to think this is ridiculously grabby?

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I have received a baby shower invitation via Facebook from an acquaintance and she has listed various requests including
please bring size 4 nappies and wipes
£10 cash or vouchers for next and mother care, NO PRESENTS PLEASE
£10 entry fee and at the bottom she has added 'men allowed'
Is this the done thing nowadays then or aibu to be shocked at how entitled she is being? Since when did you charge guests to attend your baby shower?
The size 4 nappies are presumably for her elder child unless she is giving birth to a giant.

charged entry? baby showers are already a bit grabby as they're set up so you get gifts for the baby, but to be expected to pay an entry fee to lavish gifts upon the pregnant woman is madness!

Frankly for £10 I would expect a gift bag with an actual live baby.

Why not send apologies due to a previous engagement, and arrange for one of these to be delivered on the day instead?

Lovely baby shower cakes

Can you have a period every nineteen days? And if so can one period be very heavy and the next very light. Iv had a baby six months ago and every nineteen days ish I'm having either a lightbleed or very heavy one with clots

Sorry I wrote this on wrong conversation... P.s my baby shower was a surprise and everyone chipped in. I thought the whole idea of a baby shower was to surprise the person because there a nice person and deserve this lovely time of their life to be celebrated. If you need to organise ur own that's unforchanate, but you shouldn't charge xx

Jo, I was going to say as long as it's on the cake, it would be fine

Baby showers should be an excuse for a collective cuppa and bun, and little presents if people feel the need. Nothing more.

I meant NOT on the cake, obv

Lol, sorry what do you mean on the cake? I'm being a bit dumb. But I do agree about the get together for chat n cake. That girls going toooo far lol x

Jo - click the link on Boffins post. Boffin - the baby being born one is truly gross - shall we club together and get her that

Jo4040 - i was reading the thread and saw your msg, and thought...... what did i miss!!!!

(not taking an op to place mark at all!!!)

Get £10 changed up into small change at the bank, then pour the shrapnel into her outstretched hands.

Lol. Them cakes are funny. Sorry guys. I'm new to this site and I'm not quite sure what it's all about! I'm a 24 yr old female and iv only just got the internet so im abit behind on the times. I'll catch up I'm sure

Good god, how on earth did you manage to avoid the internet until age 24?

Haha. Not totally ignor. Iv used Google, eBay, stuff like that at work. Was a bug fan of msn when i was fifteen.But just never really 'bothered with it' when I met my partner at fifteen. At age eighteen we decided to save like maniacs for a house, any by age 22 we did it. Bought a awful house n used all our savings to kit out a loft conversion, conservatory, new windows, re-wire..so in order to save we sacrificed a lot. Internet subscription included. Now it's done tho we living life with our two little boys n we don't want t to see a bloody builder or joiner for a lot g time. Bring on some holidays!! Hope that a swers ur question haha

Entry fee? Entry fee? Is she having the baby shower at a theme park or a nightclub by any chance? Otherwise ...... £10 'entry fee' to attend a bash at someone's home the sole purpose of which anyway is for the mother-to-be to blag gifts from all her friends and acquaintances? No, just not on. Insane, in fact, and why would anyone go along with this, FGS.

I went to a baby shower and paid £10 but that's because we went out for afternoon tea at a hotel. The mother to be is a very good friend. So no objections to paying. Except that I never think afternoon tea is particularly good value - there is never enough cake. Ever.

This is ridiculous!

I had a surprise baby shower after saying that I didn't want one because of how grabby they felt. I have to admit it was a lovely day and I was so touched by all the people there and extremely grateful for the presents. But my sister arranged the whole thing and paid for EVERYTHING herself, she went overboard with goody bags for guests and loads of cake, food, decorations etc.

I feel so embarrassed for this person, at a push I'd ask a few close friends to go for lunch or something and stress that I didn't expect gifts of any sort. I'd never invite acquaintances and expect them to pay for the honour of coming to give me gifts!!!

I really want to see the advertisement/invite!

Oh my god, don't go!

Don't go!

I'm not into baby showers at the best of times and would only ever attend to make a close friend happy. Paying for the (dis)pleasure is definitely a step too far.

Then again: do go. Videotape and share!

That's hilarious

Is there also a no trainers policy and right of admission reserved?!

I so want you to message her and say you are not coming because she is a rude, grabby bitch. But use much more forceful language than that. What a twunt!!!!

So she's going to charge you a tenner to give her a gift of her own choosing?

Ok then.

Am I the only person who thinks hopes the person in question might turn up on the thread?

I would politely decline.

I am originally from America where baby showers are the norm. This is not how it's done. A baby shower, as I know it, is where a first time mum-to-be's friends get together in the afternoon for soft drinks and light refreshments. Everyone gives small gifts, such as a baby grow, lack of nappies, cuddly toy, etc. the women talk, laugh, tell birth stories, and generally try to ease any worries first time mum may have.

No one throws the self a baby shower. That's a best friends job.