For mil to present fil with professionally made cake and dh with a shitty supermarket one
answersonapostcardplease · 20/06/2015 21:12
Dh have come to visit pil for dh's 40th and fil's 70th, its also father's day on sunday (as you'll be aware)
Its a flight away with 4 dcs in toe and expensive, so an effort.
Mil called everyone to the dining room for cakes, blowing out candles. On the table is a massive professionally made cake for fil and a shitty little morrison's one for dh.
Am I being UR to think this is really unkind?
honeyroar · 20/06/2015 21:31
Going off the MIL and cake thread, it seems some people have very possessive feelings over providing their close family's cake. Perhaps she thought she'd be stepping on your toes if she got one for him and just bought the other one in case you hadn't organised anything.
Personally I'd have had a chat with her about cakes before the event, asking what could be done for a cake for your husband and whether she could order you one.
BaggageClaim · 20/06/2015 21:31
I think she thought it was up to you to organise the cake for your DH and at the last minute when she realised you hadn't arranged anything she dashed out and bought one.
I am speaking from experience of being in a very similar situation some years ago. The day before a family gathering I found out I was expected to provide a cake. I was also not living in the town of the party but the responsibility was apparently mine. I managed to find something adequate in the 24 hours.
I think that is the issue here. She is probably not understanding why you didn't make arrangements for a cake.
NorahDentressangle · 20/06/2015 21:35
If you only get together for 'important' birthdays you've 10 years until the next.
I like to look at professional cakes but they are so sugary as to be inedible, and Morrison's would look ridiculous beside it. But if DH doesn't care not worth worrying about.
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