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AIBU?

For mil to present fil with professionally made cake and dh with a shitty supermarket one

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answersonapostcardplease · 20/06/2015 21:12

Dh have come to visit pil for dh's 40th and fil's 70th, its also father's day on sunday (as you'll be aware)

Its a flight away with 4 dcs in toe and expensive, so an effort.

Mil called everyone to the dining room for cakes, blowing out candles. On the table is a massive professionally made cake for fil and a shitty little morrison's one for dh.

Am I being UR to think this is really unkind?

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WorraLiberty · 20/06/2015 23:40

Blimey

I've just had a whole lorry load of fucks delivered and yet I still cant find one to give in this situation.

Chill - it's a cake.

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SunnyBaudelaire · 20/06/2015 23:42

its a cake fgs.
some of us have family who could not even be arsed with a morrisons cake , you do realise that?

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SilverBirchWithout · 20/06/2015 23:42

I've just had a whole lorry load of fucks delivered and yet I still cant find one to give in this situation.

Best phrase I've read all week on MN

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TheGoodGoodOldDays · 21/06/2015 00:30

Worra perfect.

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Summerisle1 · 21/06/2015 00:42

I've just had a whole lorry load of fucks delivered and yet I still cant find one to give in this situation.

Couldn't put it better.

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ladymariner · 21/06/2015 00:45

worra that's brilliant!

Op, grow up, yabu

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ShelaghTurner · 21/06/2015 01:00

Worra

Can't see any problem. And 70 is the big birthday, 40 is a bit of a non event really. I'd prioritise the 70th birthday every time.

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Topseyt · 21/06/2015 01:03

With Worra there.

There seems to be a theme on here tonight with family feuds erupting over birthday cakes. This isn't the only thread. It is daft.

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Topseyt · 21/06/2015 01:14

Oh, and for many of us supermarket birthday cakes have been a godsend. I would be careful about publicly denouncing them as shitty. I have enjoyed them, as have my DH and my children.

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Smellyoulateralligator · 21/06/2015 01:32

I love cake, it's a wonderful thing and should invoke love and peace and not drama.

Honestly I don't want to let it go. I don't want to cause upset but I want to tell Mil hiw shit her behaviour is once again

It sounds like you do want to cause upset, otherwise you'd let it go as it's not a big deal at all. Why didn't you order a cake for your husband yourself?

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ApocalypseThen · 21/06/2015 02:37

When you say that her behaviour is bad, are her other crimes of this magnitude?

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KoalaDownUnder · 21/06/2015 02:54

YABU.

Seriously, you have your whole family there trying to enjoy themselves, and you want to carry on over a cake??

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pinkyredrose · 21/06/2015 06:34

So are you getting FIL a shitty morrisons cake on DH birthday? You know, to make it equal? Otherwise DH will have had 2 cakes and FIL 1, wouldn't be fair now would it.

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MythicalKings · 21/06/2015 06:45

YABVU. It's a special birthday for FiL.

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Out2pasture · 21/06/2015 06:45

is it possible she thought there would not be enough of the one cake and purchase a quick ready made second one just in case. and yes then presented it as a his and his. probably not meant to slight your hubby.

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Panzee · 21/06/2015 06:49

What did the police say?

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NoahVale · 21/06/2015 06:59

i wouldnt say 70 is mroe important than 40
but it is his actual birthday,
not your DH's.
the event is for the 70th
perhaps she thougth the dcs would prefer the shop cake

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Anon4Now2015 · 21/06/2015 07:00

How about looking at it a different way...... You went to visit ILs for FIL's 70th birthday. And - despite it not actually being his birthday - MIL got DH a little cake too because his birthday is coming up. Isn't that sweet of her?

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mrssmith79 · 21/06/2015 07:06

Cake's cake. YABU. And whether MiL has form for being shitty or not is a red herring here - you're being petty.

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Pagwatch · 21/06/2015 07:07

Your mil bought a big cake for year husband on his 70th. As your DH is visiting she also got him a cake.

It's not a snub it's a gift. You are on the cusp of being incredibly petty - step away.

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wigglesrock · 21/06/2015 07:15

Oh for the love of God, are you looking to borrow trouble? I'm just not getting the issue at all. All my family's birthdays come in a few days/weeks of each other (my sister, both my parents, mine and one of my kids), theres usually 2 cakes of different price range/quality etc on the go for most weekends in June - no one has ever huffed/felt inferior, even rolled their eyes and my family can usually find offence in an empty room.

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Whatamuckingfuddle · 21/06/2015 07:32

On the surface it sounds like YABU, but I suspect more background would explain why, but I do agree with the earlier P who suggested picking your battles

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