to think this is ridiculously grabby?

[queentroutoftrouts]

I have received a baby shower invitation via Facebook from an acquaintance and she has listed various requests including
please bring size 4 nappies and wipes
£10 cash or vouchers for next and mother care, NO PRESENTS PLEASE
£10 entry fee and at the bottom she has added 'men allowed'
Is this the done thing nowadays then or aibu to be shocked at how entitled she is being? Since when did you charge guests to attend your baby shower?
The size 4 nappies are presumably for her elder child unless she is giving birth to a giant.

also seen lists for baby gifts on fb, so presumptuous

since when did baby showers happen in GB isn't it an American thing- should have stayed there

There is something about baby showers and hen nights which turn people a bit weird.

If you do decide not to go, please reply back and state that you would need her to pay you a tenner to go.

Email back and ask her where the entry fee is going?

Hey. I'm skint too. I forgot to have a baby shower.
Come round for a tender each, bring some size 5 nappies and admire my cute 2 year old?
Please?
Anybody?

Tenner, thanks auto-correct

Fucking hell. The showers I've been to have been the surprise kind and all about having fun with games (pin the sperm on the egg ) etc. Yes, we got presents, but it was our choice and every gift was so very gratefully received.

YANBU.

Is this a friend organising the shower, or the pregnant one herself?

By "we got presents" I mean that we bought presents for the pregnant one.

Apologies, I've read, re-read and re-read again. I still feel like I'm misreading. AN ENTRY FEE?!

I've never been to a baby shower and I will never go.

Me either, Countess

Shockingly rude. Seriously why do people think that this is ok. Personally I would not go.

How tacky.

Yes, ask her what she is providing for the entry fee and then tell her you are deciding whether it us worth going or not.

at "Men allowed." That would double the entry-fee bonus! Do children get in half-price?

Wow, that makes £25 to attend! If each of us 500 mnetters who will read this thread chuck in 5 pence you can go and start a mumsnet classic thread with your report? Pretty please?

I really think you should go, just so we can hear what happens.

Are you sure its an entry fee? Where is the shower being held?

How is asking for next vouchers and size 4 (??!!) nappies tying in with 'no presents'? Where is the entry fee going? Into new mum's pocket? Definitely report back on this one. Would love if someone brought size 5s and/or a primark voucher!

Or post details on here, we can send a delegation! I'm sure you can collect 8000 size 4 nappies in 30 minutes on mn!

Entry fee? Hahahahaha!!!!

an entry fee?!! I presume she's just worded that badly and she means to cover food & drink but even so....I feel very strongly that if you want to invite friends round to celebrate the forthcoming baby, you either provide food & drink or if you can't afford it, just ask people to bring something simple?

Perhaps she thinks asking for cash is better than asking for that, but FFS she could have asked people to bring sandwiches & cake. And if you ask for that, you can't then ask for presents. Grabby doesn't begin to cover it!

I wouldn't go. I would write a note explaining why and then let us know what she says

I like reni's idea. I will happily donate a size 4 nappy in exchange for a live update thread

Is there a preferred brand of size 4 nappies or did she leave such an important detail to chance? Having spent a mere 20 quid her skinflint friends might buy Aldi's mamia!

It's every said earlier ..... Uncouth, grabby, you are most definitely not being unreasonable.

However, I'd be tempted to go for entertainment value (which must be reported back here!). I'd pitch up with washed-out, sellotaped-together ten pound note - preferably (assuming you're not in one of these locations) a Scottish / NI / Falklands / Isle of Man tenner for the whole "legal tender" debate, if you can't get your hands in one of them ..... Get £10 worth of 1p pieces from a shop / bank. Plus a voucher for anywhere except Next or Mothercare.
when you RSVP (presumably by clicking the "yes" button on Facebook?!) ask for your entrance ticket to be sent out recorded delivery, and check whether entrance fees are non-refundable (or any other terms & conditions of booking one ought to be aware of)!