to think this is ridiculously grabby?

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I have received a baby shower invitation via Facebook from an acquaintance and she has listed various requests including
please bring size 4 nappies and wipes
£10 cash or vouchers for next and mother care, NO PRESENTS PLEASE
£10 entry fee and at the bottom she has added 'men allowed'
Is this the done thing nowadays then or aibu to be shocked at how entitled she is being? Since when did you charge guests to attend your baby shower?
The size 4 nappies are presumably for her elder child unless she is giving birth to a giant.

Wow. My friend insisted I had a baby shower but I hated it. Lovely to have my friends over but sitting opening their gifts was uncomfortable. I wish I'd just said let's all go for a nice lunch!

Turn up with a packet of Tena Lady and pretend you misunderstood the tenner entry fee.

Turn up with a packet of Tena Lady and pretend you misunderstood the tenner entry fee.

Genius!

'Grabby' doesn't even begin to cover it.

What the bloody hell is wrong with some people? How can she possibly think this is reasonable behaviour?

Baby showers are a nightmare for this kind of shit.

An entry fee?!
Please tell me this is a joke! It's beyond grabby!

My baby shower when I had my 1st, was a complete surprise party, my mum organised it all and invited a load of her friends, and their daughter (my friends) and we had a great evening playing silly games etc. some people brought gifts, but they were all small practical things, that you don't always think of getting. Eg one hamper included a bottle of olive oil for cradle cap etc etc

jesus what a rude greedy biatch.
I never heard the like
OP you must go so you can tell us all about it!

i would, in my arse, go.
fuck that shit.

How old is the older child? Size 4 nappies aren't that big.

Are you sure she isn't asking for a different size of nappy from each guest so that she has the full set ready for "bubs"? When would she store vast quantities of nappies?

Surely John Lewis are the vouchers to ask for, mainstream, but more upmarket than Next or Mothercare.

Where not when.

I'm so pleased both I and all my friends had babies before the ridiculous baby shower idea came over from the U.S.
I think it's a real cheek to have a baby shower and expect people to bring gifts, let alone write a list of requests that you mentioned op.
I would make my excuses and not go.
Whatever happened to people buying present because they want to and not because they are asked. No one has a right to a present or gift, not even my ds. I buy people things because I want to, not because I'm asked to.

Tena. That made me smile.
I am sure there is a couple of quid in penny coins in the dcs money boxes.
And I will chuck in a couple of old, slightly dusty size 4 asda little angels nappies. Outgrown before we finished the packet left under some coats in the car.

Pico there's always one.."bubs"? Really? And John Lewis rather than next Also size 4 nappies are for much older babies/toddlers

So incredibly tacky!

If a person must have a baby shower then it should be a nice little get together of close friends organised by a best friend or relative surely? I'm pretty sure you're not supposed to organise your own .

It goes without saying that gifts are at the discretion of each guest and as for charging admission?! Crazy idea.

£10 entry fee to bil and coo over to me what seems like a pampered spoilt bitch.
Is she a bit late with her April fools joke because she can't be serious, as already said,
" tell us you've declined the invite, "

You have to go! I wonder whether they'll have somebody selling tickets on the door to make sure that you don't get in without coughing up your £10?

Surely she wouldn't have the brass neck to walk up to each guest saying, "can i have your £10, please?". If she does, you can say, "really? Sorry, I thought that was a joke!" and tell her that you don't have any cash on you. She may whip out a chip & pin device at this point.

If she's charging £10 to get in, you're probably entitled to review the whole event on Tripadvisor.

She has made an advertisement picture with all the details on it so I will post It when I can get on the laptop and cover all the personal info.

I'm amazed that anyone would think that's normal.Never been to a baby shower no one I know has ever had them.

But if there's an entry fee maybe I've been lucky

Entry fees to any sort of party are tacky and grabby (including birthday ones). I'll buy drinks in a bar but no way am I expected to pay to attend.

If I were having a baby shower thrown for me I'd suggest small gifts (bibs, teddies etc) as a 'suggestion'. Not as a given gift.

the whole point of a baby shower IIRC though is gifts for when baby (sorry 'bubs') is born and to celebrate impending motherhood.

Nothing to add, it's all been covered by pp, but I'm placemarking so I can come back to see the flyer!
I've never heard anything like it. I refused a baby shower, I felt uncomfortable and grabby enough when people bought me lovely things after dc was born!

Marvellous. I've only been to one baby shower (of my boss and we really wanted to see her house!). Organised by her friends, suggestion to bring savoury or sweet nibbles and to bring a book special to us to start a baby library with. No pressure, no checking we were handing over gifts on arrival. That's how any party should be.

I've obviously missed a trick (EDD today for DC2), maybe I should get on FB and get some invites out there. I could do with some money for takeaway the baby.

and at 'entry fee'.

That is all.

That is some brass neck there!

In addition to all that has already been said, showers are supposed to be for the FIRST baby. So yet more evidence that she is a grabby brat.

Definitely go along and live-post!

I've never been to a baby shower, does the gift replace the one you would give after the baby is born?

I can't believe how grabby people can be.