To get really pissed off with old ladies telling me my DS 'isn't very happy' when he is crying?

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My 9 month old DS has 'a good pair of lungs', he is also a bit of a drama queen and likes everyone to know how he's feeling, good or bad. I'm not worried by this, or being paranoid, a friend has described him as like an air raid siren going off!

I'm used to this and he rarely has a meltdown when we are out and about but today he was teething badly and I was in town about half an hour before he could have any medication. An old dear looked at him and then me and told me that he wasn't very happy. Really? Do you think I haven't noticed? Just bugger off.

Lots of older people with health problems, look after other older people with even more health problems. And society rarely recognises their contribution or struggles.
Our society focuses on the young, and young people's issues.

Where did you copy and paste that from Falls? Besides, I thought I alluded to the fact, in a previous post, that nothing you say is of interest to me.

Right-o, I'm off to watch The Exotic Marigold Hotel, in between bouts of vomiting...

I seem to have noticed derogatory comments from purdiepie about older people elsewhere on the site.

The fact that you cook for them is neither here nor there.

" than the odd septuagenarian who failed to land a job in B&Q and so takes it out on harried mothers in Tesco."

By making a friendly remark about their baby..........

I seem to have noticed derogatory comments from purdiepie about older people elsewhere on the site.

And feminists. I'm a regular on FWR and I think purdie's dislike of feminists had spilled over and been directed at me on this thread, so I will bow out.

The best to you, OP. Again I appreciate your willingness to listen.

If the baby is a drama queen then my guess is he gets it from you. People say things like that all the time. It's called being conversational. Get over it. Yes you are being very unreasonable.

Miss dee - RTFT!

Try to stop looking for the negative. Babies cry, the elderly lady's babies cried, and she was just trying to be sympathetic. My mum says she always tries to give a sympathetic smile to mums with crying babies, as my little brother was a bit miserable when he was a baby. I'd hate to think that people are sneering at her, or telling her to bugger off. Generally I think people are kind.

The 's/he must be tired / hungry / want to g home' comments are definitely annoying, OP. Those kinds of comments always make me clench a little too and worry that the person is judging me. And it's ALWAYS older women who make these comments. Possibly trying to help but because they are older it feels as if they are criticizing me because that's how my DM and MIL are towards me.

Best comment I ever had that really cheered me up was from this young surfer dude standing behind me in line at the local vehicle registration office - my Ds, then about 18 months was screaming his head off and I couldn't leave as I had to keep my place in line. I felt so self-conscious but this young guy said to me 'hey we all feel the same way, he's just saying what we all think'. It made me laugh and relieved the tension with everyone else in the queue. So humor can always help!

Somehow I have a feeling that if one of us old dears had made the same remark as the young surfer dude -- well, might not have been received in the same spirit or had the same effect! I mean, everyone loves a young surfer dude. That's a whole different thing! But I could be wrong; after all, I'm old.

Lala, good point.

Love the way that this thread gets very heated, ranges all over the place, and yet people can still manage to read OP and make a comment! Do they not think that it might have moved on in 2 days or that OP might have apologised?

Or maybe I spoke too soon. Surely "surfer dude" post was a parody/satirizing ageist posters.

A bit tricky if you are an elderly surfer dude! I'm sure surfers don't stop at a certain age.

I was told only the other day that many resorts had stopped giving reduced price ski lift passes to the over 65s because there were far too many of them! Surfers are probably similar.

Once when my baby was crying on a bus, a twenty-something man commented very loudly that parents shouldn't take their babies out if they couldn't controll them.
I didn't think 'What's wrong with twenty-something men?', I thought, 'What a knobhead'.

Actually, I do know some mature surfer dudes. Poster who brought up surfer dudes specified a "young" one.

I've enjoyed this as much as I can stand today.

These days people are in Nursing homes because they need intensive nursing purdiepie-not just because they are elderly. They tend to be doubly incontinent, confused and immobile.
Your post about not needing fucking nursing homes if people cared about the elderly is like saying we wouldn't need hospitals if people cared about the sick.

And it's ALWAYS older women who make these comments. Possibly trying to help but because they are older it feels as if they are criticizing me

So you don't object to the comments? You only object because it's an older woman making them?

"Because they are older it feels like they are criticising me"-I rest my case-it is more about your interpretation than what is actually said.

have rtft would just like to say that i'm a mum of 2 including a young baby and i love having conversations with strangers, it brightens my day as i don't get much adult interaction so please don't feel it's all mothers who feel this way about comments, it's horrible when you feel invisible.

Yes, it is, drudge - that's exactly what I'm saying. To me I hear implied criticism from older women but that might not be their intention at all.