuff, and that's who whoever-it-was was posting about. I mean, the only thing you have mentioned that was actually true about you was some of the things on the wishlist. . . maybe it just wasn't you.

nattarji · 23/06/2015 12:14

I would not send my child and would tell her why. More important to teach them what matters to keep in with such awful people.

it is terribly bad manners

Floggingmolly · 23/06/2015 12:19

As if simply demanding asking for cash instead of a gift wasn't bad enough... Now some people think it's ok to further stipulate the cash sum should be as much as you can afford Shock

What a graceless idiot.

nattarji · 23/06/2015 13:05

really horrendous

do these people have no dignity?

What a terrible message to send to yuour children

badg3r · 23/06/2015 13:33

Haha that is hilarious! I dare you to turn up and pay with coppers (coins not police men Wink ).

SlightlyJaded · 23/06/2015 16:01

pay with coppers

Fucking genius. I am going to tell DAis in law to do exactly that.

Graceless fuckers.

MissDexter · 23/06/2015 16:44

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Icimoi · 23/06/2015 17:02

MissDexter, I suspect you've just outed OP. Get your post withdrawn?

OurGlass · 23/06/2015 17:04

Crikey at least it's real!

Aeroflotgirl · 23/06/2015 17:04

Looks like it, but it is awful, hope babyshowerzilla is thoroughly ashamed.

plutonimum · 23/06/2015 17:09

Dammit! I go away for 10 minutes and miss an outing!

MissDexter · 23/06/2015 17:22

It wasn't an outing (at least I don't think it was an apologise profusely if that's the case) the screenshot was posted by an admin of a Facebook site not the person who received it (at least to the best of my knowledge)

Apologies again if that wasn't the case.

Lunastarfish · 23/06/2015 17:26

Entrance fee!!!

Lioninthesun · 23/06/2015 17:37

Balloon I know it was about me - the first four things mentioned were big fairly specific items like a wooden high chair (Stoke I think) and she went on about how the chair didn't even look comfortable... She lived in Scotland and was going on about her hellish time at my party, saying she knew me from school, all about dd's dad etc etc. It was far too specific not to be. The third thread even said which county I live in and details about what I look like.
Anyway, that was about 4 years ago now, nowt to do with this thread so I won't go on about it!

Floggingmolly · 23/06/2015 17:41

Did you really put a Stoke highchair on your baby shower gift list, Lion? I'd have been slightly surprised (to say the least) to see that myself; I can see how it would have attracted comment.

Lioninthesun · 23/06/2015 17:48

No, it was on my own personal wish list to remind me of things I liked and although this 'friend' had seen this list (while apparently offering me advice on what I would actually need, being a parent herself) the rest of the people coming to the shower didn't get the list at all. As I said I told them all I didn't expect presents and got nappies and muslins and bibs. All very normal!

Aeroflotgirl · 23/06/2015 18:05

Babyshowers sounds awful, but you do not give people lists and ask for an entrance fee or donation, that really is not on.

hydeparkhottie · 23/06/2015 19:31

She charged an entrance fee?