to think this is ridiculously grabby?

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I have received a baby shower invitation via Facebook from an acquaintance and she has listed various requests including
please bring size 4 nappies and wipes
£10 cash or vouchers for next and mother care, NO PRESENTS PLEASE
£10 entry fee and at the bottom she has added 'men allowed'
Is this the done thing nowadays then or aibu to be shocked at how entitled she is being? Since when did you charge guests to attend your baby shower?
The size 4 nappies are presumably for her elder child unless she is giving birth to a giant.

An entry fee is just awful, totally agree.

Are 'baby showers' an actual normal thing then? I've only heard of them on MN - I've got 3 Dc's ranging from 17 to 5, and have never been invited to one, nor have I even known anyone in RL to have one. I thought it was just something that excitable American teenagers went in for, but I'm clearly wrong.

I am loving this thread! Tena, fastdaytears invitation to watch her feed the cat- brilliant! Please go and live post op, as you can see, there is crowd funding available here.

My twins are 18, I didn't have a baby shower, is it too late? My 'bubs' could do with the cash.

I went to one baby shower where I wasn't even told about the birth of the baby afterwards!
Then invited to a second (for same woman) - I politely declined!!
Think yours might take the biscuit though, with an entry fee

Entry fee?
Instant demotion from 'acquaintance' to 'alien'.

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I still think we should all send the op 5p and a few size 4 nappies so she can go. Imagine the post grabby shower thread!

Entry fee? Is it at The Groucho CLub? This is beyond grabby. I'm in with the Crowdfund though, providing you live update - and take size 3's and a £5 voucher for anywhere else.

What happens if you don't pay the entry fee? Will she have burly bouncers to bar you or something?

I still thought baby showers were a bit grabby, let alone charging entry for one!

Oh dear.

If you don't go, please forward her this thread.

That's all I really have to say tbh

£10 entry fee?! She's having a laugh. I'd be telling her to jog on!

IMO, baby showers are only acceptable under the following conditions:

First baby - thereafter you have things to reuse
NOT organised by, or influenced by, expectant mother - friends/family is fine
NO requests or expectations
Lots of cake

Nothing more, nothing less.

This is VILE

I went to a baby shower like this.

£5 entry fee for some disgusting Iceland canapés, revolting cup cakes and nasty bubbles.

You actually WENT to a party that charged an entry fee? Why?!
How on earth is this actually a 'thing'? Who DOES that by charging their friends to attend a party?!
I've heard it all now,

Regina - my very average size 5 month old is in size 4 nappies. Unless they are really close in age, the nappies may well be for the baby.

I put "bubs" in quotation marks because, while I wouldn't call my baby "bubs", the type of person to have a tacky baby shower would.

And JL vouchers are way better than Next, far more useful and some of their baby clothes are gorgeous. But probably a bit too classy for someone who charges an entrance fee to their own baby shower.

There may always be one, but I don't think that one is me .

Maybe do go to the party and stick to the theme. Buy some baby track suits with silver piping and a bling dummy.

I also think u should go, we need more details

tesco value nappies are only £1.41 and come in size 4!

This thread is hilarious and I am absolutely not placemarking

She sent out an advertisment style invite too

We need to see that invitation, OP.

I am quite disappointed that they didn't express their touching "give me all the cash and presents" message in poetry.

They'll be charging for attending weddings next. I went to a baby shower once (best mate, her first baby) - it was tolerable. I think really it should be called a "pregnant woman's last chance to see her friends en masse for months/years, certainly without anyone grabbing her boob" party.

oh dear! I thought a shower was or first baby only and to be organised by friends/family and not the expectant mother.

for not or

The brass neck of some people. I hope nobody turns up so that she can evaluate the possible reasons for that. I can't believe that people actually have baby showers. Surely you plan how you are going to pay for things before you get pregnant or do people just think they can get everything for free these days?

An entry fee? That's the funniest thing I've ever heard! What a knob!