For mil to present fil with professionally made cake and dh with a shitty supermarket one

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Dh have come to visit pil for dh's 40th and fil's 70th, its also father's day on sunday (as you'll be aware)

Its a flight away with 4 dcs in toe and expensive, so an effort.

Mil called everyone to the dining room for cakes, blowing out candles. On the table is a massive professionally made cake for fil and a shitty little morrison's one for dh.

Am I being UR to think this is really unkind?

Ahhh, teddy bear vagina cake, a personal Daily Fail sad face favourite.

I read the op as being they had flown out at MIL's bequest to celebrate a joint birthday, implying a joint party. In that circumstance I would be expecting her to sort cake as she is hosting party, and calling it a joint celebration means equal importance, so her arranging fuck off cake for FiL and an afterthought for DH does seem a bit pointed to me. What's the back story?

Maybe. I just found " I think the fact that she still likes her husband after over 40 years of marriage is very nice and I'd focus on that if I was you." A really strange reply given that the op is about birthdays not anniversaries. And is it normal to dislike your oh after 40y?

I've been married 26 years and he is getting quite annoying.

On the face of it I think it's a bit weird. DH doesn't need a cake at all (because it isn't his birthday yet) so getting one which looks so meagre by comparison is a bit of an odd statement.

No cake = not his birthday = fine.

Equally amazing cake = celebrating equally loved birthday albeit early.

Afterthought cake = neither one nor the other = not friendly.

If she has form...

So on one thread it was wrong for the MIL to make a cake at all- on this thread it was wrong for the MIL to get a cake of inferior quality she should of provided one of equal grandeur .Could someone please point me to the rules and regulations of MIL cake making so I don't get it wrong. :)

31 years married here, DH counts himself lucky to receive a packet of bourbons

Erm she bought her dh a birthday cake which was professionally made and her son a standand one.

I would do that too if I was the mil as I wouldn't want to upstage a cake provided by his wife

I think you are massively unreasonable. She will know you have got him one for his actual birthday

You sound like dil from hell

Obviously you're being unreasonable, or did you bring fil a lovely professionally made cake for him?

I don't like shop bought cake though tbh.

My exMIL refused to celebrate FIL 70th in march because their ruby wedding anniversary in august was more of achievement.